A multidisciplinary artist, Stefni Valencia is an inspiration to women.She not only sings, she’s a composer, actress, events and radio host, and teacher of aerial art.
She became a motivational speaker to young students when she was only in junior high. She knew early on she had to be her own best friend and a friend discovered this confidence and maturity and encouraged her to speak to young adults.
She has worked with at-risk youth. She says “You have to be fearless and know who you are.”
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Know who you are.
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Be happy with who you are.
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Do things for yourself.
When doing an excercise with adults she discovered that a majority of adults couldn't feel comfortable walking into a room and introducing themselves.
“I didn’t realize how intimidating it was for people to walk into a room and introduce yourself.”
“I am exuding this confidence that I feel good.” Stefni says if I tell someone I look adorable in sweats, then if I walk in they will tell say "I look adorable in sweats."
If you don’t know who you are, you get vacuumed into someone else aura.
Stefni tells me a story about going to your wonderland.
“Go to your wonderland”
Here is an exercise Stefni says to consider when it comes to picturing and truly living the life you want.
She tells me she had a conversation with junior high students about ‘self-esteem,’ and when you find the significant other to stay true to yourself.
“The moment you start allowing and making excuses that’s when you start opening up the floodgates.”
She says to close your eyes and walk into a world, like your own wonderland. Picture the best version of yourself. What do you see? What do you look like, what are you wearing?
She said how many of you look exactly the same. How many looked like a different person.
She said one girl pictured herself with different outfit, and short hair… the next day that person found Stefni. She was actually a teacher, not a student. She said she later went home and broke up with her boyfriend. Stefni said it took a high schooler to come and open my eyes for me to realize I was living a sham of a relationship. She was looking a certain way for her boyfriend.
Stefni says if you even touch one person who can relate, that’s one person whose life you changed today. “My way isn’t the right way, my way is just my way,” Stefni says this is where the confidence comes into play to live your most authentic life.
Ways to stay grounded:
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Unplug from digital life.
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Life is passing you by it’s not going to stop. It’s not going to rewind. Focus on your breathing.
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Look around.
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Sit at a coffee shop and people watch.
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Take the moment to yourself to see what’s around you, instead of what’s next.
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Literally stop and smell the roses.
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Get back to what you want and need in life.
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Are you living a fulfilling life for yourself?
GO TO YOUR WONDERLAND!
How to find Stefni Valencia:
Website: StefniValencia.com.
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/msstefniv/
iTunes: https://music.apple.com/us/album/es-as%C3%AD-single/1458540486?app=music&ign-mpt=uo%3D4