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2. ADHD & Shame
10/23/2024
2. ADHD & Shame
In this episode of "ADHD in the Real World," Martha Hoffman unpacks a powerful statistic: by age 12, kids with ADHD have heard 20,000 more negative messages from adults than their neurotypical peers. This reality has a profound impact on self-esteem and the development of shame. Martha explores how this negative reinforcement can lead to patterns of frustration, perfectionism, defensiveness, and avoidance in people with ADHD. Martha provides real-life examples of how shame manifests—from angry reactions to criticism to striving for impossible perfectionism. She also shares a simple yet transformative strategy for reducing shame: get curious instead of jumping to criticism or judgment. By approaching ADHD challenges with curiosity, you can foster more honest communication, build trust, and encourage meaningful change, whether you're supporting a partner, child, or yourself. Listen in to learn how choosing curiosity over judgment can help break the cycle of shame, improve relationships, and create lasting shifts in how you navigate life with ADHD. Tune in, and let's make the real world work for us, one curious moment at a time.
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