212: The Pressure to Have It All Figured Out By Now
She Doesn’t Settle
There's this voice in your head that says you should have it all figured out by now. Your career, your relationships, what you want - all of it. And if you don't, you feel behind. Like everyone else has it together and you're still struggling with things you think you should have figured out years ago. In this episode, I'm calling out that pressure for what it is: bullshit. No one has it all figured out. You're not behind. You're on your own path. Work with Kelly: (send an email and let's chat)
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211: You Don't Have to Know Everything
She Doesn’t Settle
You're exhausted. The news is constant, your phone is a pipeline of terrible things happening, and you're trying to hold your actual life together while also feeling like you're supposed to know everything, care about everything, stay engaged with everything. In this episode, I'm talking about the cost of staying informed - the pressure to stay plugged in, the guilt of wanting to disconnect, and whether tuning out is privilege or self-preservation. I don't have all the answers, but I know this: you can care about what's happening without destroying yourself in the process. Connect with Kelly...
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210: Why You Can't Give Feedback
She Doesn’t Settle
This is part 3 of our "Conversations You're Not Having" series. There's feedback you need to give - to your direct report, your colleague, your boss, maybe even in a personal relationship - and you're not giving it. You see the issue, you know it needs to be addressed, but you keep putting it off. In this episode, I break down the six reasons most people avoid giving feedback: fear of hurting feelings, fear of conflict, fear of being the bad guy, not knowing how to say it, convincing yourself it's not important, and fear of being wrong. Then I walk you through how to give feedback with both...
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209: Why You Can't Tell The Truth
She Doesn’t Settle
This is part of our "Conversations You're Not Having" series. And today...it's all about telling the truth. There's something you need to say, and you're not saying it. Maybe you're unhappy in your role, your relationship isn't working, you made a mistake, or you want something different than what you've been pretending to want. You know the truth - you're just not telling it. In this episode, I break down the six reasons women avoid telling the truth: fear of consequences, fear of being seen as negative or ungrateful, fear of looking incompetent, guilt, shame, and loss of control. The longer...
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208: Why You Can't Ask For What You Need
She Doesn’t Settle
This is the first in our "Conversations You're Not Having" series. Yay! In addition to this episode, there will be 4 other types of conversations you're not having that we will dig into. So, let's talk about this one. You know what you need. You need help, support, a raise, flexibility, your partner to step up - you know. But you can't bring yourself to ask for it. In this episode, I break down the five reasons women can't ask for what they need: guilt (asking feels selfish), shame (needing something feels like failure), fear of appearing weak, fear of rejection, and fear of losing control....
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207: Stop Fixing Other People's Problems
She Doesn’t Settle
You're the person everyone comes to with their problems. You listen, you care, and then you take it on as yours to solve. In this episode, we're going underneath the fixer pattern to look at what's actually driving it: a sense of justice and responsibility that won't let you stand by when something's wrong or when someone's struggling. In this episode, Kelly breaks down the two versions of this - the "this is wrong and I have to fix it" fixer and the "I have to help everyone" fixer - and why both are costing you more than you realize. to share specific challenges/questions you'd like for...
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206: The 'Do It All and Do It All Well' Trap
She Doesn’t Settle
She's baaakkkk! I'm so excited to bring back SDS with renewed energy and enthusiasm for this community. And with that...let's dive in to our first episode back. You're doing it all. You're doing it all well. And you're exhausted. In this episode, I'm breaking down why you can't seem to stop - and why the reason isn't the same for every woman. We're going underneath the "do it all" trap to look at what's actually driving it: fear, perfectionism, avoidance, identity, expectations, or control. Because you can't change a pattern until you know what's running it. to share specific...
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205: Final Episode: Should You Add or Subtract?
She Doesn’t Settle
In this episode, we dive deep into the importance of acknowledging what we need to add or subtract from our lives to foster growth and well-being. I share my personal decision to step away from podcasting to make room for what truly inspires me and aligns with my current goals. Join me as I encourage you to reflect on your own life—both personal and professional. What do you need to add or subtract that will support your growth? Plus, I’ll offer some thought-provoking ideas to get you thinking. If you find yourself needing further support, don’t hesitate to reach out! Looking for someone...
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204: The Power of Patience: Achieving Your Goals
She Doesn’t Settle
In this episode, Kelly is diving into the vital role of patience in achieving our goals and creating meaningful change. Setting goals is an exciting journey, but the path to reaching them can be full of unexpected challenges. Join Kelly as she explores the significance of patience, the ways to cultivate it, and stories of individuals who exemplified patience and perseverance in their pursuits. Tune in if you want to start moving beyond outcomes, focusing more on the process, and building resilience along the way. Episode Links: Email Kelly: support@kellytravis.net
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203: What's Your Interaction Style?
She Doesn’t Settle
Welcome to the second episode in our discussion around communication. Last week's episode we discussed conflict styles and today we are discussing interaction styles. In this episode I'm exploring three distinct interaction styles: Assertive, Compliant, and Withdrawn. These can also be referred to Hornevian Groups, named after the influential psychologist Karen Horney, that categorize the nine Enneagram Types. You’ll learn the key characteristics of each style (and how it shows up in each Enneagram Type), how they influence communication and relationships, and how to work with them. ...
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In this episode, Kelly breaks down the two versions of this - the "this is wrong and I have to fix it" fixer and the "I have to help everyone" fixer - and why both are costing you more than you realize.
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