494: I'm boring on dating apps. Help! How can I balance TEAM with Life? Do relapses come from out of the blue?
Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy
Release Date: 03/23/2026
494: I'm boring on dating apps. Help! How can I balance TEAM with Life? Do relapses come from out of the blue?
Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy
What if the old techniques don't work now? What can I do if I'm boring on dating apps? How do I balance TEAM CBT with Life? Do relapses come from out of the blue? Carlos continues with his question(s) first addressed on last week’s podcast. He’d recovered from depression using TEAM CBT, but had a question about how to challenge his negative thoughts during a relapse, as well as how to balance TEAM CBT with life. Plus a dating question from a man who’s never had a date! Today’s questions begin here. Should I use a brand-new CBT technique to help me overcome my current negative...
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493: Yikes! What If I Relapse?
Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy
What can I do if I relapse? Good Morning Dr. Burns, I will make this email quick, as I'm sure you have several other emails to read through. First off, thank you so much for your research and contributions to TEAM CBT! My mother introduced me to this form of therapy in 2022, and it has been a big help in overcoming my extremely painful perfectionism anxiety. Unfortunately, after graduating from university, I've begun relapsing once again. As such, I would like to ask a few things Carlos: (His remaining questions will be answered on Podcast 494.) Is it harder to get out of a relapse than the...
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Feel Better Today: A Powerful App For You
Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy
Download the incredible Feeling Great app today for FREE at FeelingGreat.com! This is my $99 GIFT for you. - Dr. David Burns
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492: Meet the Fantastic—and Controversial—Dr. David Healy
Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy
Meet the Fantastic—and Controversial—Dr. David Healy Psychiatric Drug Companies-- What Are They NOT Telling Us? Today, we are thrilled to interview the famed and courageous Dr. David Healy. I have admired his work for many years, but never imagined I’d have the chance to meet him and chat with him. First things first. You may know Dr. David Healy for some of his highly controversial books, like “The Antidepressant Era,” “Let Them Eat Prozac,” and “Pharmageddon.” But who is he, really? According to AI, Dr. David Healy is a prominent Welsh psychiatrist, psychopharmacologist,...
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491:Ask David: Can Introverts be Helped? How Can I Enhance Happiness?
Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy
Ask David, #491, featuring our beloved Dr. Matthew May. Can Introverts be helped? How can we enhance our happiness? What's the best movie to watch if your father rejected you? How can I identify my feelings? The answers to the first two questions are brief and were written prior to the show. Listen to the podcast for a more in-depth discussion of each question. Today’s Questions Anonymous asks: Can an introvert become more extroverted? Or are these personality traits “fixed” and unchanging? Seve asks: I know that TEAM can be super helpful for negative thoughts and feelings, but what are...
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490: Dr. Taylor Chesney on Sexting, Bullying, and Social Media
Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy
Sexting, Bullying, and Social Media-- A Compassionate, Practical Guide for Parents of Teens Today, we welcome back one of our favorite guests, Taylor Chesney, director of the Feeling Good Institute in New York City. Taylor specializes in TEAM-CBT with children and adolescents and brings a rare combination of clinical expertise and real-life wisdom as the mother of four. Parents everywhere are worried about social media, sexting, porn, bullying, and the fear that their kids are doing “who knows what” behind closed doors. In this episode, Taylor offers a refreshing and deeply practical...
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Feel Better Fast: A Short Message from Dr. Burns
Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy
Download the amazing Feeling Great app today for FREE at FeelingGreat.com! This is my $99 GIFT for you. – Dr. David Burns
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489: Meet Richard Lam, Master TEAM CBT Teacher and Therapist
Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy
Meet Richard Lam-- Master TEAM CBT Teacher and Therapist! Today we chat with Richard Lam. Richard is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in Mountain View, California. He is a graduate of Palo Alto University. He currently provides short-term therapy for anxiety, OCD, habits/addictions, depression, and relationship concerns using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Richard also trains other therapists in David Burn's model of CBT called TEAM-CBT Therapy. He is a certified Level 5 Master Therapist and Trainer in TEAM-CBT Therapy. And today, Richard has gifts for you!...
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If You're Procrastinating Right Now, Listen to This
Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy
Let’s face it. We ALL procrastinate. Attempts to “help” nearly always backfire. Dr. David Burns gets it. Procrastinators don't want help — they want something that actually works. In his upcoming free webinar on February 25, Dr. Burns introduces his paradoxical approach and ten powerful TEAM CBT tools that deliver results. Sign up now at FeelingGoodWebinar.com. Everyone is welcome! Therapists can purchase two CE credits if they attend the live event. See you there!
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488: Meet the Incredible Dr. David Antonuccio, Part 2 of 2
Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy
(featured photo shows David, his wife Yvonne, and son, Joey, when young) Meet the Incredible Dr. David Antonuccio, Part 2 of 2 Shrink, Songwriter, and Hero Today we continue our conversation with my dear friend and esteemed colleague, Dr. David Antonuccio, a true scholar, clinician, researcher, musician, and champion of scientific transparency. The Nicotine Patch Study David revisited his landmark research on the nicotine patch, a costly trial involving roughly 600 participants who were randomly assigned to receive either a real nicotine patch or a sham patch. The goals were to assess safety...
info_outlineWhat if the old techniques don't work now?
What can I do if I'm boring on dating apps?
How do I balance TEAM CBT with Life?
Do relapses come from out of the blue?
Carlos continues with his question(s) first addressed on last week’s podcast. He’d recovered from depression using TEAM CBT, but had a question about how to challenge his negative thoughts during a relapse, as well as how to balance TEAM CBT with life. Plus a dating question from a man who’s never had a date!
Today’s questions begin here.
- Should I use a brand-new CBT technique to help me overcome my current negative thoughts?
I've been using my previous solutions (Exposure Therapy and Daily Mood Log) however, they don't seem to help out as much as they used to.
- How do I balance Team CBT and life?
I've been having a difficult time finding the right balance between Therapy and Life. Whenever I strictly do therapy, I feel good, but then feel sad that I sacrifice other activities in order to do the therapy. Inversely, whenever I do activities (while only occasionally doing therapy), I feel conned by my anxiety and feel as if I can't enjoy doing my activities.
- Can you relapse despite having no apparent issues in life?
I'm currently on Christmas break, without much pressure to find a job. Yet despite this, I'm feeling more anxious right now than I was in university! How is this possible? Is there perhaps a hidden emotion or desire that I'm not expressing?
Regardless of how negative I feel right now, I'm doing my absolute best to stay positive and keep working on myself with Team CBT. I'm looking forward to resolving my anxiety with the help of your awesome tools! It was an honor speaking with you, thank you for reading!
-Carlos
David’s Answer
Great question, and I’ll give you a (hopefully) great answer on the podcast! But here’s the quickie answer. Focus on one specific moment when you’d like to be feeling happier, or when you need help to become the person you want to be. Then use a Daily Mood Log, Habit / Addiction Log (HAL), or Relationship Journal, depending on what’s needed.
This is the exact same fractal concept we use in all of TEAM CBT!
Warmly, david
- I am overly sincere and boring on dating apps. What can I do to correct this?
Michael writes: Hi Dr burns
I am 30 and never dated anyone. Whenever I start chatting on dating apps I seem very boring or sincere person how can I talk to someone in this?
Regards,
Michael (disguised name)