Why You Stay Loyal to The People Who Hurt You
Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs
Release Date: 01/26/2026
Why You Stay Loyal to The People Who Hurt You
Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs
Everything is fine until it isn't. The moment when you start noticing the twinge in your stomach, and you can't ignore it anymore, marks the threshold of an awakening to what may be the reality of toxic relationships in your life. Codependents are those who sacrifice the self for a toxic one way relationship, whereas a narcissist sacrifices the relationship for the sake of their ego. When a codependent, highly empathic individual begins to awaken, they cannot unsee what they now see: the passive aggressiveness, the stonewalling, disrespect, and minimization. Many adult children of toxic...
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Managing the People and Relationships That Drain Your Energy
Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs
Do you leave certain conversations feeling drained, anxious, or foggy? Do you notice that some people you speak to have a way of causing you to feel dread? If so, you may have just encountered an energy vampire, someone who literally survives through controlling your consciousness through language, tone, body movements, innuendos, and comments that cause you to wonder what their true intentions are. In this deep and practical episode, Lisa A. Romano, trauma-informed life coach and codependency recovery expert, reveals how to recognize, neutralize, and heal from energetic drain in...
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Neuroscience of Trauma: Healing Emotional Wounds in Adult Children
Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs
When you are an adult child of emotional neglect, or were raised in an alcoholic, narcissistic, or unpredictable home, you are not aware of how your brain wires the nervous system to be locked in survival mode. Daughters and sons of toxic parents learned to survive through hypervigilance, scanning the faces, moods, and body movements of those around them. This type of scanning, codes the brain for survival and fear anticipation. The problem is, adult children from abusive, neglectful or toxic homes do not know this has occurred. From within the ego system, the little self assumes that...
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How to Find Your Purpose After Trauma
Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs
If you were raised in a dysfunctional, toxic home, and you struggle today with codependency, self-worth, and relationships, it is easy to lose a sense of meaning and purpose in life. Childhood trauma arrests the mind in a state of hypervigilance, worry, and fear. And although that is not your fault, if this is your experience, until we stop, look within, and take the time to integrate the past with the now, our future becomes a copy of the past, like it or not. There is great hope for the one willing to go within. Lisa A. Romano gently unpacks why so many of us feel stuck chasing...
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How Childhood Trauma Rewires Your Brain Traps You in a False Identity Neuroscience of Identity
Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs
Why do we get stuck on the path of healing—even when we know what to do? In this profound and spiritually charged episode, Lisa A. Romano explores what it truly means to break through the veil—the illusion of the false self that trauma and programming have built around our consciousness. Lisa reveals how trauma rewires the brain to associate authenticity with danger, causing us to abandon our true selves and live from the ego’s illusion of safety. Through the lens of neuroscience, psychology, and spirituality, she helps listeners understand why healing requires more than insight—it...
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The ACOA Blind Spot: 5 Patterns Keeping You Stuck & The Road Back to You
Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs
Why do so many high-functioning adults secretly feel “something’s wrong”—even when life looks fine on paper? In this empowering episode, Lisa A. Romano uncovers the ACOA blind spot: the predictable patterns that form when alcoholism (or “dry” alcoholism) and emotional neglect shape a family system. You’ll learn the five core patterns that keep adult children and grandchildren of alcoholics stuck—and the practical roadmap for getting your power, clarity, and self-respect back. The 5 patterns you’ll recognize: Reality Denied — Gaslighting and minimization train you to...
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Are You a Grandchild of Alcoholics? Why That One Insight Can Change Everything
Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs
Codependents, people-pleasers, those who fawn, seek approval, and external validation, do not consciously understand why they are so frustrated and unhappy. Codependency and fawning are trauma responses that all lead to anger, and resentment. Oftentimes, those who are struggling with emotional and mental health issues, who seek help, are misunderstood when they are codependent. Their symptoms are vague, yet incredibly disruptive and tormenting. When a codependent seeks help, they complain about others, because they have been programmed to believe that someone or something outside of them is...
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When Your Partner Won't Change: Relationship Advice for Codependents: RED FLAG ALERT
Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs
Have you ever been accused of being a problem simply because you brought up a problem? In healthy relationships, it is essential that couples feel safe and are on the same page. It is normal to want your relationship to grow, and to wonder where the line is when it comes to bringing things to your partner's attention that you would like to change. However, there are red flags you need to be aware of particularly if you struggle with fawning, people pleasing, insecure attachment and tend to be the codependent partner in relationships. In this episode, Lisa A. Romano Codependency Expert...
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Letting Go of Those You Love-The Price of Healing and Awakening
Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs
Adult children of alcoholics, and those raised in narcissistic, toxic, neglectful and unpredictable homes, who decide to dive into self growth, self help and emotional healing, inevitably learn that they cannot unsee what they see now that they have awakened to the truth of their toxic family dynamics. This can be a distressing time for someone who has identified themselves as a caretaker, rescuer, people pleaser and who has felt responsible for maintaining family relationships, at all costs, and even at the expense of their mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health. It is...
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Why I'snt Therapy Working I Am Codependent: I am Getting Worse
Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs
Codependency is an umbrella term used to describe a broad spectrum of emotional, mental and behavioral, subconscious, and automatic trauma responses developed in early childhood as an adaptation to chronic, inescapable stress. While over-functioning as a small child, to avoid rejection, the child's nervous system learns to scan their environment for potential threats. This scanning is called hypervigilance, and it also exiles the inner child into an abyss. Children of toxic, dysfunctional parents, families, and circumstances are denied the compassionate adult, whose role is to mentor, teach,...
info_outlineEverything is fine until it isn't. The moment when you start noticing the twinge in your stomach, and you can't ignore it anymore, marks the threshold of an awakening to what may be the reality of toxic relationships in your life. Codependents are those who sacrifice the self for a toxic one way relationship, whereas a narcissist sacrifices the relationship for the sake of their ego. When a codependent, highly empathic individual begins to awaken, they cannot unsee what they now see: the passive aggressiveness, the stonewalling, disrespect, and minimization.
Many adult children of toxic family systems, are programmed to deny, ignore, and never feel their true feelings. They learned early that connecting with their painful inner reality threatened their connections to others, which triggered a sense of fear and abandonment. Although this is a subconscious pathway, it is possible to awaken from the faulty negative, subconscious childhood programs that are rooted in the fear of abandonment and the experience of emotional neglect.
In this episode, Lisa A. Romano unpacks the subconscious programming behind why so many trauma survivors and codependent personalities stay loyal to people who repeatedly hurt them. From passive-aggressive group chats to unspoken exclusion, emotional manipulation often hides behind denial and “that’s just how they are” thinking.
But here’s the truth:
You weren’t born to tolerate disrespect — you were programmed to.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
✨ Why your brain links saying no to abandonment and danger
🧠 How early rejection creates lifelong tolerance for BS
🎭 The difference between overt narcissists and covert “poor me” manipulators
⚔️ Why the first boundary is the hardest step — and how to push through it
🦋 How to reclaim your self-respect and rise above emotional slavery
This episode is for you if:
✔️ You make excuses for people who repeatedly disappoint you
✔️ You second-guess your instincts and minimize your own pain
✔️ You feel guilty for cutting people off — even when they hurt you
✔️ You’re finally ready to stop walking on eggshells and start walking in truth
Begin Your Breakthrough
If you’re ready to interrupt the subconscious patterns that keep you stuck in people-pleasing and emotional slavery, Lisa’s 12 Week Breakthrough Program will guide you step by step into emotional freedom.
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