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Episode 37: The Phoenix is a Poet (3 of 3)

My Spouse Died Too

Release Date: 07/13/2020

Episode 57: You're Worthy Because You're Alive (2 of 3) show art Episode 57: You're Worthy Because You're Alive (2 of 3)

My Spouse Died Too

Barry’s face glows with promise and hope when he explains what one thing he’s working on—building the rest of his life around—where he finds meaning and beauty. You’ll also hear about Barry’s ninety-day date-cycle. How Barry landed on the roof of a barn. The frustration of six first dates (and no 2nd dates), and what Barry thinks it reveals. How much should you share on a first date—like a liver transplant? Dark humor for coping. When to go dutch--this might surprise you. How Barry manages deep dark depression with this life or death trade-off. And plenty more. Bulletasos How...

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Episode 56: You're Worthy Because You're Alive (1 of 3) show art Episode 56: You're Worthy Because You're Alive (1 of 3)

My Spouse Died Too

Widower poet Barry Johnson returns! I first met Barry when we recorded about a year ago. Just four months before we recorded, Barry was almost dead. Three months before that recording, Barry’s life was saved by a liver transplant. In this episode, Barry makes a confession—I urge you to listen with compassion and empathy. Barry bares his heart about his depression-where it comes from-rough stuff. Is Barry still pissed at God? How work helps Barry cope. Barry reads his poem. And Barry’s personal demon: being unworthy of love. And lots more. Bullets Feeling Good, Finally New Pony Tail...

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Episode 55: What I Learned (by doing the podcast) show art Episode 55: What I Learned (by doing the podcast)

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What I’ve learned by doing more than fifty My Spouse Died Too podcast episodes. Not all-inclusive, just a taste of what I’ve discovered by talking for hours and hours with courageous widowed guest co-hosts. You’ll hear my self-accusations, personality quirks, views on life and death. How I make deeper connections with just about anybody. How to find gold in a conversation. How to listen better. And I’ll suggest a resource, if you take simple action, quickly changes your life in a profound way.  And more. Bulletos What I Learned My Spouse's Death Seems So Long Ago People Die...

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Episode 54: Comedian Widow: How Dark Humor Eases The Pain show art Episode 54: Comedian Widow: How Dark Humor Eases The Pain

My Spouse Died Too

Widowed at twenty-eight, Tawny Platis is the queen of dead husband jokes. Tawny is a comedian, voice actor, and host of the podcast Death Is Hilarious. Tawny’s podcast explores how comedians and creatives use comedy and dark humor to cope with grief and trauma through storytelling and jokes. In this episode, Tawny discusses her botched suicide plan.  Why laughter is like her heroin. PSDD--Post Spousal Death Disorder. Pennsylvania Serah (she’s a lifesaver). Covid isolation perils. Bumble and honest dating profile advice. Tawny thinks something is wrong with her because the same evening...

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Episode 53: The Rebellious Widow (3 of 3) show art Episode 53: The Rebellious Widow (3 of 3)

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The Rebellious Widow Jill Johnson-Young packs this final episode with personal experience and generous professional advice. What you’ll discover… Stacie the Mortician—Jill’s new (and current) love connection. The reticent minister who refused to officiate Jill’s next wedding, and the baseless reasons why. Jill has a stroke on tax day—A real one. Will you grieve forever? What I was wrong about (it has to do with grieving forever). How to be like ninety-nine-year-old actress Betty White (she was widowed 40 years ago and hasn’t remarried)—or how to be like Jill with the courage,...

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Episode 52: The Rebellious Widow (2 of 3) show art Episode 52: The Rebellious Widow (2 of 3)

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Part 2 of The Rebellious Widow with guest co-host, twice-widowed author, therapist, Mom, and entrepreneur Jill Johnson-Young, LCSW. Taste Part 2: How Casper comes back into the scene and what she asked Jill's Mom. How to break the widow rules so you can live life on your terms without guilt and shame. The three-page bucket List. Introducing your dead spouse. Finishing relationships—how a therapist helps you. People uncomfortable with death: which friends or family suddenly disappeared? The Snow Goose Dress—the things you’ll wear for a dying loved one. Anticipatory Grief—when your grief...

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Episode 51: The Rebellious Widow (1 of 3) show art Episode 51: The Rebellious Widow (1 of 3)

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Jill Johnson-Young guest co-hosts. Jill is an internationally known grief therapist, Mom, author, entrepreneur, and LCSW (Licensed Clinical Social Worker). While in her 40’s, Jill lost her first wife Linda. Then, Jill lost her second wife Casper. Casper was first wife Linda’s hospice nurse. And now, Jill is married to her third wife Stacie. Stacie is the mortician who cared for both Linda and Casper. Reread and wrap your mind around that! But that’s not all… Jill is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. In her own trial by fire, what surprised Jill is how popular conventional grief...

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Episode 50: Three and a Half Years Since (4 of 4) show art Episode 50: Three and a Half Years Since (4 of 4)

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Got psychotherapy? Freud’s field day on the couch. Tim revisits a childhood memory. Over and over and over. The last time we made love. Tim recollects. Covid loneliness. Emeric struggles. The first thing you should do each morning, no matter what. Prescribed by a world-renowned clinical psychologist and a Navy Seal. Let’s talk codependence. Cooking for One, Eating for Two. Emeric lives alone now, and it's not so easy, yet. Tim's late spouse Donna's last written word, and more. If you haven’t listened to parts 1, 2, and 3, listen to those first. Links: Tim's prior guest host episode...

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Episode 49: Three and a Half Years Since (3 of 4) show art Episode 49: Three and a Half Years Since (3 of 4)

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Three and a Half Years Since (3 of 4). The marriage question—are you all in? I wonder why my widowed friends say they’ll never marry again. And does that mean they’ll never be 100% “all-in” on any relationship? Who was sleeping with the librarian? Three and a half years since Donna died, what’s Tim’s identity now? After your spouse died you’re invited to a wedding. But now the invitation says You and guest. Gut punch? Is Tim still pissed at God? Woo Woo? Tim explains how he senses his late spouse Donna’s presence. Tim examines why it makes more sense—he should have died...

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Episode 48: Three and a Half Years Since (2 of 4) show art Episode 48: Three and a Half Years Since (2 of 4)

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Three and a Half Years Since (2 of 4). How not to end a relationship—Never do this chicken shyt thing. Was I right to be judgy? Why Tim mourned after his very first date. SCIENCE! The science of dating: Got chemistry? When will your family be ready to see you with another woman or man? Tim’s 30-year-old adult kid says she’s not ready. Hear what Tim says about this. Are you afraid to die? Not enough words from my Indian tribe—am I talking on borrowed time? Why are you here? (on Earth) Plus more. If you haven’t listened to part 1, listen to that first. Here’s the link: Tim's prior...

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Heart-bared grand finale of The Phoenix is a Poet with my widowed guest co-host, poet, and Renaissance Man, Barry Johnson. If you haven’t listened to parts 1 and 2, please do that first because you don’t want to be lost.

In this episode,

Barry and I rock-on with our late-night chat.

We hit heaps of heavy head trash hindrances.

You’ll hear: Are you enough? Enough to date. Good enough. Attractive enough. Manly enough. Enough.

What a Praying Mantis taught Barry about Life. Can you ever be comfortable in your own skin?

We discuss parting with your late spouse's belongings. Clothes. Intimate belongings. The Harley Davidson motorcycle. Why Barry can’t part with his late spouse Beverly’s perfumes. 

Late 2019, early 2020— Barry is dying. You’ll hear Barry read the Good-Bye poem he wrote to his daughter Megan. Barry wrote the poem just hours before he answers the phone call that forever changes his life.

And there’s more…

Bullets

  • What I Learned from a Praying Mantis
  • Don’t Use This Reason to Date
  • Write Poems to Help Others
  • Do Men Want to Be Desired?
  • The First Touch from a Woman
  • Giving Her Clothes Away…Quickly
  • Why I Kept Her Perfumes
  • My Wife’s Harley Davidson
  • Leather Chaps, Britches Optional
  • Comfortable with My Own Death
  • Good-Bye Poem to My Daughter
  • Poem Reading: Soldier’s Lament
  • I Got the Call
  • F#&k It—I’m Going to Live!
  • Living for Two—New Liver Delivered
  • The Serenity Prayer
  • Sometimes Life Kicks You in the Nuts
  • Barry the Renaissance Man
  • There’s Hope
  • You’re Not Alone

This is Emeric and thanks for listening. You know the My Spouse Died Too podcast is raw and real and This Ain't Your Grandma's Grief Group.

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