EP 113 - A Simple Alignment Issue

In our last episode, we took an overview of what’s often called the Wisdom of the Ages—that deep current of higher understanding that human beings have accessed in every culture, across every era, since the beginning of recorded history. Whether through the teachings of sages, mystics, philosophers, or poets, there has always been a thread of knowledge that points to something greater within us. Something whole. Something awake.

We also mentioned that in the last decade or so, something truly remarkable has happened: Modern neuroscience—once considered purely mechanical and clinical—has begun to validate this ancient wisdom.

Research into neuroplasticity, emotional regulation, attentional states, and brain-body coherence is now confirming what these timeless traditions have pointed to all along: We are more powerful, more adaptable, and more connected than we ever realized.

That’s what led to the creation of the NeuroHarmonic Method—a new synthesis that blends these two worlds. By combining the insights of cutting-edge neuroscience with the Wisdom of the Ages, NeuroHarmonics makes this knowledge easier to understand, easier to practice, and—most importantly—easier to live.

Now, the logical next step in this podcast series is to explore what neuroscience has actually discovered—and how those discoveries can help each of us step into a new kind of transformation, one that’s not based on willpower or wishful thinking, but on real, grounded inner change. Because the point of all this isn’t just theory—it’s transformation. This work is meant to give you something real. Something useful. Something that you can feel changing you from the inside out.

But before we get into how we can change, it’s essential to take an honest look at where we are right now. What is life really like for most adults in the modern Western world? What patterns are shaping us? What silent forces are steering us? And most importantly… what’s getting in the way of us achieving our highest potential, which is far greater than most of us have ever dreamed?

So here goes.

 

The Hidden Grip of Self-Sabotage

Let’s start with something that’s rarely said out loud, but quietly true for more people than we might imagine: Most adults—in actuality, the large majority—are engaged in some form of something called self-sabotage. That might sound dramatic, but it's not.

Studies and clinical experience suggest that anywhere from half to three-quarters of us routinely act against our own best interests in one key area of life or another. It might show up as procrastination or a head-in-the sand approach when something truly matters. Or emotional withdrawal right when connection is needed most in some kind of relationship. It can take the form of extreme perfectionism, chronic indecision, financial self-sabotage, even staying in relationships or environments that consistently drain our light.

And here’s the thing: self-sabotage often doesn’t look dramatic. It can be subtle— even silent—operating in the background of life like a faulty program you forgot was running on your computer. You say you want growth, healing and joy… but when the opportunity comes, something in you suddenly steps on the emergency brake.

Even though it may feel like it, that something is not the enemy. It’s just a deeply ingrained, outdated survival strategy—a neural echo of an old fear, hurt, or belief that once served a purpose, but now only keeps you stuck in your own small prison

Now self-sabotage can wear many disguises. It often shows up in a thousand different micro-decisions: Not applying for the job you’re qualified for.

Undermining a relationship just when it starts to go to a deeper level. Avoiding your creative work, putting it off for one more day only to settle for one more excuse. Or eating and drinking in ways that numb the discomfort, instead of looking for the message of solution beneath it all.

Most of these behaviors stem from a kind of split within: a conflict between what we consciously desire and what we unconsciously fear. And until that split is seen, honored, and integrated, we remain divided—longing for freedom with one hand while pulling ourselves back with the other. And remember what Uncle Abe once said about a house divided against itself. It cannot stand.

 

Impostor Syndrome: The Quiet Twin of Self-Sabotage

One of the most common—and most corrosive—forms of self-sabotage is something you’ve probably heard of called impostor syndrome,  where that doubtful voice whispers, “I don’t care what you or anyone else thinks you are. I know who you really are – this is all a big show and you’re a fraud and soon everyone will know it.”

It’s the haunting suspicion that your success is a fluke, and it’s only a matter of time before your house of cards caves in. It can strike anyone on the chain - new graduates to seasoned CEOs. Artists, healers, scientists, even spiritual teachers. And it doesn’t discriminate: some of the most “successful” people are deeply haunted by it daily.

It usually has two voices within us – the inner critic and the inner saboteur, as this dynamic duo works together in a lot of areas of life, along with their starring roles in the imposter movie. 

The Critic activates circuits of shame and anxiety, while the Saboteur activates circuits of avoidance, freeze response, and safety-seeking.They are two manifestations of one core dynamic: the Ordinary Mind trying to protect you, using outdated strategies that block your expansion.

The Hidden Source of Our Unhappiness

Now, if you were to trace the root of much of our unhappiness—not just the fleeting kind, but the deep, chronic ache that follows us through the years—you would often find self-sabotage at the core.

Of course, it hides behind other names: frustration, fatigue, disappointment, regret. But underneath, there's a deeper truth. We suffer because part of us longs to grow, expand, love, and thrive—while another part that’s quietly afraid, keeps pulling us back into the familiar confines of what we’ve always known. This tug-of-war drains our energy, clouds our clarity, and fractures our confidence. It turns joy into a guilty pleasure, and purpose into an elusive dream.

Healing this inner divide isn’t just hard—it’s often confusing, because on the surface it can look like laziness, moodiness, or a lack of discipline. But if we go deeper—if we see with a more compassionate eye—we begin to recognize that what’s actually happening is a kind of inner war.

 

The War Between the States  - of Consciousness

In NeuroHarmonics this is termed The War Between the States of Consciousness. It’s not fought on battlefields or in boardrooms—it’s fought within the hidden corridors of the human mind. At its core, it’s a battle between two fundamental aspects of our awareness: Our Higher Mind and Our Ordinary Mind.

The Higher Mind holds our vision, our purpose, our clarity, our compassion, and our deep intuitive knowing. This is the part of you that glimpses what’s possible—the spark that says, Yes, this life can be beautiful. It’s all possible and I can do it.

The Ordinary Mind on the other hand, is rooted in survival, pattern, habit, and fear. It runs on old programming, shaped by childhood experiences, cultural conditioning, and unresolved emotional pain. It doesn’t consciously want to hurt you—but it does want to keep you safe, even if that safety comes at the cost of your happiness and growth.

The problem is, the Ordinary Mind doesn’t trust the Higher Mind. It is deeply skeptical of change. It hears your dreams and says, Be careful, we’ve failed at this before. It sees your growth and says, Not so fast, this can be dangerous. And when you try to step forward, toward something meaningful, it tightens the leash, not because it’s cruel, but because of its inherent fear.

So there is a kind of civil war happening inside, with neurons actually firing against each other. Basically, the Higher Mind pulls you forward, and the Ordinary Mind pushes you back. The result? Self-sabotage. Stagnation.

But it’s not always this clear or dramatic. Quite often, it’s just a quiet, aching sadness that says, I know I was meant for more in this life, but for some reason, I just can’t seem to get there.

 

The Path to Resolution: The NeuroHarmonic Approach

Now, the NeuroHarmonic Method was born out of this realization—that we are not broken, just simply divided. That what we truly need is not another technique to force ourselves into better habits, but a unified intelligence that can resolve the war between the Higher Mind and the Ordinary Mind with grace, understanding, clarity and lasting harmony.

Rooted in the Wisdom of the Ages and now supported by modern neuroscience, NeuroHarmonics offers a simple, accessible way for people to begin harmonizing the multiple layers of their being—body, brain, breath and life force, emotion, and consciousness. It draws on higher truths and methods taught by sages, mystics, and philosophers across centuries, and brings them into dialogue with the latest understandings of neuroplasticity, emotional regulation, and the power of attentional states.

But a key part of what makes it unique is its gentleness. This isn’t a system designed to push you harder or pressure you to be someone you’re not. It’s designed to help you remember who you already are—and to create the inner conditions that allow your deeper inner truth to rise naturally into your awareness.

True transformation, after all, isn’t about solving the problem with more effort. It’s about changing the level of consciousness from which the problem arose in the first place. As Einstein said so clearly: “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.”

And Carl Jung added a tremendous understanding to it when he said, “The real problems of life can never be solved. They must be outgrown.”

NeuroHarmonics is about exactly that—outgrowing the conflict within. It’s about stepping into a new dimension of being, where your Higher Mind begins to lead, and importantly, the Ordinary Mind is not defeated, but soothed and rewired to become an integral part of the whole.

Through clear information and practices that engage breath, attention, reflection, and neural retraining, we shift the very architecture of our awareness.

And in doing so, we move from internal sabotage to internal support. From confusion to clarity. From fragmented willpower to coherent intention. In essence, from self-sabotage to self-empowerment.

Then we begin to experience real happiness—not the fleeting high of achievement or distraction, but the grounded joy of being aligned with our deeper purpose and truth. This is not magic. It’s not mysticism. And yet, it can feel like both. Because when inner conflict dissolves, and harmony returns, we remember what it means to feel whole again and truly connected to what is often called the Divine Presence within.

 

The Key to the Game: You Are Not Stuck

If you take nothing else from all of this information, remember this one thing: you are not stuck.

Whatever patterns have kept you looping in frustration, hesitation, or fear—they are not permanent. They are not who you are. They are simply neural pathways—grooves in the brain that have been etched over time through repetition, emotion, and experience. And remarkably, they can definitely be changed.

Because here’s the incredible truth: Your brain was designed to change. It does it all day every day, all the time. That’s what neuroplasticity is  - the proven fact that your neural circuits can be reshaped, rewired, and renewed at any age. You are never too far gone. Never too broken. It’s never too late.

All what’s really bothering you… is just a wiring issue. Think of it like this: imagine a sophisticated sound system playing beautiful music, but suddenly there’s is terrible screeching noise coming through the speakers. It sounds like a major malfunction.

You could tear the whole system apart trying to fix it. But then—someone calmly walks over and simply turns the microphone away from the speaker, and the screeching feedback stops and harmony is restored. It turns out that it wasn’t a major hardware issue at all. It was just a simple matter of alignment.

In the same way, most of our inner noise—our sabotage, our sadness, our fear—comes from one part of the mind feeding into another in a destructive loop. But when we turn the microphone around to where it should be, when we shift our attention from the reactive Ordinary Mind to the wise and guiding Higher Mind—the distortion begins to fade.

And here’s the really good news: Even though you may not be connected to it at all, Your Higher Mind is still alive and well. It hasn’t gone anywhere. It is the voice of reason, of intuition, of self-regulation, of deep compassion and clear knowing. It is the home of your better angels—the part of you that remembers how to choose peace over panic, purpose over paralysis, love over fear.

So, what the NeuroHarmonic Method helps us do is resolve this inner war. It helps the misfiring circuits stop fighting each other. It brings the whole system—your thoughts, your feelings, your body, your breath—into harmonic convergence with the Higher Mind. And when that happens… the feedback loop stops and the screeching noise fades. Now the music of your life can finally be heard again, clearly, beautifully, and unmistakably you.

If nothing else, let today be the day you stop believing the lie that you’re stuck. You’re not. You’re just waiting for the harmony to return. And it will when you want it. Because it’s already within you—right where it’s always been.

Well, enough said. Let’s end this episode here, and as always, keep your eyes, mind and heart open, and let’s get together in the next one.