Expectations and Empowering the Word "Still"
To 50 and Beyond - Sobriety for Midlife Women
Release Date: 10/29/2025
Choosing Yourself in Midlife | My Interview on The Change Effect Podcast with Noelle Van
To 50 and Beyond - Sobriety for Midlife Women
Hey there! I'm sharing my interview with my friend Noelle Van on her podcast, because it's all of our favorite topics that we discuss on To 50 and Beyond! In this episode, we talk about: The myth of “rock bottom” and why real change begins with your decision, not a catastrophic event. How negotiating and bargaining with alcohol keeps us stuck Navigating the unique challenges of quitting alcohol in midlife The ways alcohol-free living can bring clarity, emotional freedom, and renewed energy during the perimenopause and menopause transition. The importance of...
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Expectations and Empowering the Word "Still"
To 50 and Beyond - Sobriety for Midlife Women
Episode #341 Hello there! I'm glad you're here. Today, I want to have a conversation about the word “still” — how it can either make us feel stuck, like we’re not doing enough, or trapped in frustration and confusion. But it can also be a word we use to empower ourselves. This year especially, I’ve had heartfelt conversations with women who feel like they’re in a transition, still figuring things out. Whether it’s about their relationship with alcohol or their life in general. There’s a lot of outgrowing happening, a lot of evolving, and I want to talk about what it...
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Tired of Sounding Like a Broken Record? Try an "Opposite Day!"
To 50 and Beyond - Sobriety for Midlife Women
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To 50 and Beyond - Sobriety for Midlife Women
Episode #339 This episode is inspired by a few of my listeners who reached out to me via my email. I've heard from so many women over the past seven-plus years who have said, I'm on day one, and I've heard from a couple of listeners recently who have shared their experiences and their challenges with staying alcohol free on vacation and in restaurants. In this episode, you will hear more about my first vacation sober, my experiences in a restaurant in the early days, and honest reminders to help you stay alcohol-free on vacation and in restaurants. You will also hear a straightforward reminder...
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Noelle Van on Long-Term Recovery and How to Transition Out of Corporate
To 50 and Beyond - Sobriety for Midlife Women
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End-of-Year Check-In: What Will You Focus on and Not Focus On?
To 50 and Beyond - Sobriety for Midlife Women
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How to Love What’s On Your Plate: Finding Joy and Balance in Food and Life with Stephanie Valentine
To 50 and Beyond - Sobriety for Midlife Women
Episode 336 Hello! I'm glad you're here. In this episode, I talk with Stephanie Valentine, a holistic nutritionist and mental health coach, about loving what’s really on your plate—both with food and in life. Stephanie shares her journey and her cookbook Love What’s On Your Plate, focusing on mindful eating, nourishing rituals, and true self-care. We explore how wellness isn’t about being perfect, but about finding joy and balance as life changes, especially in midlife. Stephanie encourages easing up on the strict rules around food, exercise, and rest, and embracing...
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Life After Alcohol: Navigating Thoughts About Drinking Without Drinking
To 50 and Beyond - Sobriety for Midlife Women
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Changing Your Drinking and Supporting Loved Ones Through the Process with Amber Hollingsworth
To 50 and Beyond - Sobriety for Midlife Women
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A Conversation About Seasons of Life, Aging, and Recovery with Leigh and Anne Walkup
To 50 and Beyond - Sobriety for Midlife Women
Episode #333 Hey there! I'm so happy you're here. Today, I'm talking to two of my favorite people, Leigh and Anne Walkup. The sisters are back on the podcast to share their thoughts on aging (the joys and the challenges), perimenopause, and we talk about the different seasons of life. We also talk about recovery and sobriety in the news - it's good news and it's here to stay, as you will hear. The sisters share their thoughts about what recovery is like and why it's beneficial to embrace. They also share their favorite beauty product at the moment, what they're reading and...
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Hello there! I'm glad you're here.
Today, I want to have a conversation about the word “still” — how it can either make us feel stuck, like we’re not doing enough, or trapped in frustration and confusion. But it can also be a word we use to empower ourselves.
This year especially, I’ve had heartfelt conversations with women who feel like they’re in a transition, still figuring things out. Whether it’s about their relationship with alcohol or their life in general. There’s a lot of outgrowing happening, a lot of evolving, and I want to talk about what it really means to be “still” in the middle of all that.
If you’re feeling stuck, unsure, or frustrated, know you are not alone. Build yourself up today and reframe how you're using still.
You’ll hear:
- How “still” can feel limiting or powerful depending on how you use it.
- My honest experience with quitting alcohol and the unexpected challenges.
- Common struggles women face midlife when changing their relationship with alcohol.
I'm with you 100%.
Take care of yourself this week. Peace. ✌🏻Before you go...
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