What You Repeat Is What You Reinforce (And Why That Matters Right Now)
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If you've been feeling like you need someone to flip on a light switch in a dark room right about now, this episode is for you. And listen, I get it—February can be rough. All that January enthusiasm starts to fade, the Midwest winter is doing its thing (where did the sun go?), and suddenly that phone in your hand feels less like a tool and more like a stain you can't get out of your clothes (or out of your hand). So today, I'm offering what we all need: a little bit of hope. This is a cozy solo cast that's a deep dive into what I'm learning in real-time about habits and what they...
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Self-Compassion, Fertility, and Trusting Your Body Again
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If you’re a capable, driven woman who’s doing everything “right” — and still feeling exhausted, stuck, or quietly blaming your body — this episode is for you. In this deeply meaningful conversation, I sit down with Dr. Erica Bove, double board certified physician, fertility specialist, and founder of Love & Science Fertility, to talk about what happens when high-achieving women bring the same hustle-and-push mindset into their bodies… and why fertility, healing, and clarity ask for something different. We explore how self-compassion, nervous system regulation, and trust...
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Sustainable Self-Care: A Better Way to Actually Feel Better
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Hello friends—welcome back to Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs, the cozy corner of the internet where we let our tender, imperfect selves exist. This week we’re talking about sustainable self-care—not the kind that turns into a color-coded assignment, but the kind that actually supports you in real life. I’m sharing two simple processes you can use anytime (even if you’re burnt out, busy, or running on the last 3% of your battery). Plus: a few examples to help you rethink what “self-care” can look like when it’s truly working. In this episode, we explore: What makes self-care...
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Planting Good Seeds (A Gentle Start to 2026)
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Hello hello — I'm Danielle Ireland, and you’re catching an episode of Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs, the cozy corner of the internet where we answer the timeless question: Do I really want bangs… or do I just need to talk about my feelings? (Spoiler: it’s often the feelings. And also sometimes bangs. We can be multidimensional.) In today’s episode, we’re talking about planting good seeds — not the aggressive “new year, new you, fix your entire personality by Tuesday” energy, but the soft, intentional, nervous-system-friendly kind of reset. Because if January were in...
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Reimagining January: Reflection Over Reinvention
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Reimagining January: Reflection, Creativity, and the Messy Middle Happy New Year — and welcome to the very first episode of Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs in 2026. If you’re feeling a little tender, tired, hopeful, unsure, or all of the above… you’re in exactly the right place. This episode is not about reinvention. It’s about reflection and reimagining. In this solo conversation, I’m sharing why I believe the beginning of a new year isn’t meant for pressure, perfection, or becoming a brand-new person overnight. Instead, it’s a powerful opportunity to pause, look back with honesty,...
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Finding Joy in Uncertainty (Best Lessons of the Year Finale)
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Today’s episode is the final part of our Best Lessons of the Year series, and it’s dedicated to the part of you that’s exhausted trying to figure it all out… because some seasons don’t come with clean answers (rude). In this episode, we talk about surrendering the outcome—not in a giving up kind of way, but in a coming back to life as it is kind of way. You’ll hear a powerful perspective from Dr. Tasha Faruqui on living in the gray when even science doesn’t have the answers. And then I’ll walk you through practical “anchors for your energy”—small, doable supports...
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Why You’re So Tired — And What Actually Helps
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If you’ve ever ended the day completely wiped out and thought, “Why am I this tired? I didn’t even do anything that big…” — hi. Same. And this episode is for you. In Week 4 of our Best Lessons of the Year countdown, we’re revisiting two of my favorite conversations because they speak to a very real modern experience: carrying a thousand invisible things… and then wondering why your nervous system feels like it’s running a marathon in jeans. First, we dip back into my Solo Cast on the invisible mental load — that constant background hum of remembering, planning, worrying,...
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When Winning Means Losing & Wonder Brings You Back: Highlights with Eli Martinez
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Hello, hello! In this week’s “Best Lessons of the Year” recap, we’re diving into two surprisingly connected themes: How easy it is to lose ourselves in conflict How possible it is to find ourselves in nature We start with a clip from my solo cast, Winning Isn’t Everything, where I break down what really happens when our nervous system floods and suddenly our partner becomes… the enemy. (Yes, even if 10 minutes ago they were our favorite person.) Then we shift into wide-open wonder with adventurer and wildlife guide Eli Martinez, who reminds us that reconnecting with the natural...
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When Learning Gets Messy & “No” Sets You Free — Best Lessons of the Year: Week 2
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Welcome back to The Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs Countdown: Best Lessons of the Year — your cozy December rewind of the conversations that cracked me open, cracked me up, or came back to whisper, “Hey… you needed to hear that again.” This week we’re celebrating two big themes we ALL lived through this year: 1. Learning in real time (aka: The Messy Middle) 2. The courage to say a brave, wholehearted “No” You’ll hear moments from my solo cast on “Tech Sweats” (yes, the kind where you curse at software and question your entire identity), plus one of my favorite conversations of...
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When Frustration Speaks and Magic Answers: Best Of Week 1
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Welcome to The Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs Countdown: Best Lessons of the Year — a special December series celebrating the moments, conversations, and insights that stayed with us long after the episodes ended. This week’s theme: Frustration… and Magic. We’re kicking things off with highlights from my solocast What Is Your Frustration Telling You? — an episode where we explored frustration not as a problem, but as information. As a whisper. As guidance disguised as discomfort. A favorite moment from the solocast: “Your emotions aren’t roadblocks. They’re signposts pointing to...
info_outlineHello hello — I'm Danielle Ireland, and you’re catching an episode of Don’t Cut Your Own Bangs, the cozy corner of the internet where we answer the timeless question: Do I really want bangs… or do I just need to talk about my feelings? (Spoiler: it’s often the feelings. And also sometimes bangs. We can be multidimensional.)
In today’s episode, we’re talking about planting good seeds — not the aggressive “new year, new you, fix your entire personality by Tuesday” energy, but the soft, intentional, nervous-system-friendly kind of reset.
Because if January were in charge of its own PR? It would be branded as recovery + reflection + gentle reorientation, not a monthly audition for your worthiness.
We use a seed metaphor (because nature gets it), talk about rest as a generative space, and explore why the opposite of anxiety isn’t necessarily calm… it might actually be creativity. I also share a very humbling moment at acupuncture where my body had a lot to say and I hadn't been listening.
In this episode, we talk about:
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Why the beginning of the year is a great time to set intentions, not punish yourself with “perfect”
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Rest as resistance (and why your body is not a machine)
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The surprising idea: the opposite of anxiety is creativity
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Micro-rest: how to make space for yourself even in a busy life
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The 4 questions that can reveal where you’ve lost your spark:
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When did you stop dancing?
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When did you stop singing?
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When did you stop feeling enchanted by stories?
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When did you stop sitting in stillness?
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How breadcrumbs (like a screenshot of a dance class) can lead you back to yourself
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A gentle reminder: you are the expert in you — advice is useful, but you’re not required to outsource your inner knowing
A couple quotes from the episode:
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“Plant the seed… and then leave it alone. Give it the space and grace it needs to thrive.”
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“Rest is a generative space. There is information for your healing in the dream space.”
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“The opposite of anxiety is not calm — it’s creativity.”
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“Knowing something and doing something are not the same.” (…my acupuncture appointment would like to cosign this.)
Gentle invitation for the week:
Pick one small “good seed” to plant — a tiny act of rest, wonder, play, or creativity — and let it be enough.
Links + Resources Mentioned:
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The Nap Ministry: https://thenapministry.wordpress.com/
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Martha Beck: https://marthabeck.com
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YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@DontCutYourOwnBangs
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Website: https://danielleireland.com/
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Children’s Book: https://danielleireland.com/wrestling-a-walrus
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The Treasured Journal: https://danielleireland.com/journal
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Substack: https://danielleireland.substack.com/
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TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dontcutyourownbangspod?_t=ZP-8yFHmVNPKtq&_r=1
Want to talk to me directly?
Email me at danielle@danielleireland.com and put “bangs” in the subject line — questions, stories, topics you want on the pod… I’m in. And yes, I really will respond.
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