EPISODE 145: Fantasy Bubble Paradox- Hopeless Romantic? Why it's not leading to love.
Release Date: 10/10/2025
Why He Texts but doesn't Make Plans...and Why You're Chasing Him.
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He Texts But Makes No Plans: You had the perfect date. Amazing chemistry. Real connection. Then... he disappears into texting limbo. Good morning texts, funny memes, late-night calls—but never "When can I see you again?" If you've ever felt crazy trying to decode why a guy stays in constant contact but won't make plans, this episode will finally make it all make sense. In this episode, I break down: Why "if he wanted to he would" is incomplete advice that keeps you stuck How texting without plans becomes transactional (quarters and gumballs) Why all that standard advice (play hard to...
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EPISODE 145: Fantasy Bubble Paradox- Hopeless Romantic? Why it's not leading to love.
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🎙️ The Fantasy Bubble Paradox Why can’t you stop thinking about him — the guy who gives you just enough to keep you hooked but never enough to move forward? Why do you replay the texts, the almosts, the “maybe this time” moments? In this episode, Melissa breaks down what’s really happening when you fall for potential instead of reality — and why your brain turns red flags into love stories. This is the Fantasy Bubble Paradox: when your hope feeds his dopamine and his inconsistency keeps you addicted to the fantasy. You’ll learn: 💠Why fantasy feels like chemistry (and why...
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EPISODE 141: Why I left podcasting after getting married.
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I am so excited to be back, and I have so much to share. This podcast is like a phone call between you and me. I tell you what happened, why I stopped podcasting, why I did not want to share my relationship online. I also have a huge announcement and introducing a project I've been working on for a long time. It is FREE: Listen to the podcast and then come back and click the links below! The Gumball Love ROMANTIC QUIZ: The Gumball Love NON-ROMANTIC QUIZ: Website: Email Melissa: Instagram: @melissajaneroberts Private Facebook...
info_outline🎙️ The Fantasy Bubble Paradox
Why can’t you stop thinking about him — the guy who gives you just enough to keep you hooked but never enough to move forward? Why do you replay the texts, the almosts, the “maybe this time” moments?
In this episode, Melissa breaks down what’s really happening when you fall for potential instead of reality — and why your brain turns red flags into love stories. This is the Fantasy Bubble Paradox: when your hope feeds his dopamine and his inconsistency keeps you addicted to the fantasy.
You’ll learn:
💠Why fantasy feels like chemistry (and why it’s not)
⚡ How the dopamine–hope loop keeps you chasing the unavailable
🎬 The “Hollywood programming” that taught you chaos equals connection
🧠How to spot when your brain is writing a story instead of reading reality
If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why can’t I stop thinking about him even though I know better?” — this one will hit home.
Melissa pulls back the curtain on the subconscious pattern running your love life, reveals how the “quarter and gumball” dynamic keeps you stuck, and shows you how to finally burst the fantasy bubble — so you can stop waiting for the story and start living the love that’s real.
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