249. How to Ditch the All-or-Nothing Mindset and Set Goals That Stick
Pursue Your Spark: Fitness, Confidence & Clarity in Midlife
Release Date: 11/27/2025
249. How to Ditch the All-or-Nothing Mindset and Set Goals That Stick
Pursue Your Spark: Fitness, Confidence & Clarity in Midlife
Tired of starting over every Monday? You’re not alone — and it’s not your fault. In How to Ditch the All-or-Nothing Mindset and Set Goals That Stick, I break down the real reason your workouts and nutrition plans don’t last: perfectionism disguised as discipline. So many midlife women believe if they can’t do it all — the perfect routine, the flawless food tracking, the six-day workout plan — then it’s not worth doing at all. But that mindset drains your energy and kills your progress. In this episode, I show you how to reframe the all-or-nothing fitness mindset into...
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248. What Your Midlife Symptoms Are Really Telling You / Andrea Nakayama
Pursue Your Spark: Fitness, Confidence & Clarity in Midlife
Midlife symptoms have a way of turning up the volume on everything you’ve been ignoring—fatigue, restlessness, burnout, or that persistent feeling that “this just isn’t working anymore.” In Episode 248: What Your Midlife Symptoms Are Really Telling You, I’m joined by functional nutritionist and educator Andrea Nakayama for a powerful reframe: your symptoms aren’t failures—they’re feedback. Andrea brings a fresh lens to midlife wellness, one that goes far beyond quick fixes and trendy biohacks. She invites us to listen—to treat our midlife symptoms as messengers,...
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247. Why Cardio Backfires in Midlife—and What to Do Instead
Pursue Your Spark: Fitness, Confidence & Clarity in Midlife
You're eating well, staying active, and doing everything that used to work—so why are you feeling tired, stuck, and frustrated with your results? In episode 247, “Why Cardio Backfires in Midlife—and What to Do Instead,” I break down why your once-trusted workout strategies may be failing you now—and what to do about it. If you’re still relying on cardio as your go-to solution, it’s time to reassess. Midlife changes everything, from hormones to muscle mass to recovery time. That means your fitness approach needs a serious upgrade. I explain why too much steady-state cardio...
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246. When Childhood Trauma Reawakens: Stacey Hettes on Healing After Midlife
Pursue Your Spark: Fitness, Confidence & Clarity in Midlife
Have you ever felt like you were finally okay—only to be blindsided by a wave of emotion you didn’t see coming? In this episode of Pursue Your Spark, “When Childhood Trauma Reawakens: Stacey Hettes on Healing After Midlife,” I sit down with Dr. Stacey Hettes, scientist, college professor, and author of Dispatches from the Couch, to explore how deeply buried childhood trauma can resurface in midlife—and how we begin to heal truly. We dig into the ACEs framework (Adverse Childhood Experiences) and how Dr. Hettes used it to make sense of emotional shutdown, people-pleasing, and...
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245. What To Eat After 40 To Boost Energy
Pursue Your Spark: Fitness, Confidence & Clarity in Midlife
Do you find yourself dragging through the afternoon, reaching for coffee or snacks just to stay awake? You’re not alone. After 40, those 2 p.m. crashes become more common—and it has nothing to do with motivation. It’s your hormones and nutrition working differently now, and midlife nutrition plays a much bigger role than it used to. In Episode 245: What To Eat After 40 To Boost Energy, I explain how hormone shifts, stress, and sleep all affect your energy. As estrogen trends down, your body becomes more sensitive to carbs. Add cortisol spikes from stress and poor sleep, and...
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244. Aqua Yoga for Midlife Strength / Christa Fairbrother
Pursue Your Spark: Fitness, Confidence & Clarity in Midlife
Struggling with stiff joints, low energy, or feeling unsure how to move your body without hurting it? You’re not alone—and in Episode 244: Aqua Yoga for Midlife Strength, we explore how the pool might just be your new best friend. I talk with Christa Fairbrother, a former farrier turned aqua yoga teacher, who shares how a painful autoimmune diagnosis changed her path—and how movement in the water gave her strength, balance, and confidence again. We go deep into why aqua yoga is one of the best low-impact workouts for midlife bodies, especially when arthritis or chronic illness...
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243. How to Reset After Summer Without Diets or Guilt In Midlife
Pursue Your Spark: Fitness, Confidence & Clarity in Midlife
After a season of rosé, ice cream, and skipped workouts, many women feel the urge to “start over.” But here’s the truth: restriction and guilt aren’t the answer. Instead of punishing yourself for summer indulgences, you can embrace a different approach—one that feels empowering, sustainable, and kind. That’s exactly what I share in my new post, Reset After Summer: A Midlife Healthy Eating Guide. This isn’t about diets, detoxes, or a perfect Monday plan. It’s about creating a realistic reset for midlife women—one rooted in food freedom, energy, and confidence. A healthy...
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242. Holistic Psychology for Stress Relief: Bridging Eastern and Western Healing/ Tatiana Miller
Pursue Your Spark: Fitness, Confidence & Clarity in Midlife
Ever been told “it’s all in your head” when you know your body is asking for help? That disconnect is more than frustrating—it’s often the very thing that deepens our stress, amplifies burnout, and keeps us stuck. In Episode 242: Holistic Psychology for Stress Relief: Bridging Eastern and Western Healing, I sit down with holistic psychologist Tatiana Miller to explore what happens when we stop chasing symptoms and start listening to our whole selves. Tatiana’s story is powerful—from years of being dismissed by Western doctors to discovering healing through yoga,...
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241. The Confidence Gap In Midlife No One Talks About
Pursue Your Spark: Fitness, Confidence & Clarity in Midlife
Ever walk away from a conversation thinking, “Why didn’t I just say what I meant?” That gut punch isn’t just frustration—it’s a sign of something deeper. In episode 241, The Confidence Gap No One Talks About, we unpack why so many midlife women silence themselves—and how to break that cycle. This episode is about power. The quiet kind. The kind you feel when you reclaim your voice in midlife and finally say what you mean. We explore what the confidence gap really looks like. It’s not always obvious. Sometimes it hides behind people-pleasing, over-explaining, or...
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240. From Trauma to Times Square: Amy Thurman’s Journey of Healing and Purpose
Pursue Your Spark: Fitness, Confidence & Clarity in Midlife
Sometimes the most powerful journeys begin not with a step forward, but with a fall that forces you to rise differently. Amy Thurman’s life changed in an instant after a traumatic brain injury left her unable to walk, talk, or see clearly. In Episode 240: From Trauma to Times Square, Amy shares her raw and remarkable story of healing and personal growth in midlife. But her story isn’t just about recovery—it’s about rediscovering purpose and becoming a guide for others. Now a speaker, author, and founder of the Mirror Collective, Amy created the “Polish the Mirror” framework to...
info_outlineTired of starting over every Monday? You’re not alone — and it’s not your fault.
In How to Ditch the All-or-Nothing Mindset and Set Goals That Stick, I break down the real reason your workouts and nutrition plans don’t last: perfectionism disguised as discipline.
So many midlife women believe if they can’t do it all — the perfect routine, the flawless food tracking, the six-day workout plan — then it’s not worth doing at all. But that mindset drains your energy and kills your progress.
In this episode, I show you how to reframe the all-or-nothing fitness mindset into something realistic and actually doable. You’ll learn why real results come from consistent action, not from doing everything perfectly.
I share how missing a workout isn’t failure. It’s part of the process. I explain how to shift your mindset to focus on habits that support your life, rather than someone else’s plan.
You’ll walk away with a clear strategy to stop quitting, build energy, and regain trust in yourself. Plus, I’ll walk you through the exact reframes I use with my clients — and in my own training — to ditch guilt and create momentum.
If you’re done with the quick fixes and ready to build something that lasts, this one’s for you.
Let’s leave perfection behind and build real progress — together.
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