Ep. 108 - The Power of Relationship Intelligence: Healing Trauma & Taking Accountability in Love & Beyond

Episode Description

Have you ever heard of Relationship Intelligence? It’s the ability to truly understand the dynamics in all of our connections—with our partners, our family, and ourselves—and elevate them from ordinary to extraordinary. In this energizing episode, I’m joined by relationship coach Jasmine Cruz to break down this powerful concept. We get real about why so many of us are taught to choose ourselves late in life, often only after we’ve been hurt. Jasmine shares her incredibly empowering perspective on trauma, teaching us how to define our experiences instead of letting them define us. This conversation is a masterclass in taking accountability, doing the deep inner work, and understanding the power of prayer, process, and progress. If you’re ready to stop suffering in silence and start building healthier, more intelligent relationships, you don’t want to miss this.

 

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Show Notes

In this episode, I'm joined by my girl, relationship coach Jasmine "Jazz" Cruz, for a conversation that will light a fire in your soul as apart of the I Choose Me Book Tour. We start by exploring her core concept of Relationship Intelligence and how it’s the key to navigating every connection in your life. Jasmine’s energy is unmatched as she explains why we must take accountability for our own happiness and stop waiting until we hit rock bottom to finally choose ourselves. She shares her powerful approach to healing, where she thanks her past traumas for the strength they gave her, refusing to let them define who she is today. We also discuss the importance of giving grace to our parents, who were often doing the best they could with the resources they had. This episode is packed with mic-drop moments and practical wisdom to help you become the expert in your own life.

In this episode, you will learn:

• What Relationship Intelligence is and how it applies to every relationship you have, not just romantic ones.

• Why we are often conditioned to choose ourselves late in life and the profound impact this has on our well-being.

• A powerful mindset for reframing past trauma so that you define it, instead of it defining you.

• The importance of accountability and why you must be willing to "carry your own backpack" to do the real healing work.

• How to extend grace to past generations, understanding that our parents could only give us what they had access to.

• Three transformative tips centered on being a forever student, the power of love, and the magic in the "prayer, the process, and the progress".

 

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Timestamped Highlights

• [00:01:42] Jasmine defines the powerful concept of Relationship Intelligence.

• [00:03:25] Jasmine shares her word of the year: Family.

• [00:06:54] A key question is posed: "Why are we choosing ourselves so late in life?"

• [00:11:00] Jasmine shares her empowering perspective on trauma: "I define the trauma. I do not allow it to shape or measure who I am."

• [00:14:13] We discuss moving past the victim mentality by looking in the mirror and taking accountability.

• [00:19:26] Jasmine uses a brilliant flight attendant analogy to explain the necessity of "doing your own work."

• [00:23:10] Jasmine shares her three core values: Be Healed, Be Heard, and Be Loved.

• [00:24:22] Jasmine gives her three powerful and actionable tips for listeners on their journey.

 

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Resources Mentioned

• My Upcoming Free Masterclass: Coming Back To Me - How to Reclaim Confidence, Boundaries, and Peace Without Burning it all Down (Podcast Anniversary) -More Details when sign up to our email list at intentionalqueenjourney.com!

• My Book: I Choose Me: The Guide to Never Lose Yourself Again

• Jasmine's Masterclass: Relationship Mastery Masterclass

• Jasmine's Program: Relationship Intelligence 12-Week Cohort

Connect with Jasmine Cruz

• Instagram: @livelovetank

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