333: 5 Lessons from the Courtroom that Apply to Your Life and Help You Win
The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
Release Date: 09/04/2025
343: Speak Up with Judge Rosemarie Aquilina
The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
In today’s episode, Heather Hansen sits down with her good friend and returning guest, Judge Rosemarie Aquilina, Michigan judge, author, and trailblazer best known for presiding over the Larry Nassar USA Gymnastics case. Together, they dive into Judge Aquilina’s newest book, Speak Up: Lessons in Trusting Your Instincts, and unpack what it truly means to embrace your voice, conquer fear, and stand in your self-worth. Drawing from her decades on the bench, her time in the military, and her role as a mentor for women, Rosemarie shares how we can turn fear into fuel, failure into wisdom, and...
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342: The Secret Formula to Being a Successful Negotiator-Ambition + Empathy with John Lowry
The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
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341: Designing Your Home and Your Life. How to Use Design Principles to Get What You Want
The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
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340: How to Advocate for Yourself at Work. Step 3-Master the Ask
The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
In today’s episode, Heather wraps up her three-part series on how to advocate for yourself at work and this one’s all about the magic moment: mastering the art of the ask. If you’ve ever hesitated to ask for what you want because you weren’t sure how to do it gracefully, persuasively, or confidently, this episode is for you. Heather breaks down what true charisma really means (it’s not about being flashy or loud!) and how you can use empathy, storytelling, and the right tone to inspire others to say yes. With powerful stories, evidence-based research, and step-by-step guidance,...
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The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
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The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
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The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
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336: 3 Keys to Advocating Without Bragging
The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
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335: How to Teach and How to Learn with Dr Christie McMullen
The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
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334: How to Transform Stress to Work for You with Dr Rebecca Heiss
The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
n today’s episode, Heather speaks with Rebecca Heiss, evolutionary biologist, speaker, and author of Springboard: Transform Stress to Work for You. Rebecca shares her groundbreaking perspective on stress, not as something to eliminate, but as a force you can reframe and harness. With her Fearless Stress Formula, she teaches how to stop fighting stress and instead use it as fuel for growth, resilience, and meaning. Rebecca’s journey spans science, entrepreneurship, and personal challenge from founding an ice cream company to leading discomfort challenges and building communities. Together,...
info_outlineHeather Hansen takes us back to her two decades as a trial attorney and reveals the surprising ways courtroom wisdom can shape your life and career. From the first day she stepped into court, Heather realized it wasn’t just a place of law; it was a classroom of leadership, persuasion, influence, and resilience.
In this episode, Heather shares five powerful lessons from the courtroom that apply far beyond the legal world. Whether you’re navigating career growth, relationships, or leadership challenges, these insights will help you see “the jury” in your life more clearly and make choices that lead to real wins.
If you’ve ever struggled with setbacks, conflict, or defining success on your own terms, this conversation will inspire you to see every challenge as an opportunity to collect and create evidence of your growth.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
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Why everyone has a “jury” in life and how to win them over
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The importance of truly knowing your jury before trying to persuade them
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Why confusion, not people, should be treated as the real enemy
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The tough-love truth: if you’re not losing, you’re not trying
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How to redefine what it means to “win” in your life and career
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Episode Timestamps
[00:00] Heather introduces the idea of lessons from the courtroom
[01:00] Lesson 1: Everyone has a jury
[03:00] Lesson 2: Know your jury
[07:30] Lesson 3: Confusion is the enemy
[10:15] Lesson 4: If you’re not losing, you’re not trying
[14:45] Lesson 5: You get to define a win
[17:00] How to apply courtroom lessons to everyday life
✨ Quote of the Episode
"If you’re not losing, you’re not trying. Losing is evidence that you’re willing to bet on yourself and take risks with pride." – Heather Hansen
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