Co-Parenting Through Coercive Control: Responding with Power, Protecting with Love featuring Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW
Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast
Release Date: 06/17/2025
Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast
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info_outlineCoercive control doesn’t end with separation—and when children are involved, the stakes are even higher. In this compelling episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, host Karen McMahon sits down with Dr. Christine Cocchiola, a leading expert and passionate advocate in the field of coercive control, to explore how this invisible form of abuse continues to impact families long after the relationship ends.
Together, they unpack how emotional abuse often flies under the radar, the lasting harm it causes to both parents and children, and how protective parents can navigate the ongoing manipulation with clarity, strength, and love. If you've felt trapped in a battle where your integrity and your child’s well-being are constantly under attack, this conversation offers validation—and a way forward.
Dr. Cocchiola shares powerful insights on how to stay emotionally grounded, respond without reactivity, and support your child’s healing without gaslighting yourself or them. She explores the role trauma plays in behavioral issues and emphasizes the importance of becoming a consistent source of safety and truth in your child’s life.
This episode introduces a strategy to help you lead with intention: Predict what your children may have heard, Prepare your grounded response, and Protect both yourself and your child.
It’s not just about recognizing the harm—it’s about rising to meet it. Your steady, loving presence may be the most powerful tool your child has—and the clearest reflection of your own healing and hope.
Connect with Dr. Christine:
- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DrCocchiola/videos
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol
- Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/perfect-prey-podcast/id1704962170
Resources Mentioned in this episode:
- Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce
- Join the High Conflict Divorce Support Group: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsg
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