Why You Can’t Stop Thinking About Your Ex: The Truth About CPTSD
Release Date: 08/22/2025
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info_outlineDo you ever find yourself stuck in endless loops about your ex?
As you are falling asleep, you are replaying conversations. While you are going for a run, you are replaying conversations. Any moment of downtime, there you are replaying conversations and wondering what you could have done differently, or feeling like a ghost of that relationship still haunts your heart.
If you live with CPTSD, this is not about weakness or willpower. Ex-partner obsession and rumination are one of the most common ways unresolved trauma shows up in love. Every student I work with has felt it. And there is a reason it happens, and a way out.
In this episode, I share why Protective Parts and Hurt Victim Energies keep your system clinging to someone who is gone, how lineage overlays intensify these cycles, and why traditional weekly therapy often wastes years keeping you stuck in the story instead of resolving the root. Most importantly, I’ll show you what it looks like to close these loops for good so you can reclaim your energy and finally move forward in love.
In this episode you’ll learn:
✦ Why CPTSD makes it so hard to stop thinking about your ex
✦ How rumination is powered by Protective Parts and Hurt Victim Energies
✦ Why traditional therapy rarely resolves this cycle
✦ What reclaiming your worth and energy looks like when the loop finally ends
This is not about managing symptoms. This is about resolving CPTSD at the root so you can create love that lasts.
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