How to Advocate with Heather Hansen

Welcome to "How to Advocate," the transformative podcast hosted by Heather Hansen, a seasoned advocate with 20 years of courtroom experience, a psychology degree, and a voracious appetite for knowledge. Whether you're striving for personal growth, professional success, or navigating the complexities of relationships, Heather provides indispensable tools to master the art of advocacy. Heather explores topics ranging from advocating for personal goals, overcoming doubts, and cross-examining experts, to self-care for professionals and the importance of building belief in oneself and others. Join Heather every week for insightful discussions and practical insights, as she draws upon her extensive expertise and passion for empowering listeners to become stronger advocates in all facets of life. "How to Advocate" promises a journey of self-discovery, skill refinement, and strategic empowerment to help you navigate the path towards your aspirations.

289: How to Be Yourself with Tara Stiles 04/24/2024

288: How to Say “No” 04/17/2024

287: How to Be Seen with Amy Kemp 04/10/2024

286: How to Ask a Question with Shanin Specter 04/03/2024

285: How To Master Difficult Conversations 03/27/2024

284: Advocating for a Modern Body, Modern Life with Courtney Gray 03/20/2024

283: Advocating for Your Financial Freedom with Anne Lester 03/13/2024

282: How to Trust Your Breath with Stacy Fritz 03/06/2024

281: Choose a New Identity-Danielle Sunberg 02/28/2024

280: Unveiling Radical Humility with Urs Koenig - A Deep Dive into Modern Leadership 02/21/2024

279: The CURE for Complacency 02/14/2024

278: The 3Es of an Advocate 02/07/2024

277: Three Steps to Ask for What You Want and Get It 01/31/2024

277: Three Steps to Ask for What You Want and Get It Advocating is overcoming doubts and building beliefs. Ultimately, it’s the ability to ask for what you want and get it, over and over again. After 25 years of studying the art of advocacy, Heather Hansen has identified three simple steps to ask for what you want and get it. 1-Know what you want. 2-Ask for it, out loud and with delight. 3-Master the art of the ask. In this episode, you’ll learn the specifics of all three steps. And you’ll walk away with the ability to ask for what you want–and get it. If you want help with these 3 steps, you can get free access to the exercises that will help you to see other perspectives. The ability to do so will help you with all 3 steps. And if you want to own the magic of these three steps, you could join The Self Advocacy School. The opportunity to be a Founding Member will be over at the end of February, so this is your chance to get what you want, over and over again And now, in this episode you’ll learn more about: Advocacy and knowing what you want. (0:02) the definitions of advocacy Advocating is about asking for what you want and getting it, whether in personal or professional settings. How being unsure of what you want leads to paralysis and a lack of clarity in career or personal goals. Heather’s personal growth and career development. (4:30) Heather’s experience of transitioning from trial attorney to coach, highlighting the importance of practicing and being willing to make mistakes in discovering one's true desires. Finding and asking for what you want in life. (7:49) The difference between “leaping” and “creeping” to what you want. How Heather crept into her new career by experimenting with different roles while still maintaining her full-time job as an attorney. The importance of asking for what you want directly and with delight, rather than relying on manifesting or giving what you want to receive. Recognize the common mistake of trying to prove oneself by doing extra work, rather than simply asking for what you want. The importance of asking with delight. (12:27) Ask with delight to increase the likelihood of getting what you want. Advocacy skills for personal and professional growth. (15:58) Understand the importance of mastering the art of the ask, which involves understanding and addressing the needs and perspectives of one's jury. Reception skills are key to advocacy, as they involve listening and figuring out what the “jury” wants and needs, and then speaking to that perspective in a way that changes their beliefs. Join The Self Advocacy School before February 14th to become a founding member: Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: Follow Heather on Instagram: Website: /episode/index/show/elegantwarrior/id/29717558

276: How to Advocate-How to Build Belief With Evidence 01/24/2024

275: Leading, Selling and Serving While Advocating 01/17/2024

275: Leading, Selling and Serving While Advocating In this episode, Heather shares why we must all think of ourselves as advocates. She explains that leading, selling and serving are really advocating. Advocating is building belief, and when you learn to do it well-you win. You’ll hear about: Advocacy in various contexts. Recognize the importance of advocacy in various contexts, including supporting TV shows, selling broccoli to children, and serving clients in the courtroom. Advocacy involves leading and selling, creating a customer experience, and providing evidence and stories to influence decisions. How to provide a positive experience by being aware of the needs of those you serve, while also remembering that those needs change. Advocacy, leading, selling, and creating experiences. Learn the importance of advocating, leading, selling, and creating an experience for others, highlighting the interconnectedness of these concepts. Advocating is a crucial aspect of these processes, as it involves serving and providing value to others to the point where they become advocates for you. When Heather turned jurors into advocates in the courtroom and got a mistrial. Jurors were evenly divided, with some advocating for the patient and others for the attorney, leading to a mistrial. Advocacy in business, leadership, and customer experience. How you can turn people into advocates by teaching them how to effectively advocate for you. The three steps to advocating are knowing what you want, asking for it with delight, and mastering the art of the ask. Appreciating the importance of storytelling and advocacy in business. Mastering the art of persuasion through empathy and understanding. Learn about the importance of seeing things from the perspective of the person you want to influence, whether it's one person or many. Mastering the art of the Ask involves understanding and communicating from different perspectives to effectively advocate for change. Learn how to build belief in yourself and others to turn them into advocates. Advocacy skills and emotional connection. Heather describes a powerful experience with a juror who became an advocate, believing in their case and making them feel seen and heard. Information on how to share the podcast and join their self-advocacy school, offering exclusive resources for founding members. Join The Self Advocacy School before February 14th to become a founding member: Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: Follow Heather on Instagram: Website: /episode/index/show/elegantwarrior/id/29515233

274: How to Advocate-the Basics of Overcoming Doubt, Building Belief and Turning Evidence into Proof 01/10/2024

274: How to Advocate-the Basics of Overcoming Doubt, Building Belief and Turning Evidence into Proof This is a new season of The Elegant Warrior, and it’s called How to Advocate. No matter what you want this year–better health, more money, better relationships–you will have to advocate to get it. You’ll need to advocate for more time, more resources, more money, better boundaries, and more help. In this episode, you’ll learn the tools to begin. But before we begin, it’s important to remember that one of the biggest tools of an advocate is perspective. When you communicate, you share perspectives. When you advocate, you change them. So I created 3 exercises to help you get better at seeing other perspectives. You can access that here Whether you’re a leader, in sales or just starting your career, you need to learn to advocate. In this episode, Heather Hansen teaches you How to use Advocacy for personal and professional growth. The importance of advocating for personal goals and intentions to succeed. Advocacy, overcoming doubts, and cross-examining experts. Advocacy skills from the courtroom and how to overcome doubts through cross-examination. How to use facts, evidence, and expert testimony to challenge anyone, including yourself How to build belief and overcome doubts through advocacy. the importance of building belief in oneself and others, rather than just overcoming doubts. the "three C's of an advocate" (curiosity, compassion, and credibility) as a framework for turning facts into evidence and stories into proof. Advocacy and self-care for professionals. The story of an emergency room physician in a challenging case involving a patient's death and subsequent lawsuit. How Heather learned to advocate for herself, transforming her life and teaching others to do the same. Advocacy skills for personal and professional growth. The importance of advocating for oneself before advocating for others. In How to Advocate, you’ll learn How to advocate for yourself and others through weekly episodes on topics such as leadership, sales, health, and more. Heather will use her 20 years of courtroom experience, psychology degree, and reading of 200 books a year to provide valuable insights and tools for listeners to become stronger advocates. Join The Self Advocacy School before February 14th to become a founding member: Stay Connected with Heather: Schedule a call with Heather: Follow Heather on Instagram: Website: /episode/index/show/elegantwarrior/id/29407838

273: How to Advocate With Elegance 09/04/2023

272: Six Secrets to Health and Happiness at Every Age with Dr. Gladys McGarey 08/28/2023

271: Standing Up for Yourself 08/21/2023

271: Standing Up for Yourself In this episode of The Elegant Warrior podcast, we're diving into the importance of standing up for yourself and unlocking your fullest potential. I've learned from my experience as a trial attorney that standing up for yourself goes beyond just avoiding being taken advantage of - it's about asking for what you want in a way that gets results. I share a story from my early career where I stood up for someone in a tense mediation situation. This experience taught me the power of taking up space in a room and advocating for my own wants and needs. Standing up for ourselves doesn't mean we are disconnected from others, in fact, it allows us to share our boundaries, our dreams, and our potential. It helps us to navigate challenging conversations more effectively and move forward in our journeys, towards the path of fulfilling our dreams and accessing our limitless potential. Key Takeaways: · Discover the profound impact that standing up for oneself has on personal and career trajectory. · Gain insightful methods on eloquently expressing your needs and desires for more productive interactions. · Understand the potential drawbacks of avoiding difficult discussions and how they can impede progress. · Delve deep into the transformative power of self-assertion in reaching peak performance. · Learn the secrets of successful negotiation for better outcomes in challenging conversations. Resources Mentioned: Sign up for the Webinar here: August 21st, 4PM Eastern: August 29th, 12PM Eastern: Join the Stay Connected with Heather: To request a transcript of this episode, email: [email protected] ____________ Disclaimer: The Elegant Warrior Podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not a substitute for the advice of a physician, a lawyer, a professional coach, a therapist or other qualified professionals. /episode/index/show/elegantwarrior/id/27803364

270: Burnout, Resentment and Boundaries with Cait Donovan 08/14/2023

270: Burnout, Resentment and Boundaries with Cait Donovan Today’s guest is Cait Donovan. Cait Donovan is a Keynote speaker, one of New York City's leading burnout experts, host of “Fried – The Burnout Podcast,” author of the book "The Bouncebackability Factor", and an acupuncturist with a master's degree in Chinese medicine. This was a great conversation about burnout, resentment, and boundaries. We discussed: Feeling not good enough. The biggest component of burnout is feelings of not being enough. What does burnout mean to you? Burnout is when the pilot light in the body goes too low and there is not enough energy to sustain normal functioning, rejuvenation, etc. The feeling of not being enough is part of burnout, and being too much is also part of it. The difference between burnout and stress. Stress and burnout are a continuum. Burnout is the far end of chronic unmitigated stress, while stress is healthy and good when it is not chronic. Resentment is the number one tool for keeping yourself out of burnout. It is one of the main tools that she teaches people. More on resentment If you pay close attention to resentments objectively, you will notice that each and every zone of your life where your boundaries are being crossed. Boundaries make you more generous and more forgiving. When boundaries are in place, the places that you enjoy being generous are available to you and you can use them. What does it mean to honor your calendar? The importance of honoring appointments and paying yourself back What resentment feels like to Cait How to set boundaries when you feel resentment. When she feels resentful, it is because she is over giving and feeling like she is doing the same thing. When there is a mismatch in a relationship and resentment is building up, ask yourself a few questions to sort through what is really going on. For some of us and even relationships, we bounce before sending a boundary because we are afraid of setting a boundary. How to avoid burnout? Finding the balance between bringing resources in and only releasing the resources that are available. If one does not learn in one area of their life, they can leave whatever relationship or job they want and take it with them to another place. What is the first step to identifying your resentments? Identifying resentments is one of the first steps when people come to work with you, because they are the signposts. Here’s a link to Cait’s mini-course on resentments! Resources Mentioned: Sign up for the Webinar here: August 21st, 4PM Eastern: August 29th, 12PM Eastern: Join the Stay Connected with Heather: To request a transcript of this episode, email: [email protected] ____________ Disclaimer: The Elegant Warrior Podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not a substitute for the advice of a physician, a lawyer, a professional coach, a therapist or other qualified professionals. /episode/index/show/elegantwarrior/id/27741126

269: Boundaries, Confidence, and Empowerment - A Conversation with Sasha Shillcutt, M.D 08/07/2023

269: Boundaries, Confidence, and Empowerment - A Conversation with Sasha Shillcutt, M.D In this episode of "The Elegant Warrior," we have a special guest, Dr. Sasha Shillcutt, an accomplished physician, author, and advocate for women's empowerment. Sasha is the founder and CEO of Brave Enough, a platform dedicated to helping women set boundaries, say no, and take control of their time. In her book, "Brave Boundaries," she shares valuable insights and strategies for establishing boundaries to lead a more fulfilled and balanced life. Key Takeaways: The Struggle with Setting Boundaries: Dr. Sasha Shillcutt discusses the societal expectations that often make it challenging for women to set boundaries for themselves. Women are often seen as caregivers and helpers, making it difficult to prioritize self-care. This tendency can lead to boundary backlash and challenges when trying to set personal boundaries. Identifying Boundary Categories: In her book, Dr. Shillcutt outlines different boundary categories, such as professional life, personal life, family, social media, and more. By identifying and understanding these categories, women can take the first step toward establishing meaningful boundaries in their lives. Approachable vs. Accessible: Dr. Shillcutt highlights the distinction between being approachable and being accessible. Being constantly accessible can lead to burnout and disengagement. Setting boundaries allows women to control when and how they engage with others, ensuring they can give their best to every aspect of their lives. The Power of Compartmentalization: Compartmentalization can be a powerful tool for creating balance and productivity. Dr. Shillcutt shares how she compartmentalizes different aspects of her life, like work and family, allowing her to focus on one area at a time and be more present in each role. Boundaries are essential for well-being and empowerment. Dr. Sasha Shillcutt's book, "Brave Boundaries," offers valuable insights and strategies for setting boundaries that lead to a more balanced and fulfilled life. By persuading ourselves of the value of boundaries, identifying our priorities, and learning to compartmentalize, we can create a life that aligns with our mission and purpose. To learn more about Dr. Sasha Shillcutt and her work, visit her website at . Don't forget to check out her book, "," for practical tips and inspiration to create a life with healthier boundaries. Remember, elegance is a choice, and setting boundaries is a powerful step towards living an elegant life. Embrace your power, say no when necessary, and stand strong in setting your boundaries for a more fulfilled and empowered life. Sasha’s book choices Sasha’s song choice Resources Mentioned: Sign up for the Webinar here: August 21st, 4PM Eastern: August 29th, 12PM Eastern: Join the Stay Connected with Heather: To request a transcript of this episode, email: [email protected] ____________ Disclaimer: The Elegant Warrior Podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. It is not a substitute for the advice of a physician, a lawyer, a professional coach, a therapist or other qualified professionals. /episode/index/show/elegantwarrior/id/27676146