266. You Took Care of Everyone Else… But Lost Yourself | Denise Drinkwalter
Pursue Your Spark: Midlife Fitness & Mindset for Women Feeling Stuck
Release Date: 07/23/2026
266. You Took Care of Everyone Else… But Lost Yourself | Denise Drinkwalter
Pursue Your Spark: Midlife Fitness & Mindset for Women Feeling Stuck
Losing yourself in midlife can happen so gradually that you don't even notice it. One day, you realize you've spent years taking care of everyone else, but you've lost touch with yourself. In Episode 266, You Took Care of Everyone Else… But Lost Yourself, Denise Drinkwalter joins me for an honest conversation about why so many women reach this point and how they can begin finding themselves again. We talk about how women often build their identity around being needed. Between raising families, building careers, supporting partners, and caring for others, it's easy to believe your...
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265. The Midlife Body Disconnect No One Talks About
Pursue Your Spark: Midlife Fitness & Mindset for Women Feeling Stuck
What if the problem isn't your body? What if the real reason you feel frustrated with your changing body has nothing to do with motivation, discipline, or getting older? In Episode 265, The Midlife Body Disconnect No One Talks About, I explore why so many women lose touch with their bodies during midlife—and why reconnecting with the body you have today may be the missing piece to rebuilding midlife confidence. In this episode, I explain why so many women lose confidence when their bodies begin to change. Hormonal shifts, increased stress, changing priorities, and slower recovery all...
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264. Why People Pleasing and Perfectionism Keep You Stuck in Midlife | Cindy Payne
Pursue Your Spark: Midlife Fitness & Mindset for Women Feeling Stuck
You say yes when you want to say no. You take care of everyone else first. And no matter how much you accomplish, it never feels like enough. Sound familiar? In Episode 264, "Why People Pleasing and Perfectionism Keep You Stuck in Midlife," I sit down with therapist Cindy Payne to explore why People Pleasing in Midlife keeps so many women exhausted, disconnected, and feeling stuck. For years, many of us have learned to be the good daughter. The good partner. The good employee. The good mom. We say yes when we want to say no. We put everyone else's needs ahead of our own. We work...
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263. You Know It Doesn't Work: Why Women Keep Repeating the Same Habits in Midlife
Pursue Your Spark: Midlife Fitness & Mindset for Women Feeling Stuck
Have you ever caught yourself going back to the same habit, routine, or plan even though you already know it doesn't work? If so, you're not alone. In Episode 263, You Know It Doesn't Work: Why Women Keep Repeating the Same Habits in Midlife, I explore one of the most frustrating patterns I see in women today: knowing what isn't working yet continuing to return to it. In this episode, I take a closer look at why so many women feeling stuck find themselves caught in a cycle of starting over. I discuss how old fitness routines, nutrition plans, and wellness habits can become familiar...
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262. Midlife Anxiety: Doing All the Right Things… and Still Feeling On Edge| Dr. Nicole Cain
Pursue Your Spark: Midlife Fitness & Mindset for Women Feeling Stuck
You’re eating well and exercising, trying to stay positive, and holding everything together. Yet somehow, you still feel anxious, overstimulated, exhausted, or emotionally on edge. If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. In Episode 262. Doing All the Right Things… and Still Feeling On Edge, I sit down with Dr. Nicole Cain to talk about why anxiety often changes during midlife and why it’s rarely “just stress.” Together, we explore the deeper connection between hormones, gut health, nervous system regulation, emotional patterns, chronic overwhelm, and the body’s...
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261. Why You Keep Starting Over and Still Feel Stuck in Midlife
Pursue Your Spark: Midlife Fitness & Mindset for Women Feeling Stuck
Do you keep telling yourself, “I’ll start Monday again,” only to end up frustrated, overwhelmed, and stuck in the same place a few weeks later? In this episode of the Pursue Your Spark Podcast, 261. Why You Keep Starting Over and Still Feel Stuck in Midlife, I’m unpacking one of the biggest hidden reasons women in midlife struggle with consistency, healthy habits, midlife wellness, and motivation — and it’s probably not what you think. Because here’s the truth: you may not actually have a discipline problem. You may have a resetting problem. So many women in...
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260. How Good Girl Rules Keep Women Feeling Stuck in Midlife / Sue Willoughby
Pursue Your Spark: Midlife Fitness & Mindset for Women Feeling Stuck
You’ve gotten really good at being the one who adjusts—and in midlife, you start to feel the cost of it. In Episode 260, How Good Girl Rules Keep Women Feeling Stuck in Midlife/ Sue Willoughby, I sit down with Sue to explore how good girl rules in midlife quietly shape how women think, act, and show up—often through patterns such as being agreeable, accommodating, and always putting others first. These patterns can work for a long time. Until they don’t. Moreover, we unpack why midlife is the exact moment these rules begin to break down. What once felt natural can start to...
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259. Why Your Midlife Fitness Routine Stopped Working (It’s Not Discipline)
Pursue Your Spark: Midlife Fitness & Mindset for Women Feeling Stuck
Why does it feel like no matter how many times I reset my routine… nothing sticks anymore? In this episode, Why Your Midlife Fitness Routine Stopped Working (It’s Not Discipline), I dive into a pattern I see again and again—and one I know personally: the reorganization loop. I keep trying to fix things by organizing better. Moreover, I adjust my schedule, rebuild my routines, and create new plans. And for a moment, it feels productive. In addition, it gives me a sense of control. However, that feeling doesn’t last—and the routines still don’t stick. Here’s what I’ve...
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258. How to Get Organized in Midlife Without Feeling Behind / Tracy Hoth
Pursue Your Spark: Midlife Fitness & Mindset for Women Feeling Stuck
How to get organized often feels impossible when you're already mentally and emotionally overloaded. For many midlife women, organizing isn’t just about clutter — it’s about exhaustion, pressure, and the quiet belief that they’re somehow “behind.” That belief alone can keep you stuck far longer than the stuff itself. In Episode 258 of Pursue Your Spark, How to Get Organized in Midlife Without Feeling Behind I sit down with professional organizer and coach Tracy Hoth to shift the entire conversation around organization. Instead of chasing perfection, Tracy offers a...
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257. Midlife Confidence: Why Speaking Up Still Leaves You Feeling Small
Pursue Your Spark: Midlife Fitness & Mindset for Women Feeling Stuck
Have you ever said exactly what needed to be said—calmly, clearly, respectfully—and still walked away feeling smaller afterward? Not because the conversation went badly. But because something inside you felt unsettled… like you handled it well, yet it still didn’t feel right. In Episode 257, Midlife Confidence: Why Speaking Up Still Leaves You Feeling Small we’re looking at a pattern many women experience but rarely talk about. We speak up, we stay composed, we say the words that need to be said—and somehow we still shrink a little on the inside. Midlife is often the...
info_outlineLosing yourself in midlife can happen so gradually that you don't even notice it. One day, you realize you've spent years taking care of everyone else, but you've lost touch with yourself.
In Episode 266, You Took Care of Everyone Else… But Lost Yourself, Denise Drinkwalter joins me for an honest conversation about why so many women reach this point and how they can begin finding themselves again.
We talk about how women often build their identity around being needed. Between raising families, building careers, supporting partners, and caring for others, it's easy to believe your worth comes from what you do rather than who you are. Over time, those patterns can leave you feeling disconnected, even when life looks successful from the outside.
Denise shares why awareness is the first step toward change. Instead of looking for more things to do or for answers outside yourself, she encourages us to slow down and ask a simple yet powerful question: "When was the last time I truly felt like myself?"
We also discuss why our bodies often signal when something is out of balance, why many women avoid slowing down, and how reconnecting with yourself doesn't require dramatic changes. It begins with paying attention to what brings you joy, noticing what gives you energy, and remembering who you were before life became filled with responsibilities.
Losing yourself in midlife doesn't mean you've lost yourself forever. It simply means it's time to become curious again. This conversation is an invitation to stop measuring your worth by how much you do for everyone else and begin making space for the person you've always been.
If you've been feeling disconnected or wondering what's next, I hope this episode reminds you that finding yourself again starts with one honest question and one small step at a time.
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