5. The Power of Intentional Laziness as an Antidote to Hyperfocus
Release Date: 10/23/2024
13. Rethinking Money: ADHD, Shame, and Financial Freedom with Keina Newell
ADHD in the Real World
Money can feel overwhelming, especially when you have ADHD. In this episode, I sit down with my longtime friend and money coach, Keina Newell of Wealth Over Now, to talk about how we can break free from shame, make peace with our spending, and build a future that supports our needs—without giving up the things that bring us joy. We explore: Why thinking about "future you" is so hard with ADHD The role of shame in financial decision-making Practical steps to start managing money without overwhelm How small, messy progress is better than waiting for the "perfect" time Keina shares how she...
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12. Navigating Domestic Inequity, ADHD, and Mental Load with Paige Connell
ADHD in the Real World
In this episode, Martha Hoffman speaks with Paige Connell, a working mom of four and a content creator who explores critical topics like the mental load in parenthood, domestic inequities, and systemic challenges such as affordable childcare and paid parental leave. They dive into the unique challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals and families, including how ADHD impacts domestic dynamics and parenting. Martha and Paige share personal stories, thoughtful strategies, and valuable insights on navigating household responsibilities with equity—not equality. They discuss how to support...
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11. Mental Load and ADHD with Zach Watson
ADHD in the Real World
In this episode, we explore the intersection of ADHD and the mental load in relationships, uncovering the hidden costs of imbalance and how societal norms often add to the strain. Drawing on years of teaching experience, we discuss strategies to engage interest-based brains and tackle resistant behaviors—whether with middle schoolers or partners. We dive into how gamifying emotional labor can help ADHD brains build lasting habits, why unlearning outdated gender roles is crucial, and the difference between skill and will when addressing mental load challenges. This conversation is packed with...
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10. Fair Play and ADHD – A Game Changer for Home and Family
ADHD in the Real World
I can’t believe it took me 10 episodes to talk about Fair Play! This system, based on Eve Rodsky’s book, has been a game changer for my family and my work. In this episode, I break down how the Fair Play Method helps partners create more equitable systems for managing home and family life—especially when ADHD is part of the equation. Here’s what you’ll learn: Why equity (not equality) is the key to sharing responsibilities in a way that works for both partners. How Fair Play’s design naturally supports ADHDers with structure, ownership, and clear communication. The importance...
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9. For the Book Nerds
ADHD in the Real World
In this episode, I sit down with my 12-year-old friend to chat about our favorite books, the joy of discovering stories, and how reading can be an incredible way to connect with others. We explore everything from fantasy series like Aru Shah to the emotional depth of Remarkably Bright Creatures. Along the way, we share tips for finding books you’ll love—even if you think you’re not a “reader.” If you’re looking for book recommendations for kids, adults, or families to enjoy together, this episode is packed with inspiration. Plus, we discuss the value of trying new genres, using...
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8. Inside the Mind of a 12-Year-Old with ADHD: Wisdom, Humor, and Hoverboarding
ADHD in the Real World
In this special episode, I sit down with an extraordinary 12-year-old with ADHD who shares his unique perspective on navigating school, friendships, and life. From hoverboarding during Zoom calls to rocking in class to focus, he sheds light on what helps him thrive and what he wishes teachers and classmates understood about ADHD. Join us as we explore everything from managing boredom to finding dopamine boosts in daily life. His insights will make you laugh, reflect, and maybe even rethink ADHD. This episode is perfect for anyone wanting an honest look at ADHD through the eyes of a child!
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7. Hyperfixations & ADHD
ADHD in the Real World
In this thought-provoking episode, Martha dives deep into the world of hyper fixation and its unique role in the ADHD experience. While hyper fixation is often mistaken for hyper-focus, Martha unpacks how these two concepts differ. Through relatable, real-life examples—like her food, drink, and hobby fixations—she illustrates how hyper fixation can provide a comforting routine or become an intense interest without always leading to the time blindness often associated with hyper-focus. If you’ve ever wondered why certain snacks, drinks, or interests become your daily must-have, Martha’s...
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6. The ADHD Paradox—Craving Routine, Needing Novelty
ADHD in the Real World
Do you ever start your week with the best intentions, a beautifully organized schedule in hand, only to find yourself tossing it out by Tuesday? If you're someone with ADHD, balancing the need for routine with the desire for spontaneity can feel like an impossible task. This episode is for you! Join me as we dive into the paradox that so many of us with ADHD face—our brains crave structure, but they also need novelty to stay engaged. I’ll share strategies to build flexible schedules, inject intentional novelty into your day, and create routines that work with your brain rather than against...
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5. The Power of Intentional Laziness as an Antidote to Hyperfocus
ADHD in the Real World
In this bonus episode, I explore how embracing laziness helps combat the burnout caused by hyperfocus. While routine and predictability are often celebrated, I've found that thriving with ADHD sometimes means breaking away from rigid structures and allowing flexibility. I walk you through a day in my life that may seem chaotic but is really about honoring my energy needs. I discuss how I've reframed "laziness" from a negative label to a self-care tool. By intentionally stopping work after energy-draining tasks and allowing myself downtime—whether that’s napping, zoning out, or simply...
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4. ADHD & Hyperfocus
ADHD in the Real World
ADHD is full of contradictions, and today we're diving into one of the biggest: how can we experience both a lack of focus and extreme focus? In this episode, we'll explore why ADHD brains seem to tune out the world at times and, at others, get completely lost in what’s called hyper-focus. If you’ve ever heard "Are you even listening to me?" or struggled with time slipping away while you’re laser-focused, this episode is for you. Martha shares real-life examples, including her own experiences with hyper-focus, why it can be both a superpower and a struggle, and strategies to harness it...
info_outlineIn this bonus episode, I explore how embracing laziness helps combat the burnout caused by hyperfocus. While routine and predictability are often celebrated, I've found that thriving with ADHD sometimes means breaking away from rigid structures and allowing flexibility. I walk you through a day in my life that may seem chaotic but is really about honoring my energy needs.
I discuss how I've reframed "laziness" from a negative label to a self-care tool. By intentionally stopping work after energy-draining tasks and allowing myself downtime—whether that’s napping, zoning out, or simply resting—I’ve learned to preserve my energy for what truly matters.
If you're an ADHD-er who often finds yourself burnt out, this episode will challenge you to rethink the idea of productivity and encourage you to sprinkle in moments of "lazy". While I acknowledge the privilege of my flexible schedule, I also emphasize that small, intentional shifts in how we structure our time can make a big difference, no matter our circumstances.
This one's for the high achievers who feel guilty about resting. It's time to reclaim laziness and use it to work smarter, not harder.