336: Growing Realtor Confidence in Your First Three Years

You got your license… now what?

 

The first three years in real estate can feel like complete chaos. And if you're like a lot of newer agents, you might find yourself wondering, “Am I just too sensitive for this?” In this episode, we’re tackling a topic that no one seems to talk about: how to build *true* Realtor confidence in those early years — especially when you feel like you're fumbling your way through.

 

What sparked this conversation? A heartfelt listener email asking for help navigating agent-to-agent interactions, self-doubt, sensitivity, and the struggle to find confidence. Katy and Alissa get real about what those early years *really* look like, how long it actually takes to build a solid business, and what mindset shifts and systems will make all the difference.

 

This one’s packed with stories, pep talks, and some tough love (with humor, of course!) to help you stop overthinking, start showing up, and grow into the confident, professional Realtor you’re meant to be.

 

Here’s what we cover in this episode:

- When your “3-year clock” really starts ticking

- Why being licensed doesn’t equal experience

- How veteran agents can sniff out a lack of confidence

- Mistakes new agents make in agent-to-agent communication

- How systems (like email templates!) instantly boost confidence

- Why your job is NOT to make everyone happy

- How to practice confidence — before you have clients

- Where to turn for help when your broker isn’t available

- Tips for setting expectations and avoiding emotional rollercoasters

- Power poses + mindset tricks to build immediate confidence

- Why every transaction impacts your long-term business

Key Quotes & Takeaways

1. "You don’t need five years to be good — you just need systems, education, and the willingness to do the work." – Katy

2. "The three-year clock doesn’t start until you actually start working." – Alissa

3. "Confidence comes from clarity. If you don’t know the steps, you won’t feel strong." – Katy

4. "Every client is your walking billboard — good or bad." – Alissa

5. "Your job isn’t to make everyone happy — it’s to represent your client well." – Katy

Products, People & Previous Episodes Mentioned:

• Email Templates 101

• Agent Systems 101

• Free Database Template

• Amy Cuddy’s TED Talk: “Your Body Language May Shape Who You Are”

• Episode 146: Confidence and Self Doubt

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