042: Values Beliefs Gratitude and Spirituality

Our values and beliefs colour our vision and perception of the world. They determine our actions or inaction. Thoughts affect feelings. Feelings affect behaviour. Behaviour produces results (or the lack thereof). It all begins with our thoughts, since we have to accept a thought for it to become a belief. And a belief is simply a thought we keep thinking with enough emotion and intensity to make it stick.

It’s been said that whatever you believe becomes your reality. You do not believe what you see; rather you see what you already believe.

"If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." Wayne Dyer

Values are the emotional states that we either move towards (“pleasure” values) or move away from based upon what we want in our life experience ("pain" values). Our beliefs about our values are actually the driver behind our behaviour. 

When you develop the absolute sense of certainty that powerful, empowering beliefs provide, then you can accomplish virtually anything, including those things other people are certain are impossible. ALL you have to do is change your belief system! Melanie and I make a bit of a joke about that since it is very simple but not always easy, and it is often helpful to have someone to reflect back to you what you perhaps cannot see yourself which is why we are all such advocates of coaching.

In today's Fireside Chat with Melanie Spears of The Gratitude Diary, our discussion centres around gratitude, values and beliefs since we are both utterly passionate about how we create our own reality based upon our unique model of the world. One of the most empowering things I finally understood from my time working with Tony Robbins, is that all personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs.  The moment we begin to honestly question our beliefs and the experiences we assign to them, we no longer feel absolutely certain about them. Doubt opens the door to replacing your old, disempowering beliefs with new beliefs that support you in the direction you want to go.