Figuring Out the Negative Effects of Being a “Strong Black Woman”
Figure Out Your Life with Toya T
Release Date: 10/10/2020
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Figure Out Your Life with Toya T
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Figuring Out the Negative Effects of Being a “Strong Black Woman”
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Many black women in America feel pressured to act like or be seen as “strong,” projecting themselves as self-sacrificing, emotionless, and unbreakable in their daily lives. However, the “strong black woman” identity can actually be harmful to black women. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I talk with my friends Claire Gibson, an intellectual property attorney, and Courtenay Barton, a philanthropist, about being black women in America and explore how the “strong black woman” identity can negatively impact black women’s lives and well-being. Links...
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info_outlineMany black women in America feel pressured to act like or be seen as “strong,” projecting themselves as self-sacrificing, emotionless, and unbreakable in their daily lives. However, the “strong black woman” identity can actually be harmful to black women. In this episode of Figure Out Your Life podcast, I talk with my friends Claire Gibson, an intellectual property attorney, and Courtenay Barton, a philanthropist, about being black women in America and explore how the “strong black woman” identity can negatively impact black women’s lives and well-being.
Links mentioned in this episode:
- The Misconception of the Strong Black Woman
- How the “Strong Black Woman” Identity Both Helps and Hurts
- Taraji P. Henson On Why She Denies The ‘Strong Black Woman’ Damages Us
- If You’ve Ever Called A Black Woman “Strong” or “Black Girl Magic,” You Need To Hear Taraji P. Henson’s Thoughts On It
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Claire Gibson
Website: www.gibsonlaw.nyc
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gibsonlawnyc/
Courtenay Barton
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/highheelsnbooks/
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