The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen

This is the Elegant Warrior Podcast. It's a podcast about elegance and all of its forms. We're talking about our definitions of elegance and how we maintain it in times of trial. We're also talking about how we can advocate for ourselves with elegance and in a way that makes us most likely to win. I'm your host, Heather Hansen, author, speaker, consultant, trainer, and self-advocacy expert. Let's talk Elegance!

302: With Delight or Not At All 07/22/2024

301: Dr. Darnyelle Jervey Harmon 07/15/2024

300: Belief Building Basics 07/08/2024

299: How to Be Fearlessly Authentic 07/01/2024

298: 3 Blocks to Confidence and How to Overcome Them 06/24/2024

297: Hypnosis Overview with Barry Beder 06/17/2024

296: How to Believe in Money 06/10/2024

295: How to Listen with Christine Miles 06/03/2024

294: Choices and Changes 05/27/2024

293: How to Decide with Paul Epstein 05/22/2024

292: How to Use Your Tone of Voice to Win 05/15/2024

291: How to Quiet the Noise with Bridget Burrick Brown 05/08/2024

290: Give Up Control to Gain Power 05/01/2024

289: How to Be Yourself with Tara Stiles 04/24/2024

288: How to Say “No” 04/17/2024

287: How to Be Seen with Amy Kemp 04/10/2024

286: How to Ask a Question with Shanin Specter 04/03/2024

285: How To Master Difficult Conversations 03/27/2024

284: Advocating for a Modern Body, Modern Life with Courtney Gray 03/20/2024

283: Advocating for Your Financial Freedom with Anne Lester 03/13/2024

282: How to Trust Your Breath with Stacy Fritz 03/06/2024

281: Choose a New Identity-Danielle Sunberg 02/28/2024

280: Unveiling Radical Humility with Urs Koenig - A Deep Dive into Modern Leadership 02/21/2024

279: The CURE for Complacency 02/14/2024

278: The 3Es of an Advocate 02/07/2024

277: Three Steps to Ask for What You Want and Get It 01/31/2024

277: Three Steps to Ask for What You Want and Get It Advocating is overcoming doubts and building beliefs. Ultimately, it’s the ability to ask for what you want and get it, over and over again. After 25 years of studying the art of advocacy, Heather Hansen has identified three simple steps to ask for what you want and get it. 1-Know what you want. 2-Ask for it, out loud and with delight. 3-Master the art of the ask. In this episode, you’ll learn the specifics of all three steps. And you’ll walk away with the ability to ask for what you want–and get it. If you want help with these 3 steps, you can get free access to the exercises that will help you to see other perspectives. The ability to do so will help you with all 3 steps. And if you want to own the magic of these three steps, you could join The Self Advocacy School. The opportunity to be a Founding Member will be over at the end of February, so this is your chance to get what you want, over and over again And now, in this episode you’ll learn more about: Advocacy and knowing what you want. (0:02) the definitions of advocacy Advocating is about asking for what you want and getting it, whether in personal or professional settings. How being unsure of what you want leads to paralysis and a lack of clarity in career or personal goals. Heather’s personal growth and career development. (4:30) Heather’s experience of transitioning from trial attorney to coach, highlighting the importance of practicing and being willing to make mistakes in discovering one's true desires. Finding and asking for what you want in life. (7:49) The difference between “leaping” and “creeping” to what you want. How Heather crept into her new career by experimenting with different roles while still maintaining her full-time job as an attorney. The importance of asking for what you want directly and with delight, rather than relying on manifesting or giving what you want to receive. Recognize the common mistake of trying to prove oneself by doing extra work, rather than simply asking for what you want. The importance of asking with delight. (12:27) Ask with delight to increase the likelihood of getting what you want. Advocacy skills for personal and professional growth. (15:58) Understand the importance of mastering the art of the ask, which involves understanding and addressing the needs and perspectives of one's jury. Reception skills are key to advocacy, as they involve listening and figuring out what the “jury” wants and needs, and then speaking to that perspective in a way that changes their beliefs. Join The Self Advocacy School before February 14th to become a founding member: Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: Follow Heather on Instagram: Website: /episode/index/show/elegantwarrior/id/29717558

276: How to Advocate-How to Build Belief With Evidence 01/24/2024

275: Leading, Selling and Serving While Advocating 01/17/2024

275: Leading, Selling and Serving While Advocating In this episode, Heather shares why we must all think of ourselves as advocates. She explains that leading, selling and serving are really advocating. Advocating is building belief, and when you learn to do it well-you win. You’ll hear about: Advocacy in various contexts. Recognize the importance of advocacy in various contexts, including supporting TV shows, selling broccoli to children, and serving clients in the courtroom. Advocacy involves leading and selling, creating a customer experience, and providing evidence and stories to influence decisions. How to provide a positive experience by being aware of the needs of those you serve, while also remembering that those needs change. Advocacy, leading, selling, and creating experiences. Learn the importance of advocating, leading, selling, and creating an experience for others, highlighting the interconnectedness of these concepts. Advocating is a crucial aspect of these processes, as it involves serving and providing value to others to the point where they become advocates for you. When Heather turned jurors into advocates in the courtroom and got a mistrial. Jurors were evenly divided, with some advocating for the patient and others for the attorney, leading to a mistrial. Advocacy in business, leadership, and customer experience. How you can turn people into advocates by teaching them how to effectively advocate for you. The three steps to advocating are knowing what you want, asking for it with delight, and mastering the art of the ask. Appreciating the importance of storytelling and advocacy in business. Mastering the art of persuasion through empathy and understanding. Learn about the importance of seeing things from the perspective of the person you want to influence, whether it's one person or many. Mastering the art of the Ask involves understanding and communicating from different perspectives to effectively advocate for change. Learn how to build belief in yourself and others to turn them into advocates. Advocacy skills and emotional connection. Heather describes a powerful experience with a juror who became an advocate, believing in their case and making them feel seen and heard. Information on how to share the podcast and join their self-advocacy school, offering exclusive resources for founding members. Join The Self Advocacy School before February 14th to become a founding member: Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: Follow Heather on Instagram: Website: /episode/index/show/elegantwarrior/id/29515233

274: How to Advocate-the Basics of Overcoming Doubt, Building Belief and Turning Evidence into Proof 01/10/2024

274: How to Advocate-the Basics of Overcoming Doubt, Building Belief and Turning Evidence into Proof This is a new season of The Elegant Warrior, and it’s called How to Advocate. No matter what you want this year–better health, more money, better relationships–you will have to advocate to get it. You’ll need to advocate for more time, more resources, more money, better boundaries, and more help. In this episode, you’ll learn the tools to begin. But before we begin, it’s important to remember that one of the biggest tools of an advocate is perspective. When you communicate, you share perspectives. When you advocate, you change them. So I created 3 exercises to help you get better at seeing other perspectives. You can access that here Whether you’re a leader, in sales or just starting your career, you need to learn to advocate. In this episode, Heather Hansen teaches you How to use Advocacy for personal and professional growth. The importance of advocating for personal goals and intentions to succeed. Advocacy, overcoming doubts, and cross-examining experts. Advocacy skills from the courtroom and how to overcome doubts through cross-examination. How to use facts, evidence, and expert testimony to challenge anyone, including yourself How to build belief and overcome doubts through advocacy. the importance of building belief in oneself and others, rather than just overcoming doubts. the "three C's of an advocate" (curiosity, compassion, and credibility) as a framework for turning facts into evidence and stories into proof. Advocacy and self-care for professionals. The story of an emergency room physician in a challenging case involving a patient's death and subsequent lawsuit. How Heather learned to advocate for herself, transforming her life and teaching others to do the same. Advocacy skills for personal and professional growth. The importance of advocating for oneself before advocating for others. In How to Advocate, you’ll learn How to advocate for yourself and others through weekly episodes on topics such as leadership, sales, health, and more. Heather will use her 20 years of courtroom experience, psychology degree, and reading of 200 books a year to provide valuable insights and tools for listeners to become stronger advocates. Join The Self Advocacy School before February 14th to become a founding member: Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: Follow Heather on Instagram: Website: /episode/index/show/elegantwarrior/id/29407838

273: How to Advocate With Elegance 09/04/2023

The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen

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