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Betrayed by Charisma: When Charm is a Mask for Manipulation

Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs

Release Date: 08/25/2025

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In this powerful episode, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert Lisa A. Romano explores the hidden dangers of falling for charisma—especially for adult children of narcissistic or emotionally immature parents. If you've ever been drawn to someone magnetic and charming, only to feel emotionally used, discarded, or confused, this episode will help you understand the deeper psychological dynamics at play.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Why individuals with abandonment trauma and codependent traits are especially susceptible to charm

  • How narcissists use charisma as a tool of emotional manipulation and control

  • The devastating impact of betrayal by someone who once made you feel special, seen, or chosen

  • How to distinguish real connection from performative affection

  • Why ignoring your gut instincts leads to emotional disorientation—and how to start trusting yourself again

Why This Matters

Charisma is not the same as character. For those who have experienced childhood emotional neglect, the attention of a charismatic partner can feel intoxicating—like love, validation, and safety all rolled into one. But when that charm is weaponized by someone with narcissistic tendencies, it can leave you emotionally devastated and doubting your sense of reality.

This episode is for anyone ready to wake up from the spell of manipulative charm and step into a more grounded, self-aware, and emotionally empowered life.

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