753. Stop Waiting For Someone To Save You

I wanted to share something different today — something that’s been coming up a lot in my conversations with women lately and honestly, in my own life too. It’s this idea that we’re waiting for someone to come save us. Waiting for the magic fix, the person, the event, the miracle that changes everything. But the truth is — no one’s coming. The person who saves you is you.

For so long, I didn’t talk about the hard parts of my story — the trauma, the abuse, the pain — because I didn’t want that to be what people saw when they looked at me. I didn’t want to be “that girl.” But I’ve realized that silence was another trauma response. Sharing these stories isn’t about staying stuck in them; it’s about showing what healing can look like on the other side.

I used to believe if I just worked harder, loved harder, stayed positive, things would get better. That’s what we’re taught, right? Be good, do good, and good things happen. But when you’ve lived through trauma — when the people who were supposed to protect you didn’t — you internalize this belief that if you can just hold on long enough, someone will finally see your pain and come fix it.

When my husband was arrested for domestic violence, I remember sitting on the kitchen floor, shaking, completely frozen, and realizing… there’s no one coming. I had to figure it out — how to get a protection order, how to start over, how to rebuild from nothing. It was terrifying and lonely. But that’s the moment I got in the driver’s seat of my own life.

That’s the thing about trauma: it trains you to look outward for safety instead of inward. You might find yourself waiting for the right partner, the right job, the right body, or the right doctor to “save” you. But no one can do the work for you. You have to take that first step, even when it feels impossible.

I see this all the time with the women I work with. They’ve been dismissed, gaslit, told their symptoms are “all in their head.” They come to me scared to even look at their test results because they’ve been conditioned to believe their pain isn’t real. And then when we go through their Dutch hormone test together and they see, yes, something’s actually off — it’s so validating. You can see the relief wash over them. That’s what I love about this work. It’s not me saving them — it’s me helping them get back in the driver’s seat. Helping them take back control.

And that’s exactly what the 12-Week Female Hormone Solution is all about. It’s not a quick fix or a “magic wand” — it’s a guided process to help you understand your body, your hormones, and your patterns so you can stop waiting for someone else to fix you. You get the tools, the knowledge, and the support to start saving yourself.

If you’ve been listening and thinking, “That’s me. I’m stuck waiting for someone to rescue me,” this is your sign. Get on the waitlist for the 12-Week Female Hormone Solution. It’s where we start shifting from waiting to acting, from surviving to thriving. You’ll learn how to work with your body instead of fighting against it — and I promise, that’s when everything changes.

Because once you realize no one’s coming to save you, you stop waiting and start living. You become the person who shows up for yourself every single day. You become the hero of your own story.

You are the one who saves you.

Learn more: https://drbethwestie.com/waitlist/