Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs

Lisa A. Romano is a globally recognized Breakthrough Life Coach, award-winning author, and a leading expert in emotional recovery. Named the #1 Most Influential Person of 2020 and one of the World's Most Inspiring Women of 2023, Lisa has dedicated her career to helping others break free from the chains of codependency and narcissistic abuse. As the creator of the Conscious Healing Academy, she has developed a groundbreaking approach to emotional recovery that focuses on healing the deep-rooted causes of the false self so as to make a path forward to the authentic self. Lisa’s work is driven by her belief in the transformative power of an organized mind. She teaches that true healing begins when individuals can confront and dismantle the subconscious beliefs that keep them trapped in patterns of self-sabotage and emotional pain. Through her coaching, writing, and educational programs, Lisa empowers her clients to awaken to their authentic selves, guiding them on a journey of self-discovery and personal empowerment. With a mission to help others live above the veil of consciousness, Lisa's influence extends far beyond her coaching practice. Her insights and teachings have inspired millions worldwide to take control of their lives, break free from toxic relationships, and embrace a path of self-love and true fulfillment. Contact coach@lisaaromano.com or visit https://www.lisaaromano.com to learn about how Lisa and her team can assist with your expansion of consciousness despite a painful past.

How to Find Your Purpose After Trauma 01/05/2026

How to Find Your Purpose After Trauma If you were raised in a dysfunctional, toxic home, and you struggle today with codependency, self-worth, and relationships, it is easy to lose a sense of meaning and purpose in life. Childhood trauma arrests the mind in a state of hypervigilance, worry, and fear. And although that is not your fault, if this is your experience, until we stop, look within, and take the time to integrate the past with the now, our future becomes a copy of the past, like it or not. There is great hope for the one willing to go within. Lisa A. Romano gently unpacks why so many of us feel stuck chasing something outside ourselves—while the real answer lives in the now. Through neuroscience, psychology, and spiritual wisdom, she shows how trauma wires the brain to equate authenticity with danger, creating the illusion of separation from your highest self— and how to integrate, regulate, and come home to who you truly are. You’ll learn: • Why the brain’s prediction machine keeps you looping old stories • How the ego clings to identities (both “I’m great” and “I’m broken”) to feel safe • Using mindfulness & metacognition to quiet the default mode network • Practical ways to down-regulate the nervous system and end the inner war • The first veil to break: “I am separate from my true self” • How integration (not perfection) creates purpose, peace, and presence Chapters 00:00 Welcome – If meaning feels out of reach 02:12 Trauma, neurology & the illusion of self 06:45 The first veil: separation from the higher self 10:18 Why your brain resists authenticity (safety vs. unfamiliar) 14:30 Ego identities on both ends of the spectrum 18:40 Mindfulness, observer mode & metacognition 22:55 Integration over fragmentation: ending the inner war 27:40 Rewiring shame & reclaiming self-worth 32:10 Unity, love-consciousness & true purpose in the now 36:50 Your next steps + resources Take the next step Ready for a map to rewire your mind and reconnect to your true self? Join Lisa’s 12 Week Breakthrough Program to heal at the subconscious level, regulate your nervous system, and integrate your higher self into daily life. 👉 Start here: Need guidance on which program fits you best? Email . You are enough! #purpose #meaningoflife #consciousness #traumahealing #shadowwork #innerpeace #egodeath #mindfulness #selflove #lisaaromano #12weekbreakthrough #innerchildhealing #selfhelppodcast #selflove #selfgrowth #personalgrowth #healingjourney #selfhealing #adultchildrenofalcoholics #adultchildrenofalcoholics #dysfunctionalfamily #codependency /episode/index/show/lisaaromano/id/38895265

How Childhood Trauma Rewires Your Brain Traps You in a False Identity Neuroscience of Identity 12/29/2025

How Childhood Trauma Rewires Your Brain Traps You in a False Identity Neuroscience of Identity Why do we get stuck on the path of healing—even when we know what to do? In this profound and spiritually charged episode, Lisa A. Romano explores what it truly means to break through the veil—the illusion of the false self that trauma and programming have built around our consciousness. Lisa reveals how trauma rewires the brain to associate authenticity with danger, causing us to abandon our true selves and live from the ego’s illusion of safety. Through the lens of neuroscience, psychology, and spirituality, she helps listeners understand why healing requires more than insight—it requires reprogramming the mind and meeting the shadow self head-on. In this episode, you’ll learn: ✨ How trauma wires the brain for survival over truth and authenticity 🧠 Why the brain mistakes the unfamiliar (like love or peace) as unsafe 💫 What “breaking the mirror of self” means on a neurological and spiritual level 🪞 How to detach from false identity—“I’m not my thoughts, not my fears, not my name” 🌌 Why ego death is necessary for spiritual rebirth and emotional freedom ⚡ How to move from survival into thriving through conscious awareness and metacognition This episode is for you if: ✔️ You feel spiritually stuck even after years of self-work ✔️ You struggle to let go of people, habits, or beliefs that no longer serve you ✔️ You crave emotional freedom and want to understand why your brain resists change ✔️ You’re ready to see beyond the illusion of self and live as an extension of consciousness Begin Your Breakthrough Lisa’s 12 Week Breakthrough Program gives you the neuroscience-based roadmap to rewire your subconscious mind, calm your nervous system, and reconnect with your true self beyond trauma and illusion. 👉 Start your journey today: #TraumaHealing #SpiritualAwakening #EgoDeath #ShadowWork #InnerChildHealing #Consciousness #NeuroscienceOfHealing #TraumaRecovery #SubconsciousMind #CodependencyRecovery #HealingJourney #LisaARomanoPodcast #YouAreEnough #12WeekBreakthrough /episode/index/show/lisaaromano/id/38894900

The ACOA Blind Spot: 5 Patterns Keeping You Stuck & The Road Back to You 12/22/2025

The ACOA Blind Spot: 5 Patterns Keeping You Stuck & The Road Back to You Why do so many high-functioning adults secretly feel “something’s wrong”—even when life looks fine on paper? In this empowering episode, Lisa A. Romano uncovers the ACOA blind spot: the predictable patterns that form when alcoholism (or “dry” alcoholism) and emotional neglect shape a family system. You’ll learn the five core patterns that keep adult children and grandchildren of alcoholics stuck—and the practical roadmap for getting your power, clarity, and self-respect back. The 5 patterns you’ll recognize: Reality Denied — Gaslighting and minimization train you to distrust your own signals Feelings Weren’t Safe — Emotions got linked to danger, so you muted your inner compass Survival Roles = Identity — Caretaker/hero/scapegoat/lost child replace authentic selfhood Wired for Chaos — The brain’s predictive coding + hypervigilance keep you on high alert Internalized Shame — The hidden “I’m the problem” lens that sabotages love and worth You’ll also learn: How to bring the prefrontal cortex online and soothe Amy the amygdala & Harry the hippocampus Journaling and mindfulness practices that reorganize the mind and rebuild self-trust Language to spot covert denial, dry alcoholism, and narcissistic dynamics—fast This episode is for you if: No one in your family talks about addiction, yet dysfunction is obvious You’re praised for being “strong,” but feel unseen, anxious, or chronically not enough You keep tolerating disrespect or pick partners who exploit your caretaking You’re ready to identify the hole in the wall—and finally fix it Begin Your Breakthrough Lisa’s 12 Week Breakthrough Program gives you a step-by-step, neuroscience-based path to calm your nervous system, reprogram subconscious patterns, and rebuild a self-concept rooted in worthiness. 👉 Start your journey: #ACOA #AdultChildrenOfAlcoholics #IntergenerationalTrauma #CodependencyRecovery #EmotionalNeglect #InnerChildHealing #NervousSystemRegulation #OrganizedMind #Boundaries #LisaARomanoPodcast #YouAreEnough #codependency #emotionalhealing #healingchildhoodtrauma #innerchildwork /episode/index/show/lisaaromano/id/38469185

Are You a Grandchild of Alcoholics? Why That One Insight Can Change Everything 12/15/2025

Are You a Grandchild of Alcoholics? Why That One Insight Can Change Everything Codependents, people-pleasers, those who fawn, seek approval, and external validation, do not consciously understand why they are so frustrated and unhappy. Codependency and fawning are trauma responses that all lead to anger, and resentment. Oftentimes, those who are struggling with emotional and mental health issues, who seek help, are misunderstood when they are codependent. Their symptoms are vague, yet incredibly disruptive and tormenting. When a codependent seeks help, they complain about others, because they have been programmed to believe that someone or something outside of them is the cure for their ills. In this episode, Lisa A. Romano reveals how knowledge helps us organize the mind. Taking an objective look at our family of origin history helps unlock the secrets to why we do what we do, think what we think, and feel what we feel. When Lisa was finally diagnosed with codependency, and her therapist helped her investigate her family history, feeling stuck, angry, and resentful all began making sense. Today you will learn about: 🌱 Family history and why it matters if you feel stuck. 🌱 Why anxiety is a symptom of a lack of self-knowledge. 🌱 How learning to embrace inner child and codependency recovery work helps you repair those early stages of emotional development that went awry 🌱How your grandparents alcoholism effected the way your parents parent you 🌱 Why all adult children of alcoholics, narcissists and dysfunctional parents pass along unhealed trauma Your Healing Starts Within Lisa’s 12 Week Breakthrough Program is a neuroscience-based roadmap to help you gently rewire subconscious patterns, regulate your nervous system, and return home to your authentic self. 👉 Begin your journey: #HealingJourney #SpiritualAwakening #InnerConnection #TraumaRecovery #NeuroscienceHealing #SelfDiscovery #YouAreEnough #LisaARomanoPodcast #PurposeWithin #toxicfamily #adultchildrenofalcoholics #lettinggo #innerchildhealing #toxicfamilysystems #codependencyrecovery #lisaaromano #mentalhealthpodcast #healingjourney #selfhelppodcast /episode/index/show/lisaaromano/id/38469160

When Your Partner Won't Change: Relationship Advice for Codependents: RED FLAG ALERT 12/08/2025

When Your Partner Won't Change: Relationship Advice for Codependents: RED FLAG ALERT Have you ever been accused of being a problem simply because you brought up a problem? In healthy relationships, it is essential that couples feel safe and are on the same page. It is normal to want your relationship to grow, and to wonder where the line is when it comes to bringing things to your partner's attention that you would like to change. However, there are red flags you need to be aware of particularly if you struggle with fawning, people pleasing, insecure attachment and tend to be the codependent partner in relationships. In this episode, Lisa A. Romano Codependency Expert and Breakthrough Life Coach, helps us get clear about some communication guidelines that can help us make clear, logical, and fair decsions about our relationships. Does your partner accuse you of being the only problem simply because you want to talk about a problem? Are they passive-aggressive, and do they punish you for bringing up an issue you'd like to work out? Do they deny a problem exists at all, making it impossible for you to experience any movement forward in your relationship or resolution? Are you being gaslit, devalued, or ignored for talking about a real issue? Consider these red flags, and also ask yourself: Does my partner have the willingness to listen? Are they capable of real change? Do they want to work on the relationship? Before walking away or making any major life decisions, getting clear about your partner's behaviors, intentions, and level of willingness to discuss, change, or work on marital issues, allows you to act on your own behalf with confidence rather than codependently. Ready to Conquer the Inner Child Wounds that Keep You Repeating Codependency? Click below to learn more about The 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program—a trauma-informed, neuroscience-based coaching program created specifically for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature caregivers, who are ready to ascend the chains of the past. Inside the program, you'll be guided through: Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization Neuroscience Backed Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and start living from your true self Embrace shadow work from a higher state of consciousness to experience integration This method has helped thousands heal from complex trauma and break toxic generational patterns, with tools to rewire limiting beliefs and build authentic self-worth. 👉 Learn more: #CodependencyRecovery #InnerChildHealing #NarcissisticParent #EmotionalNeglect #TraumaInformedHealing #ComplexTrauma #SelfAbandonment #NeuroscienceBasedHealing /episode/index/show/lisaaromano/id/39209365

Letting Go of Those You Love-The Price of Healing and Awakening 12/01/2025

Letting Go of Those You Love-The Price of Healing and Awakening Adult children of alcoholics, and those raised in narcissistic, toxic, neglectful and unpredictable homes, who decide to dive into self growth, self help and emotional healing, inevitably learn that they cannot unsee what they see now that they have awakened to the truth of their toxic family dynamics. This can be a distressing time for someone who has identified themselves as a caretaker, rescuer, people pleaser and who has felt responsible for maintaining family relationships, at all costs, and even at the expense of their mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health. It is bittersweet to awaken to the truth of a toxic family system, and to be confronted by the fact that just because you can see the truth, it does not imply the people you love, who you have been enmeshed with and you have tried to save, fix or rescue, will want to see what you see. In this episode, Lisa A. Romano, opens up about the emotional challenges of a healing adult child who struggles with abandonment trauma, codependency, and the fear of disconnection, who fawns to keep toxic family dynamics and unhealthy friendships afloat when they discover that they must let go of those they love. In this episode, you will learn: ✨How to get more comfortable with accepting the uncomfortable reality of having to let someone you love go. ✨How codependency pushes God's love out and idolizes fear instead. ✨What you need to know about making a spiritually aligned decision when needing to end a toxic relationship with a loved one, family or friend. ✨Easy to recall Biblical Scriptures that reinforce the need for healthy boundaries when any relationship fills your heart with fear vs God's love. Your Healing Starts Within Lisa’s 12 Week Breakthrough Program is a neuroscience-based roadmap to help you gently rewire subconscious patterns, regulate your nervous system, and return home to your authentic self. 👉 Begin your journey: #HealingJourney #SpiritualAwakening #InnerConnection #TraumaRecovery #NeuroscienceHealing #SelfDiscovery #YouAreEnough #LisaARomanoPodcast #PurposeWithin #toxicfamily #adultchildrenofalcoholics #lettinggo #innerchildhealing #toxicfamilysystems #codependencyrecovery #lisaaromano #mentalhealthpodcast #healingjourney #selfhelppodcast /episode/index/show/lisaaromano/id/39183665

Why I'snt Therapy Working I Am Codependent: I am Getting Worse 12/01/2025

Why I'snt Therapy Working I Am Codependent: I am Getting Worse Codependency is an umbrella term used to describe a broad spectrum of emotional, mental and behavioral, subconscious, and automatic trauma responses developed in early childhood as an adaptation to chronic, inescapable stress. While over-functioning as a small child, to avoid rejection, the child's nervous system learns to scan their environment for potential threats. This scanning is called hypervigilance, and it also exiles the inner child into an abyss. Children of toxic, dysfunctional parents, families, and circumstances are denied the compassionate adult, whose role is to mentor, teach, and guide a child in a way that nurtures a positive sense of self. The very basics of healthy human interraction are not modeled. A child who has learned they must scan their environment must: Use their conscious waking hours scanning their parents' facial expressions, moods, and tones--while this is occurring, a child is learning how to morph and adapt, rather than explore the inner self, their inner child, their inner landscape Abandoning the self, including their innate needs, wants, emotions, and right to be authentic, to avoid further emotional neglect, abuse, bullying, or rejection—while this survival response was useful during childhood, the adult child eventually learns that they often don't know what they want or need. This can be a frustrating experience in therapy and relationships. If you are codependent, you may have felt frustrated in therapy when asked, "What do you need" What do you want?" Codependents do not know what they need. They Struggle to Trust Their Inner World Codependency is built on self-abandonment. Many codependents grew up in environments where their emotions were dismissed, mocked, punished, or ignored. Carl Jung would say their inner child—what he called the “Divine Child”—was exiled. So when asked: “What do you feel?” “What do you want?” “What do you need?” …they genuinely do not know. This creates enormous frustration in therapy, because the inner world feels foreign, inaccessible, or even dangerous. The codependent has learned to trust external authority over inner intuition. Reconnecting with the inner self requires time, patience, and the slow dismantling of shame. Therapy asks them to return to a Self they have never been allowed to meet. The journey back home must be slow, steady, and compassionate; otherwise, therapy can sometimes cause more harm than good and lead to a codependent person trying to please the therapist, thereby reenacting a facet of their adaptation survival response. Begin Your Healing Journey: Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, neuroscience-based coaching program created specifically for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature caregivers. Inside the program, you'll be guided through: Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization Neuroscience Backed Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and start living from your true self Embrace shadow work from a higher state of consciousness to experience integration This method has helped thousands heal from complex trauma and break toxic generational patterns, with tools to rewire limiting beliefs and build authentic self-worth. 👉 Learn more: #CodependencyRecovery #InnerChildHealing #NarcissisticParent #EmotionalNeglect #TraumaInformedHealing #ComplexTrauma #SelfAbandonment #NeuroscienceBasedHealing /episode/index/show/lisaaromano/id/39208070

Why You Feel Disconnected And How to Restore Purpose from Within 11/24/2025

Breaking Through the Illusion of Self: Why You’re Not Who You Think You Are 11/17/2025

Breaking Through the Illusion of Self: Why You’re Not Who You Think You Are What if everything you believe about who you are — your name, your past, your emotions, even your thoughts — is not actually you? In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano guides you beyond surface-level healing and into the core illusion that keeps so many of us trapped: the false self. Drawing from neuroscience, psychology, and spiritual wisdom, Lisa reveals how trauma wires the brain to associate authenticity with danger, keeping us neurologically stuck in survival mode long after the threat is gone. When safety is wired to people-pleasing, fawning, or emotional shutdown, the real you gets buried beneath layers of programming. But through conscious awakening, and by breaking through veil after veil of illusion, you can remember who you truly are. In this episode, you’ll discover: ✨ Why your brain resists emotional truth even when your soul craves freedom 🧠 How survival patterns become neurological defaults 🚪 The moment you realize “That’s not me” and shatter ego-identification 🔥 Why authenticity feels unsafe (and how to rewire it as safety) 🌟 The radical power of witnessing yourself as consciousness instead of conditioning This episode is for you if: ✔️ You feel stuck in the same emotional cycles ✔️ You’ve done inner work but still don’t feel fully free ✔️ You’ve questioned your identity, purpose, or sense of self ✔️ You’re ready to step into higher consciousness Begin Your Breakthrough Lisa’s signature 12 Week Breakthrough Program is a neuroscience-based roadmap designed to help you break through subconscious programming, regulate your nervous system, and return to your true self. 👉 Start your journey: #InnerChildHealing #SpiritualAwakening #TraumaRecovery #NeuroscienceHealing #EgoDeath #CodependencyRecovery #HigherConsciousness #LisaARomanoPodcast #FalseSelf #AuthenticSelf #12WeekBreakthrough /episode/index/show/lisaaromano/id/38469030

The Hardest Part of Healing: Saying No to Toxic People 11/10/2025

Breaking Free from Shame, Codependency and Toxic Family Systems 11/03/2025

Unmasking Parental Narcissism: Codependent Anger's Root 10/27/2025

Unmasking Parental Narcissism: Codependent Anger's Root In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert, dives deep into the often-overlooked role that anger plays in the healing journey from parental narcissism and complex trauma. Growing up in a dysfunctional family can leave emotional scars that are not easily seen, but they shape how we experience relationships and view ourselves as adults. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: How denial serves as a survival strategy in dysfunctional family systems and how it can keep us stuck in toxic patterns The hidden anger that emerges from growing up with one narcissistic parent and another who was passive or emotionally absent Why it’s common to feel guilt or confusion when recognizing anger toward a passive parent, even when they weren’t overtly harmful How anger toward both parents can fuel the codependent behaviors and emotional dysregulation that often follow complex trauma The critical step of recognizing your anger as a valid emotion in the recovery process, and how it leads to clarity and healing Why This Matters When we grow up in a home where one parent’s instability wreaks havoc, and the other’s passivity leaves us emotionally unprotected, we internalize survival mechanisms like hyper-independence or helplessness. These patterns affect our ability to set healthy boundaries, build trust, and create meaningful connections later in life. Recognizing anger as part of the healing process is key. It isn’t about blaming anyone, but rather about understanding how these dynamics shaped your sense of worth, your self-protection mechanisms, and your relationships today. Take the Next Step in Your Healing Journey Lisa’s 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program helps you break free from codependency, complex trauma, and the long-lasting effects of narcissistic abuse. Through transformational lessons, journaling exercises, and neuroscience-based tools, this program will guide you toward emotional autonomy and inner peace. 12 Week Breakthrough Method: Start Today for 50% Off #CodependencyRecovery #NarcissisticAbuse #ComplexTrauma #ParentingTrauma #EmotionalNeglect #InnerChildHealing #TraumaRecovery #LisaRomano #BreakthroughHealing #HealingFromNarcissisticParents /episode/index/show/lisaaromano/id/35974275

Adult Children of Alcoholics: The Cost of Never Feeling Safe 10/20/2025

Adult Children of Alcoholics: The Cost of Never Feeling Safe It is estimated that there are at least 28 million adult children of alcoholics in the United States alone. The statistics are staggering. Combine those numbers with a deep understanding of the impact of growing up in an alcoholic home, and it becomes easy to understand why so many adult children struggle with emotional regulation, telling the truth, setting boundaries and with emotional dependencies that result in seeking approval and validation in order to feel somewhat 'normal'. Many adult children of alcoholics do not even know their parents or grandparents were alcoholics. Toxic family systems are enmeshed and shrouded in denial. When the adults in the family are not addressing their trauma, they inadvertently pass that trauma down to their children. Listen in as Lisa A. Romano offers adult children across the globe an opportunity to better understand themselves, how they process their emotions and perceive themselves and the world through a trauma lens, offering all those who are willing and ready an opportunity to live above the veil of consciousness, the only place where true transformation can occur. This episode is a must-listen if you: Grew up with a parent who struggle with addiction. You are the grandchild of an alcoholic. Recognize that you struggle to know what you want or need. Identify as a cyclebreaker, who is ready to speak the truth and end generational trauma with you! ✨ Pro tip: Understanding your parent's trauma is often a key in recovering from subconscious faulty, negative childhood survival patterns. Begin Your Healing Journey: Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, neuroscience-based coaching program designed for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature parents. Inside the program, you'll discover: Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience. Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization. Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness. Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and live authentically. How to integrate shadow work and break toxic generational patterns. Thousands have transformed their lives with this method—learning to step out of survival mode and into authentic, empowered living. 👉 Learn more: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp #CodependencyRecovery #ParentingPatterns #GenerationalHealing #TraumaInformedHealing #InnerChildHealing #EmotionalNeglect #ComplexTrauma #ConsciousParenting #SelfAbandonment #adultchildrenofalcoholics #codependency #lisaaromanopodcast /episode/index/show/lisaaromano/id/37982410

When Codependent Mothers Misread Their Children: When Innocence Feels Like Rejection 10/13/2025

When Codependent Mothers Misread Their Children: When Innocence Feels Like Rejection When Innocence Feels Like Rejection: How Codependent Mothers Misread Their Children What happens when a child’s innocent comment gets filtered through the lens of an unhealthy, codependent mom versus a healthy, emotionally attuned mom? The difference can shape not only the child’s self-worth but also the generational cycle of codependency. In this episode, Lisa A. Romano, Breakthrough Life Coach and bestselling author, unpacks how unhealed wounds distort a mother’s perception of her child’s needs and words. An emotionally unhealthy mother, trapped in her own unresolved pain, may perceive an innocent statement like “I wish I could play with you more” as a personal attack—triggering shame, defensiveness, or withdrawal. A healthy mother, however, sees the same comment for what it is: a child’s bid for love and connection. This powerful contrast reveals why addressing codependency is not just self-work—it’s generational work. If left unchecked, codependency programs children to feel responsible for others’ feelings, abandon their own needs, and repeat the same painful patterns in adulthood. Lisa shows you how to break the cycle by teaching: Why codependent programming distorts reality and causes misinterpretation of innocent words. The neuroscience behind why trauma survivors often personalize others’ emotions. How healthy mothers validate their child’s truth without collapsing into shame or defensiveness. Why breaking free from codependency is the single most important gift you can pass to your children. This episode is a must-listen if you: Grew up with a parent who made you feel guilty for your feelings. Struggle with people-pleasing or fearing rejection. Want to stop codependency from spilling into your parenting or relationships. Are ready to see how your healing ripples into future generations. ✨ Pro tip: Awareness is the first step. When you learn to recognize these patterns, you reclaim your ability to create healthy connections and stop carrying wounds that were never yours to bear. Begin Your Healing Journey: Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, neuroscience-based coaching program designed for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature parents. Inside the program, you'll discover: Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience. Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization. Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness. Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and live authentically. How to integrate shadow work and break toxic generational patterns. Thousands have transformed their lives with this method—learning to step out of survival mode and into authentic, empowered living. 👉 Learn more: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp #CodependencyRecovery #ParentingPatterns #GenerationalHealing #TraumaInformedHealing #InnerChildHealing #EmotionalNeglect #ComplexTrauma #ConsciousParenting #SelfAbandonment /episode/index/show/lisaaromano/id/37852175

The Truth About Empaths, Childhood Trauma, and Shadow Work 10/06/2025

The Truth About Empaths, Childhood Trauma, and Shadow Work The Truth About Empaths, Childhood Trauma, and Shadow Work Are empaths born—or made? In this eye-opening episode, Lisa A. Romano, Breakthrough Life Coach and bestselling author, explores the origin of empathic sensitivity and its powerful connection to childhood trauma, emotional wounding, and spiritual purpose. Some empaths are created through painful early experiences—rejection, abandonment, emotional neglect, and feeling unseen. These wounds condition the developing brain into hypervigilance, keeping the child’s psyche locked in "scanning mode." When a child is forced to tune into the emotions and behavior of others to feel safe, they become disconnected from their true self—and this is the breeding ground for codependency. Other empaths are born, arriving with a spiritual assignment. Their nervous systems and emotional bodies are designed to feel what others suppress. Often, these empathic souls absorb the denied pain of their caregivers—especially unhealed maternal figures. Over time, these empaths become sensitive not just to individual pain, but to the collective suffering that society ignores. But without proper tools, empaths can become emotionally capsized, overwhelmed by the very gift they were meant to use consciously. That’s why Lisa teaches empaths how to use symbols, metaphors, and boundaries to reframe their experience, and to reclaim the connection to self that trauma stole. This episode is a must-listen for anyone who: Feels deeply affected by other people’s moods and energies Grew up walking on emotional eggshells Struggles with codependency, people-pleasing, or emotional burnout Wants to understand the true purpose behind their empathic gifts You’ll also learn why many empaths feel called to “fix” or “rescue” others—and why this often stems from unresolved inner child wounds, not divine purpose. Healing begins when we stop absorbing and start integrating. Lisa shares why true transformation for empaths lies in shadow work, conscious integration, and elevating the nervous system. Those brave enough to face their own shadows don't just heal themselves—they become vessels for generational healing. ✨ Pro tip: You may want to listen to this episode more than once. It’s packed with golden nuggets that could change your life. Begin Your Healing Journey: Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, neuroscience-based coaching program created specifically for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature caregivers. Inside the program, you'll be guided through: Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization Neuroscience Backed Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and start living from your true self Embrace shadow work from a higher state of consciousness to experience integration This method has helped thousands heal from complex trauma and break toxic generational patterns, with tools to rewire limiting beliefs and build authentic self-worth. 👉 Learn more: #CodependencyRecovery #InnerChildHealing #NarcissisticParent #EmotionalNeglect #TraumaInformedHealing #ComplexTrauma #SelfAbandonment #NeuroscienceBasedHealing #empath /episode/index/show/lisaaromano/id/37565900

Unmasking the Truth: When Children Love Monsters 09/22/2025

Unmasking the Truth: When Children Love Monsters What happens when the very people who were supposed to love us, protect us, and cherish us turn out to be the source of our deepest pain? In this revealing episode, Lisa A. Romano, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert, explores the heartbreaking reality behind why so many children grow up loving the very people who harmed them—and how this sets the stage for adult codependency. From narcissistic parents to emotionally neglectful caregivers, this episode dives into the psychology behind trauma bonding, betrayal blindness, and why our subconscious minds cling to toxic dynamics. Lisa unpacks the emotional and neurological imprinting that causes children—and later, adults—to overlook red flags and remain loyal to harmful people. In this episode, you’ll discover: 🔍 Why the most dangerous people are often the ones closest to us 🧠 How childhood trauma wires the brain for survival, not clarity 💔 The tragic link between emotional betrayal and codependency 🪞 Why children internalize the abuse and blame themselves 🔁 How unresolved childhood wounds manifest as self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and unhealthy adult relationships This episode is for you if: ✔️ You struggle to set boundaries with family or romantic partners ✔️ You feel guilt or shame for distancing yourself from toxic loved ones ✔️ You often feel drawn to fix, rescue, or gain approval from others ✔️ You suspect your past is still impacting your relationships today Resources Mentioned: 🌱 Start your healing journey with Lisa’s groundbreaking 12 Week Breakthrough Program 👉 📘 Watch Lisa’s related video: Why You Still Love the Person Who Hurt You 👉 #TraumaBonding #CodependencyRecovery #NarcissisticAbuse #InnerChildHealing #LisaRomano #EmotionalNeglect #ToxicFamily #HealingFromAbuse #BetrayalBlindness #12WeekBreakthrough /episode/index/show/lisaaromano/id/37091215

Why We Crave Connection: Exploring the Roots of Codependency in Attachment Theory 09/15/2025

When Life Feels Out of Control: How I Discovered I Was the Adult Child of an Alcoholic 09/08/2025

When Life Feels Out of Control: How I Discovered I Was the Adult Child of an Alcoholic Does your life feel out of control? Do you find yourself feeling stuck, angry, and resentful, and no matter how hard you try to be nice, or kind, or considerate, you only end up feeling worse? Dear One, that is no accident, as you will learn in this incredible breakthrough episode podcast. Before Lisa A. Romano was diagnosed with codependency, she lived her life prioritizing others' needs, unaware that her lack of self-awareness, her inability to put herself first, or even to have her needs recognized, was rooted in trauma and missing information. Once Lisa was diagnosed with codependency and learned from an intuitive therapist that she was the adult child of unrecovered adult children of alcoholics, and possibly even dry alcoholics, the wheels in her mind started to turn. From there, Lisa hit the books and the ground running, consuming every book and mentor she could to help her unwind her mind from self-loathing, hypervigilance, negative self-talk, insecurity, and deep feelings of shame and inadequacy. By adding new data into her data bank of self-understanding, through a ferocious and tenacious will, slowly Lisa's entire inner self-perception began to shift, and like a Rubik's cube, her life started reorganizing itself. Lisa A. Romano is the first to tell you that healing is ugly, terrifying, and lonesome, and she will also ask that you accept the quest despite this, because it is the only way to break through the thick matrix caused by generational trauma. If you are the adult child of an alcoholic, or if you were raised by toxic, narcissistic, wounded, immature, or codependent parents, or if you grew up in what seemed like a normal family but felt emotionally neglected, this podcast episode will resonate with you. This episode is a must-listen if you: Grew up with a parent who struggle with alcoholic parents. You are the grandchild of an alcoholic. You feel stuck, angry and like your life is out of control. Ache to understand yourself, and how your subconsicous mind controls your emotions, reactions, thinking, and your expectation all outside of conscious awareness. ✨ Pro tip: Understanding how your childhood has impacted how you 'think' today, how you 'react', and what you expect to occur in your life is you activating metacognition. Childhood trauma resides at the subconscious. Lisa's methods help you breakthrough! Begin Your Healing Journey: Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, psychologist approaved, neuroscience-based coaching program designed for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature parents. Inside the program, you'll discover: Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience. Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization. Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness. Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and live authentically. How to integrate shadow work and break toxic generational patterns. Thousands have transformed their lives with this method—learning to step out of survival mode and into authentic, empowered living. 👉 Learn more: https://www.lisaaromano.com/12-wbcp #CodependencyRecovery #ParentingPatterns #GenerationalHealing #TraumaInformedHealing #InnerChildHealing #EmotionalNeglect #ComplexTrauma #ConsciousParenting #SelfAbandonment #adultchildrenofalcoholics #codependency #lisaaromanopodcast #narcissisticparents #selfhelp #mentalhealthtips #savemylife #healmylife /episode/index/show/lisaaromano/id/38029280

Borderline Personality and Codependency: Signs You Were Raised by Narcissistic Parents 09/01/2025

Borderline Personality and Codependency: Signs You Were Raised by Narcissistic Parents Borderline personality disorder can be understood as the extreme version of codependency, where, at the core are adult adult children who have suffered from abandonment, rejection, abuse, neglect, and trauma. When an innocent child is unable, through no fault of their own, to connect with their primary caregiver, and especially when that caregiver is actually a source of pain, suffering and instability, the brain of that child is forced to live from the plane of survival. Due to default settings of the personality, brain and nervous system, for the one who has been denied a healthy attachment and who at the same time, also learned that they could not and should not trust the one caring for them, the inner world becomes trapped below the veil of consciousness, living in fear of the love the being so desperately craves. How Narcissistic Parents Contribute to Borderline Personality Development Children of narcissistic parents often grow up in environments marked by emotional unpredictability. One moment, the parent may be intrusive, critical, or controlling, and the next they may be cold, withdrawn, or dismissive. This creates a push-pull dynamic where the child never feels secure. Over time, this instability fragments the child’s developing sense of self. Because their emotional needs are dismissed or punished, the child learns to fear abandonment while simultaneously fearing engulfment. They internalize the belief that love is unstable, unsafe, and conditional. As adults, this unresolved conflict can manifest as borderline traits: Intense fear of abandonment Unstable self-image Difficulty regulating emotions Stormy, chaotic relationships These symptoms are not “character flaws” but survival adaptations to a childhood where the parent’s narcissism left no room for stable, secure attachment. How Narcissistic Parents Create Codependency While borderline traits stem from instability, codependency develops from self-abandonment. In a narcissistic home, children quickly learn that their parent’s approval, affection, or even basic safety hinges on meeting the parent’s emotional needs. The child becomes hypervigilant, scanning the parent for shifts in mood, anticipating outbursts, and adapting themselves to keep the peace. This conditioning teaches the child: “My needs don’t matter.” “I must earn love by taking care of others.” “If I say no, I’ll lose connection.” As adults, these children often: Over-function in relationships Prioritize others’ needs above their own Struggle to set boundaries without guilt Confuse love with caretaking or control This is the essence of codependency: a pattern of chronic self-abandonment rooted in early survival strategies. ✅ Bottom line: Both borderline personality traits and codependency share the same root wound — a lack of secure, validating parental love. One path (borderline) reflects the inner chaos of unstable attachment, while the other (codependency) reflects the learned habit of self-erasure for connection. Both are survival strategies that can be unlearned through conscious healing, reparenting, and building self-trust. Ready to breakthrough these subconscious patterns? Start here with #borderlinepersonality #childhoodtraumarecoverypodcast #codependencyrecovery #innerchildhealing #mentalhealthpodcast #lisaaromanopodcast #narcissisticmother #narcissisticparents #selfawareness #selfdevelopment #healingjourney #awakening #higherself #consciousness /episode/index/show/lisaaromano/id/38019620

Betrayed by Charisma: When Charm is a Mask for Manipulation 08/25/2025

Codependency and Authenticity: Unmasking the People Pleaser 08/11/2025

Codependency: The Invisible Child's Addiction 08/04/2025

Why They Can’t Love You Fully: The Truth About Spouses With Childhood Trauma 07/28/2025

Raised by a Vulnerable Narcissistic Parent: When Forgiveness Becomes a Weapon 07/21/2025

Raised by a Vulnerable Narcissistic Parent: When Forgiveness Becomes a Weapon In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano explores the emotional aftermath of being raised by a vulnerable narcissistic parent—the type who manipulates your compassion, guilt-trips you into forgiveness, and demands loyalty over authenticity. If you were raised in a home where emotional manipulation, mood swings, and emotional neglect were the norm, this episode will help you understand how these early wounds manifest as codependency, self-abandonment, and chronic anxiety in adulthood. Lisa breaks down how children of emotionally immature parents learn to suppress their truth to survive—and how that programming carries over into relationships, careers, and the way we see ourselves. In this episode, you’ll learn: What a vulnerable narcissist is and how they condition children through emotional manipulation How forced forgiveness becomes a form of control Why emotional invalidation leads to codependent behaviors How childhood trauma impacts the nervous system and self-worth What it takes to begin healing and reclaiming your authentic self This episode is for you if you: Were raised by a parent who guilted or manipulated you emotionally Feel responsible for others’ emotions or avoid conflict at all costs Struggle with people-pleasing, low self-esteem, or fear of rejection Are beginning to awaken to your own trauma history and want tools to heal Begin Your Healing Journey: Lisa introduces her signature 12 Week Breakthrough Method—a trauma-informed, neuroscience-based coaching program created specifically for adult children of narcissistic, neglectful, or emotionally immature caregivers. Inside the program, you'll be guided through: Brain retraining techniques rooted in neuroscience Inner child healing and self-concept reorganization Journaling prompts and assessments to increase self-awareness Tools to stop subconscious self-abandonment and start living from your true self This method has helped thousands heal from complex trauma and break toxic generational patterns, with tools to rewire limiting beliefs and build authentic self-worth. 👉 Learn more: #CodependencyRecovery #InnerChildHealing #NarcissisticParent #EmotionalNeglect #TraumaInformedHealing #ComplexTrauma #SelfAbandonment #NeuroscienceBasedHealing /episode/index/show/lisaaromano/id/37090175

Codependency and Narcissistic Parents: A Toxic Cycle 07/14/2025

Codependency and Narcissistic Parents: A Toxic Cycle What happens when the very people who are supposed to love, nurture, and protect you are also the source of your deepest emotional wounds? In this powerful episode, Lisa A. Romano, Certified Breakthrough Life Coach and trauma-informed expert in codependency recovery, explores the devastating impact of narcissistic parenting and how it lays the foundation for lifelong codependency. Children of narcissistic parents are often emotionally neglected, manipulated, and made to feel responsible for the moods, needs, and approval of their caregivers. This can set the stage for an adult life of self-abandonment, low self-worth, and an unhealthy need for validation. In this episode, you’ll learn: 🔹 The key traits of narcissistic parents: — Grandiosity, lack of empathy, control, and chronic invalidation 🔹 The emotional toll on children: — Feelings of never being good enough — Suppressed emotional needs — Growing up believing love must be earned through performance 🔹 How this creates the perfect storm for codependency: — Emotional enmeshment and learned helplessness — A compulsion to please, fix, or rescue others — Difficulty identifying one’s own needs or setting boundaries 🔹 Why this toxic cycle is hard to break without trauma-informed support This episode is for you if: ✔️ You grew up with a narcissistic, controlling, or emotionally unavailable parent ✔️ You constantly feel responsible for others’ emotions ✔️ You struggle to say “no” or prioritize your own needs ✔️ You’re tired of repeating painful patterns in your adult relationships Resources Mentioned: 🌱 Begin your recovery journey with Lisa’s 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program 👉 📚 Learn more about how childhood trauma shapes adult codependency 👉 #CodependencyRecovery #NarcissisticParent #ChildhoodTrauma #LisaRomano #ToxicFamily #InnerChildHealing #EmotionalNeglect #SelfAbandonment #12WeekBreakthrough #TraumaInformedHealing /episode/index/show/lisaaromano/id/37265670

Trauma Informed Codependency Recovery: It's Not What You Think 07/07/2025

Trauma Informed Codependency Recovery: It's Not What You Think If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a one-sided relationship—where you're the fixer, the rescuer, the peacekeeper—this episode is your wake-up call. In this powerful episode, best-selling author and codependency recovery expert Lisa A. Romano uncovers the invisible thread between childhood emotional neglect and codependent behaviors in adulthood. If you: Feel overly responsible for other people’s emotions Stay in toxic relationships hoping things will change Obsess over your partner’s moods Feel like you've lost your sense of self ...you're not broken. You're running survival patterns wired into your nervous system long ago—when love meant self-abandonment, and your feelings didn’t matter. This isn’t your fault. But now that you know, it becomes your power. Lisa explains how codependency is a subconscious trauma response rooted in unmet emotional needs and a lack of safety in childhood. We mistakenly learn that love must be earned through fixing others—especially the ones who hurt us. But this only perpetuates the pain and draws us toward emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners. In this episode, you’ll discover: How early childhood trauma wires your brain for codependency Why rescuing others is a subconscious survival strategy Why narcissists and toxic partners are drawn to codependents How to spot the thinking traps of codependency Actionable steps to reconnect with your authentic self Whether you're healing from a codependent marriage or waking up to your past for the first time, this episode will help you break free from emotional enmeshment and start living from a place of empowerment and emotional clarity. 🌱 Begin your healing journey with Lisa’s step-by-step system: The Groundbreaking 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program 👉 🎓 Want to go at your own pace? Self-Study Version — 50% Off 👉 #CodependencyRecovery #ChildhoodTraumaHealing #EmotionalNeglect #FixingPeople #InnerChildHealing #SelfAbandonment #ToxicRelationships #HealingFromNarcissisticAbuse #LisaRomano #CPTSDRecovery #PeoplePleasing #RescueFantasy #TraumaBonding #ConsciousHealing #NeuroscienceBasedHealing #CodependentNoMore /episode/index/show/lisaaromano/id/37203610

Changing Your Entire Mindset Toward Narcissistic People in Your Life: The Key to Maintaining Sanity 06/30/2025

Say This to a Narcissist and Hold Onto Your Energy 06/23/2025

Narcissism: Physical Sign Help You Spot Predatory Behavior in the Eyes 06/16/2025

Narcissists Crumble When You Choose This Path 06/09/2025

Narcissists Crumble When You Choose This Path The best way to stop focusing and ruminating about narcissists in your life is to close your eyes and fall in love with the self. Ancient Persian Philosopher Rumi is an excellent example of how to break up with, let go of, divorce, and go no contact with narcissists in your life. In this lesson, you will learn what Rumi has to say about releasing narcissists from your life, and why doing so is terrifying yet brings emotional freedom at the same time. Healing from narcissistic abuse, requires that you release resistance to the pain manipulation, gaslighting, triangulation, smear campaigns and discard have created. Through radical self awareness, and acceptance, we discover the power of sacred wisdom as it pertains to choosing nonresistance. A narcissist will never follow you into solitude. When you embrace solitude, narcissists will run away because in solitude their masks fall. And that's why you must travel into the silence within. Codependency is akin to spiritual death. It implies you are living in denial of what is, and running from reality. The answer lies in climbing the ladder of the mind, from the subconscious to the higher conscious realms. But first, we must figure out where you are now and at what level of awareness do you reside. Feel free to take my FREE Codependency Quiz to discover more. ✨ Take my FREE Codependency Quiz 🔗 "I know it's painful", Rumi says, yet he says, "Walk this way anyway." That's how I feel about The 12 Week Breakthrough Program. Let's peel back decades of layers of the subconscious mind and teach you the skills you need to live emotionally free, unbound by the chains of the past. Work with me this July, 2025 Join early and save $500 📞 Work With Me One to One ✉️ It is not you, it is only your programming. Your higher self is free, but your inner child is stuck. All you need are tools, an experienced guide, and the grit to stick to this healing journey when the going gets tough. Remember, steel is forged through fire, and diamonds appear only when enough force is applied. You can develop a stainless steel spine, and my three-part healing framework helps you achieve unbound emotional freedom. The 12 Week Breakthrough Program The 8 Week Master Class Soul School, a 10 Week Course in the Quantum Science of Love Consciousness. We got this. New to the inner voyage of transformation? No worries, read The Road Back to Me to activate higher consciousness. Follow that up with My Road Beyond the Codependent Divorce, Codependent Now What? Codependency Manifesto, Quantum Tools to Heal Your Life Now and then Loving the Self Affirmations volumes 1 and 2 /episode/index/show/lisaaromano/id/36373320

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