299: 5 Ways Your Lack of Confidence Is Hurting You, with Kathy Caprino
Release Date: 01/09/2025
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“You have a lot of knowledge and expertise, but if you continually doubt the strength of your opinions, or the importance of sharing your ideas, you are going to lose the ability to shape where your career is going.” – Kathy Caprino
Confidence is key as you step into being the most powerful version of you, and this is something I feel compelled to talk about given my particular lens as a former corporate VP, therapist (focused on systems and communication), researcher, and now in coaching and training with thousands of executives and professionals across 6 continents.
Thousands of people struggle with confidence issues, from not feeling “good enough,” to being insecure about their skills and abilities and suffering from imposter syndrome to experiencing “perfectionistic overfunctioning” that negatively impacts our health, well-being, life satisfaction and quality of life.
From working with teams, I know, too, that both new and seasoned managers and high-potential folks at startups and other types of organizations often fear they don’t know nearly enough to do their jobs well, and their confidence is flagging.
This is why today I’m ingfocus on the 5 ways that your lack of confidence is hurting you, and what you can do - practically and strategically - to overcome this challenge and build your confidence and self-trust now so that it doesn’t impact your success and professional fulfillment in the future.
In this episode, I reference my recent Forbes blog post, 5 Ways Your Lack Of Confidence Is Apparent And Hurting You, which I encourage you to read. If you find the information helpful in identifying and overcoming a lack of confidence in yourself, I would be so happy if you would share the article and episode episode with your teams, colleagues and friends who could benefit.
Highlights from this Episode:
- How questioning your own ideas is holding you back right now in so many different ways [6:16]
- The importance of recognizing the environment you are in before sharing your ideas, and an example from my own career that highlights this [8:37]
- How the 7 damaging power gaps impact your confidence, courage to grow and your self-respect and self-acceptance today [13:02]
- What agonizing over your performance and how others think of you will interfere with what you need to do to experience more success and reward [14:22]
- Some places where you can get outside help if you’re feeling as if you’re “blowing it” in the workplace, and how this will help you move forward in your career [16:27]
- What to do the next time you find yourself being hypercritical of someone, plus what I’ve seen from my experience as a therapist that explains why this is happening [17:44]
- An example from my own life as a parent when I truly learned that it’s not possible to be perfect, and nor should we strive to be [20:55]
- Where jealousy and the feeling of being threatened by others’ success often stems from, and how to begin leaving these emotions behind so that you can move forward [24:23]
- Action steps to take to help you determine what you are good at and how that matters [29:40]
- What unshakable success requires and why so many of us don’t have it [34:02]
For More Information:
Kathy’s Post, 5 Ways Your Lack Of Confidence Is Apparent And Hurting You
https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathycaprino
https://www.facebook.com/ElliaCommunications
https://twitter.com/kathycaprino
Resources Mentioned:
American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy
Kathy’s 6-Session Career Breakthrough Coaching Program & Career Path Self-Assessment
Kathy’s TEDx Talk, Time To Brave Up
Kathy’s Forbes Interview with Bestselling Author Gretchen Rubin, How Bestselling Author Gretchen Rubin Uncovers Life-Changing Behaviors And Touches Millions
Kathy’s interview with Dr. Nate Zinsser, Developing a Confident Mind: Key Strategies for Experiencing Unshakable Success
7 Signs Of Perfectionistic Overfunctioning – How To Recognize It In Yourself And Change It
Finding Brave interviews with Dr. Zinsser (Parts 1 and 2)
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QUOTES FROM TODAY’S SHOW:
“Your lack of confidence is most likely apparent to those around you, and it is hurting you. It is keeping you from growing.” [6:05]
“Greater awareness equals greater choice, and it is really important to get to the bottom of what you need to be aware of now.” [17:38]
“Kind, loving, and generous people are usually the same way to themselves. They’re accepting and they’re forgiving of themselves.” [18:08]
“What consistently repeats is not random. We co-create, we co-sustain, and we attract behavior.” [19:17]
“Do something empowering when you feel jealous of others. Look at what it really means, and then do something concrete.” [29:30]
“If you don’t recognize what you are good at, then you can’t talk about what you are good at. If you can’t talk about it and share it and put it on LinkedIn, put it on your resume, discuss it in your interviews and talk to your boss about it, you are leaving so much success, money, reward and advancement on the table.” [30:15]
“It’s not bragging to talk about what you’re good at and the outcomes that you’ve created.” [31:33]
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