How to Stop Fixing Yourself and Start Living

Welcome to the The Achievers Podcast.

I'm your host, Amber Deibert, Performance Coach. I help enterprise sellers unlock their full potential by aligning their work with how they workout and cleaning up mindset trash, so they can sell more, stress less, and take back control of their time and success.

 

Most high performers have a mental checklist of things they think they need to fix: the anxiety, the imposter syndrome, the procrastination, the people-pleasing. And the belief is that once it's all cleaned up, THEN they'll go after the big goal. That day never comes.

In this episode, I share my own version of this trap (including the posture story I've been carrying for decades), introduce the concept of dialectical thinking from DBT, and give you a simple reframe: two things can be true at once. You can have problems AND be wildly successful. You can feel nervous AND take bold action. You don't need to fix anything. You can if you want to, but you don't need to.

 

🎯 In this episode, I riff on:

     ↠ Why high achievers wrongly believe they need to “fix themselves” before succeeding
     ↠ The myth of the finish line where you suddenly have no problems
     ↠ How imposter syndrome and anxiety can coexist with elite performance
     ↠ The hidden cost of constantly trying to self-improve from a place of inadequacy
     ↠ A powerful reframe: what if your “flaws” aren’t problems at all?
     ↠ The shift from “I need to fix this” to “I can change this if I want to”
     ↠ How self-acceptance actually reduces pressure and improves performance
     ↠ Understanding your brain as a prediction machine, not a truth-teller
     ↠ Why your thoughts about being “not good enough” aren’t facts
     ↠ The concept of “both can be true” (dialectical thinking) in performance
     ↠ How to take action even when confidence isn’t there
     ↠ Reframing anxiety as a performance-enhancing feature, not a bug
     ↠ The role of your inner child in triggering reactions and self-doubt
     ↠ A practical way to respond to negative thoughts with self-compassion
     ↠ How reducing resistance softens the intensity of your internal struggles

 

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