413: How to Handle Disappointment in Someone Else's Behavior (When It Has Nothing to Do With You)
A Deliberate Pause with Shira Gura
Release Date: 01/08/2026
422: The Two Patterns We Get Stuck In
A Deliberate Pause with Shira Gura
In this episode of A Deliberate Pause, we explore where lasting change really begins. It’s easy to focus on what we want other people—or our circumstances—to do differently. But meaningful change starts closer to home: with us. When we pause long enough to see how we’re showing up, we give ourselves the opportunity to choose differently. And those small, deliberate choices can begin changing not only how we experience our lives, but our relationships too. Learn more:
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421: Welcome to A Deliberate Pause
A Deliberate Pause with Shira Gura
After a three-month pause, Shira returns with the first episode of A Deliberate Pause and shares the story behind this new chapter. What began over a decade ago with The unSTUCK Method® has grown into something much bigger: a practice she now calls Living Deliberately. In this episode, you'll discover why she stepped away, what she realized during that time, and how one simple insight reshaped her work. You'll also learn what to expect from the podcast going forward—and why taking a deliberate pause may be the most important choice you make in any difficult moment. Whether you've been...
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420: Anchors and Emotional Well-Being
A Deliberate Pause with Shira Gura
In this unexpected episode, I share a powerful and heartfelt message from a student whose life has been deeply impacted by The unSTUCK Method®. What began as a simple note about “anchors” becomes a moving reflection on how the work has helped her build a meaningful and compassionate relationship with herself. The student describes feeling more grounded, more confident, and noticing positive changes in how others respond to her—all without trying to be someone different. This episode highlights the true transformation that comes from doing the work and serves as an invitation to...
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419: Feeling Like a Bad Friend… and What I Did About It
A Deliberate Pause with Shira Gura
In this episode, I share a deeply personal story about choosing not to attend a friend’s mourning period during a time of war—and the intense guilt that followed. I walk you through the inner conflict between wanting to be a supportive friend and honoring my own fear and safety. Using The unSTUCK Method®, I process my thoughts, challenge the stories my mind created, and shift toward self-compassion and acceptance. Ultimately, the episode highlights that guilt isn’t resolved externally through reassurance—but internally through awareness and choice. It’s an invitation to release what...
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418: War Thoughts and Setbacks
A Deliberate Pause with Shira Gura
In this episode, I share a powerful reflection from a live coaching session inside my program, Living Deliberately, during a time of real-life uncertainty and challenge. We explore the idea that feeling overwhelmed, emotional, or “off track” isn’t a setback—it’s part of being human. You’ll learn why you’re not meant to feel good all the time, and how creating stories around your emotions is what keeps you stuck. Instead, I’ll guide you toward handling life one moment at a time with self-compassion, using the tools you already have. This episode is a reminder that you can handle...
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417: How to handle making mistakes
A Deliberate Pause with Shira Gura
In this short episode, I share about a "mistake" I made and what I did to move forward. To learn more: www.shiragura.com
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416: When You Fall Off Your Path, This Is What You Need to Know
A Deliberate Pause with Shira Gura
This week, I noticed a common theme across all my programs: students committing to change, then falling off track and spiraling into shame, guilt, and regret. When you snap at someone, break a commitment, or act against your values, it feels black and white – like you've failed and there's no hope. But here's what most people miss: falling off your path isn't an obstacle, it's an opportunity. In this episode, I share why uncovering the hidden thought that caused your behavior is the real game-changer, and how using The unSTUCK Method to find that "piece of gold" is what actually creates...
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415: How to Make a Decision When Your Mind Won't Let You
A Deliberate Pause with Shira Gura
Have you ever needed to make a decision, but your mind simply won't let you? You go back and forth, that little voice keeps saying "wait, what if..." and you end up paralyzed, not making any decision at all. In this episode, I share a real conversation with one of my students who was struggling with her retirement decision - but this isn't really about retirement. It's about understanding why your brain does this (hint: it's trying to protect you), and how to work WITH your mind instead of fighting against it so you can finally make decisions with confidence. To get started, head over to
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414: How to Handle When Things Fall Apart
A Deliberate Pause with Shira Gura
Not every challenge we face involves other people pushing our buttons. Sometimes things just fall apart - like when technical issues derailed my 3-day challenge that over 1,000 people signed up for. In this episode, I share how I used The unSTUCK Method multiple times to move through frustration and disappointment, and how it helped me respond with calm, clarity, and creative solutions instead of breaking down. This is a reminder that this method works for ANY difficult situation you face - whether it's with others, yourself, or just life throwing you curveballs. Get started here:
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413: How to Handle Disappointment in Someone Else's Behavior (When It Has Nothing to Do With You)
A Deliberate Pause with Shira Gura
Ever watched someone else mess up and felt the urge to jump in and fix it - even though it had nothing to do with you? In this episode, I share a real story about my husband being late and disappointing our son, and how I almost made their conflict MY problem. You'll hear exactly how I used the unSTUCK Method in real-time to stay out of the Reactivity Loop and respond in a way I was proud of - without the struggle. If you've ever felt responsible for fixing other people's mistakes or managing their relationships, this one's for you. To learn more:
info_outlineEver watched someone else mess up and felt the urge to jump in and fix it - even though it had nothing to do with you?
In this episode, I share a real story about my husband being late and disappointing our son, and how I almost made their conflict MY problem.
You'll hear exactly how I used the unSTUCK Method in real-time to stay out of the Reactivity Loop and respond in a way I was proud of - without the struggle.
If you've ever felt responsible for fixing other people's mistakes or managing their relationships, this one's for you.
To learn more: www.shiragura.com