533-All Your "Godly" Accomplishments Are Nothing?
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All Your "Godly" Accomplishments Are Nothing? What if you could “win” in every area of life… and still lose the things that matter most? Because according to Jesus, success isn’t measured by productivity, influence, money, ministry titles, or getting more done than everyone else. It’s measured by love. “Love is patient and kind…” (1 Corinthians 13) That means our marriages matter. Our tone matters. The atmosphere in our home matters. The way we treat our spouse and children matters. This episode is for driven husbands (and honestly, anyone with a high-achieving...
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532-From Tolerating to Delighting: Marriage Transformation Is Possible (feat. Gary Thomas & Belah Rose)
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From Tolerating to Delighting: Marriage Transformation Is Possible (feat. Gary Thomas & Belah Rose) Imagine this: Your husband is working nights and you are cleaning houses during the day. When you find out you are pregnant, you pursue a dream of writing a book. Every morning you walk to the coffee shop just down the street to write. One of your favorite things to do is listen to books about marriage. One of your favorite books on the topic is written by Gary Thomas. In his book, Sacred Marriage, he asks, "What if marriage is meant to make us holy instead...
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531-Do We Call What is Holy "Sin" (and What is Sin "Holy")
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Do We Call What is Holy "Sin" (and What is Sin "Holy") When I was first a believer, I had a very strong view of what was right and what was wrong. I had a sense that anything I was uncomfortable with was definitely wrong. After a lot of of life…and sadly time away from Jesus…and God healing and redeeming my journey, I’ve come to realize that there are things I am uncomfortable with, but are not necessarily sin. And there are things I am comfortable with that aren't sin necessarily. -- Quote from a recent graduate: The program is great! I love the focus on self-growth, personal...
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530-Zero Intimacy for Almost a Decade, Husband & Wife Share Their Miracle
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Zero Intimacy for Almost a Decade, Husband & Wife Share Their Miracle Ten years of no physical intimacy. That is where husband & wife, Jim & Willa, found themselves. For 38 years of marriage, Willa described her husband as a "my way or the highway" kind of guy. And up until recently, Jim felt so frustrated and angry in his marriage that he wanted to leave. They were sleeping in separate bedrooms, had busy lives, he left before she woke up just to avoid her most days. Jim shared they literally hadn’t touched in years. -- Quote from a recent graduate: "Week by week in this...
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529-Driven? But Fulfilled? Interview with Brad Rhoads
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You might be one who can work all day and feel great. And maybe you struggle to take a vacation. Maybe if you're really honest with yourself, you think productivity is next to godliness. If you're like Brad and I -- that's us nodding our heads. We're just wired that way. That's not the end of the story... But Brad had a mentor that wouldn't let go of him until he could see that drivenness is ruining his life. Not the fact that he is driven (Brad didn't give that up), but the fact that he felt he wasn't enough unless he achieved X, Y, and Z. Brad's marriage...
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528-Good Friday: The way you treat your spouse reveals what you really believe
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Today marks the day that God stooped so low to live a perfect life and die a gruesome sinner's death -- to save you. And save me. Why? Not because we were perfect. Not because we could earn His love. Who could earn that? But because He decided we were worth it. We aren't deserving of His sacrifice because we're so great -- it's because HE'S so great. He's so good, kind, and gracious that He decided we were priceless to come and rescue. And if you are priceless -- a prized treasure Jesus came to save... Is your spouse? If the answer is yes... Are you...
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527-If Your Wife Puts the Kids First, This Is the Leadership Problem You Need to Fix
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Become the man your wife respects and desires again—before prices increase -------------------------------------------- I'm speaking to a man who wants to fix things. He is not a whiner, complainer, or blamer. He's interested in taking responsibility and making things better. But if he's really honest with himself, sometimes he feels that his wife prioritizes the kids above him. If you're in that category, I'd like to speak to you directly. You're right, it's not ok. This isn't a good dynamic. And if she's a Jesus-follower, it's also not biblical. Ok. ...
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526-How to Get Her In the Mood (& Turn Her On) [Re-Release]
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526-How to Get Her In the Mood (& Turn Her On) [Re-Release] I think all the wives will want their husbands to listen to this one. Because I have the good fortune of working with men every (work) day and hearing their unfiltered thoughts about intimacy… I can help you understand why your wife often rejects you. One of the major truths is that it’s SCARY to initiate sex with your wife. So, you probably do… But in general, it’s a half-invested way, in hopes that her rejection won’t feel so painful. Because from experience it has been rejected, even your...
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525-Simple Ways to Have Intimacy More Often
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[Belah here - AI was not used to draft or write this description] As silly as it may seem, something as sacred and biblical as marital intimacy comes right down to the practical of "hey, it's just too quiet in the house for intimacy". So, how do you solve for the biggest reasons a couple doesn't connect in this God-honoring way? Well, that's what today's conversation is all about. In this episode, we do a lot less philosophy and theology and get into the specific tools that can help you no matter how busy your life is right now. Even if other things...
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524-A Pastor Didn’t Expect Marriage Help to Come This Way
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[Belah here - AI was not used to draft or write this description] Sometimes I have been asked if I, as a woman, should be teaching men. When it comes up, I really appreciate that question because it shows a level of maturity and commitment to scripture. The truth is, I never intended to be coaching or training men. That, in fact, is something I was against, at first. I intended to just follow Titus 2 by inviting women to learn to love their husbands well. As I wrote the book and started the podcast and coaching women with this end in mind, men started reaching out to me. It was...
info_outlineAll Your "Godly" Accomplishments Are Nothing?
What if you could “win” in every area of life… and still lose the things that matter most?
Because according to Jesus, success isn’t measured by productivity, influence, money, ministry titles, or getting more done than everyone else.
It’s measured by love.
“Love is patient and kind…” (1 Corinthians 13)
That means our marriages matter.
Our tone matters.
The atmosphere in our home matters.
The way we treat our spouse and children matters.
This episode is for driven husbands (and honestly, anyone with a high-achieving personality) who may be unintentionally sacrificing tenderness, emotional safety, and connection on the altar of accomplishment.
You do not have to keep living rushed, impatient, emotionally disconnected, or spiritually distracted.
Jesus can teach you another way.
A slower way.
A gentler way.
A truly strong way.
And it may be the very thing your marriage and family are longing for most.
(Used AI to draft shownotes from Belah's show.)
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PPS - Here is a quote from a recent Coaching program graduate:
I came into the program scoring very low in our marital health. I was very discouraged... This was leading me to moments of intense anguish, embarrassment, anger and a quiet desperation.
Joining DYM has given me space to process how we got to this place in our marriage. I have a lot of insight into how we got to where we were...I have hope where I didn't have hope. We are now a 7 or so in our marital health. I feel much less embarrassed, and far more content in our marriage than I did when we began.