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Family, Shame, and Becoming Yourself Part 2 | Legally Clueless Ep360

Legally Clueless

Release Date: 01/11/2026

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In Part Two of Hekaya’s story, the conversation deepens into reproductive choice, healing, and what it means to consciously choose a childfree life. Hekaya reflects on getting pregnant while in university, choosing to terminate the pregnancy, and navigating the experience largely in silence. She speaks candidly about relief, guilt, and the shame that followed and how she continued with life before she had the language or space to process what had happened.
 
This episode also explores Hekaya's journey toward identifying as childfree, not as a reaction, not as fear, but as clarity. She unpacks the societal pressure placed on women to justify not wanting children, the erasure of women’s identities within motherhood, and why choosing not to have children can be a deeply intentional and loving decision. Hekaya shares how healing came later through slowing down, therapy, inner work, unlearning religious conditioning, reconnecting with her body, and finding community that allowed her to feel seen and understood.
 
This is a conversation about choice, autonomy, and trusting yourself, even when your decisions are misunderstood. If you’ve ever questioned whether your desires are “valid enough,” felt silenced around reproductive choice, or needed permission to define fulfillment on your own terms, this episode is for you.
 
KEY THEMES
  • Reproductive choice and bodily autonomy
  • Terminating a pregnancy and navigating shame
  • Being childfree vs childless
  • Identity, motherhood, and self-preservation
  • Healing after trauma and delayed processing
  • Therapy, inner work, and unlearning conditioning
  • Choosing community and chosen family
THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF:
  • You’ve felt pressure to want motherhood
  • You’ve made reproductive choices in silence
  • You’re childfree or questioning motherhood
  • You’re doing the work of healing and self-understanding
  • You want stories that center women’s agency without judgment
JOIN THE LEGALLY CLUELESS COMMUNITY: If this episode resonated, please share it with someone who might need to hear it, and leave us a review, it helps more African women find stories that remind them they are not alone.
 
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