Masturbation & Neurodivergent Kids: What’s Normal and What to Say
Just Say This! How to talk with ALL kids about sex!
Release Date: 01/07/2026
Masturbation & Neurodivergent Kids: What’s Normal and What to Say
Just Say This! How to talk with ALL kids about sex!
Worried about your child masturbating? Every kid discovers their body, and every parent wonders what to do about it. The good news? You can handle this without freaking out, shutting it down, or over-explaining. Neurodivergent kids may touch their privates to stim, when they are anxious or just because it feels good. They often struggle with public/private and this can make parents crazy. Here's some ideas about how to help them learn about appropriate times to do this. Watch here: All Kids Episode on ND Kids Episode on Read . Got some thoughts or questions? ...
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Just Say This! How to talk with ALL kids about sex!
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Just Say This! How to talk with ALL kids about sex!
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Just Say This! How to talk with ALL kids about sex!
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Just Say This! How to talk with ALL kids about sex!
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Just Say This! How to talk with ALL kids about sex!
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Just Say This! How to talk with ALL kids about sex!
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info_outlineWorried about your child masturbating? Every kid discovers their body, and every parent wonders what to do about it. The good news? You can handle this without freaking out, shutting it down, or over-explaining.
Neurodivergent kids may touch their privates to stim, when they are anxious or just because it feels good. They often struggle with public/private and this can make parents crazy.
Here's some ideas about how to help them learn about appropriate times to do this.
Watch here:
All Kids Episode on YouTube
ND Kids Episode on YouTube
Read here.
Got some thoughts or questions?
Amy@BirdsAndBeesAndKid.com
Learn more!
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The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for ALL Kids: Neurotypical & Neurodivergent
All the topics you’ll need to cover as your kids grow up! Puberty, consent, relationship, and sex (of course)!
The Birds & Bees Solutions Center for Parents of Neurodivergent Kids
Get the tools to communicate with your neurodivergent kid about sex, consent, and safety—without awkwardness or overwhelm.
Simple tools for the porn and online safety talks—plus videos and tech tips to calm your worries. Includes a specific video for parents of neurodivergent kids.
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