How to Figure Out What You Actually Want
The Achievers Podcast: Get out of your own way and find success
Release Date: 09/07/2026
How to Figure Out What You Actually Want
The Achievers Podcast: Get out of your own way and find success
Welcome to The Achievers Podcast. I'm your host, Amber Deibert, Performance Coach and creator of Physical Productivity. I help enterprise sellers stop fighting their wiring by aligning their work with how they workout and cleaning up mindset trash, so they can sell more, stress less, and take back control of their time and success. I ask everyone I coach the same question. Drop the shoulds, and tell me what you actually want. Not what you think you should want, what you want. And so often I get a blank stare, total silence. Then I asked myself the same thing and went just as blank. When you...
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info_outlineWelcome to The Achievers Podcast.
I'm your host, Amber Deibert, Performance Coach and creator of Physical Productivity. I help enterprise sellers stop fighting their wiring by aligning their work with how they workout and cleaning up mindset trash, so they can sell more, stress less, and take back control of their time and success.
I ask everyone I coach the same question. Drop the shoulds, and tell me what you actually want. Not what you think you should want, what you want. And so often I get a blank stare, total silence. Then I asked myself the same thing and went just as blank. When you can't even answer that, you assume the problem is you.
In this episode, I unpack why some of us have no idea what we want (hello, lifelong people-pleasers and chameleons), and I share the three tricks that finally helped me find out. It's hard to live without regret when you don't know what you want, so let's fix the not-knowing first.
🎯 In this episode, I riff on:
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Why the "what do you actually want" question makes some of us go completely blank
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The chameleon: how being who everyone needs kept you safe as a kid and burns you out as an adult
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Tool 1, envy as a map: the people you envy are pointing straight at what you want
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Tool 2, the impress-yourself filter: if you watched yourself walk in the door, what would impress you?
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Tool 3, the invisibility cloak: nobody's actually thinking about you, so what would you do if no one could see?
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Why "drop the shoulds" is the whole game
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How ADHD can show up as a need to be different without knowing what you actually like
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