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MFP354: How Can I Have a Relationship with God?

Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family

Release Date: 10/20/2025

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Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family

Family culture is more than a mission statement, it's a way of life that communicates powerfully.    Summary What are you really cultivating in your home? In this episode, we explore the deeper meaning of family culture through the lens of cultus—to till, tend, and worship. Your home is a garden, and the way you live together is already forming a culture, whether intentional or not! We unpack how culture is shaped by what you value—and how those values must be visible in both what you do and how you act. It’s not big talks but consistent, daily habits that form your family....

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Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family

Your child is not a problem to be solved, but a person to be known.   Summary If you’ve ever thought, “How can one small human make this much noise… about EVERYTHING?”—this episode is for you.  We’re diving into the all-too-familiar world of complaining kids—the sighs, the groans, the “Do I have to?”—and how it can slowly drain the joy right out of your home. But instead of just surviving it (or losing your sanity), in this episode we will look at understanding WHY kids complain and give you some practical tools to respond in charity.  With humor, honesty,...

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There is a need for a crusade of manliness and purity to counteract and nullify the savage work of those who think man is a beast. And that crusade is your work. ~St. Josemaría Escrivá   Summary How do you talk to your kids about purity without turning it into a list of rules and constant “no’s”?  Join us for this conversation with Fr. Carter Griffin about the importance of purity and self-mastery.  This episode invites parents to shift the focus to what purity says yes to: love, freedom, and a future built on integrity. We discuss why teens demand authenticity and how...

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Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family

When I stopped trying to fix or change my child, and explored my own role in fostering bullying behaviors, I found the answers I needed. These behaviors were a direct consequence of my own insecurities. - Sean Grover, Ph.D. Summary Parents often make excuses for their children’s outrageous behavior, whether it's a preschooler’s tantrum or a teen’s sullen refusal to do what he or she has been asked. Children who become unmanageable or verbally abusive to their parents are, in fact, bullies, although most parents don’t think of these behaviors in that way. Maybe they should. Key...

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Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family

The most effective parents aren’t the loudest—they’re the most consistent. Summary Why do we yell at our kids, even when we know it doesn't work? In this episode, we unpack the hard truth behind yelling in parenting: it's often not a discipline strategy, but a reaction to stress, frustration, and lack of follow-through. While it may get quick results, it slowly weakens our authority and damages connection with our kids.  We talk about why yelling becomes a habit, what it's actually teaching our children, and how to replace it with calmer, more effective discipline. You'll walk away...

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“The sexual revolution was not about freedom. It was about transferring power from families to the state.” - Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse Summary What really makes a family essential, and why does it matter so much right now?  In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse makes a compelling, research-based case for why children need both their mother and their father. We explore the irreplaceable role of mothers in forming trust and attachment, the unique responsibility of fathers to provide protection, limits, and direction, and how these roles evolve as children grow. You’ll hear why...

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Summary How do we help our children discover the gift that they are? In this episode, we explore the powerful cycle of identity, belonging, and mission—and how it unfolds across the key stages of childhood. From the early years of wonder and dependence, to the exploratory middle years, to the identity-shaping teen years, we unpack what children need most at each phase—and how parents can respond with confidence.  We dive into how children develop their gifts, navigate friendships, and grow into their sexual identity, as we highlight the unique role parents play—not as controllers,...

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Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family

Summary There is so much noise in the world of parenting today, and it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by pressure, comparison, and fear. In this episode, Mike and Alicia remind parents that there is not just one way to raise a family well. God has given you the grace for your mission, and your job is not to control your children or guarantee outcomes. Your call is to build a strong marriage, create a healthy home, communicate your values, and allow God to use family life to make you holy. Parenting is not about perfection — it is about faithfulness. Key Takeaways There is not just one right...

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"Without a life of prayer, you are really not living as a Catholic" - Matt Leonard   Summary What does it really mean to “go deeper” in prayer? And what if you pray every day but don’t feel anything?  This week we’re joined by Matthew Leonard, founder of The Science of Sainthood, to talk about what real spiritual growth looks like. We break down the three modes of prayer, vocal, meditation, and contemplation, and how they form a path to holiness. Matthew shares practical steps for building a daily habit of mental prayer, handling distractions, and creating space for silence....

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Love is not a feeling.  It's a daily choice, a habit practiced proactively.   Summary What if intimacy isn’t built in the big moments, but in the small ones you almost miss? In this episode, we explore the idea of bids for connection, the everyday ways we reach for each other through a question, a touch, a story, or even a glance across the room. We talk about what happens when those bids are noticed and met with kindness, and what slowly unfolds when they are ignored. You’ll hear how responsiveness, presence, and emotional generosity shape trust, passion, and long-term happiness...

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"Being Christian is not the result of an ethical choice or a lofty idea, but the encounter with an event, a person,

which gives life a new horizon and a decisive direction." - Pope Benedict XVI

 

Summary

Every one of us is on a journey towards eternity.  Our life here on earth, our vocation, our careers, our relationships are all just ways that we can grow in our knowledge of ourselves and of God.  But many of us struggle to learn how we can stretch ourselves and prioritize our own spiritual growth.  In this podcast, we share our own stories of conversation moments and how our spiritual practices have changed and matured over the years. We hope this will give you some inspiration and ideas of how you can come closer to God our Loving Father and see that none of us are ever "done".  We are all on a journey towards our eternal home.  

 

Key Takeaways

  • To be a good mother or father you must first know who you are as a beloved son or daughter.  

  • Do things that put yourself in that place to receive from God such as mass, regular confession, and staying in a state of grace.  

  • Be honest about where you are in your season of life.  Adopt spiritual practices accordingly

  • Our perception of God is colored by our experience of our parents.  Do we see God as having high or low expectations of us?  Do we see God giving us high or low support to achieve those expectations? The most healthy relationship has high expectations and high support to achieve them. 

  • Recognize that we are constantly growing and maturing in our relationship with God and others.  Growth takes time! 

 

Couple Discussion Questions

  • What is our perception of God and the Church?  Where are we right now in our relationship with Him?  

  • How can we as spouses help each other grow in our relationship with both? 

 

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