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Release Date: 07/12/2023
Bonus episode: Changing perspectives to overcome bitterness
OCF Crosspoint Podcast
Show Notes In this bonus episode, Josh, Beth, and Corrie explore the challenges of bitterness and resentment in military marriages, highlighting the influence of faith, perspective shifts, and community support. They discuss the importance of diverse friendships, flexibility in family life, and seeking counseling. Emphasizing teamwork, Beth and Corrie share strategies for balancing responsibilities and overcoming feelings of isolation and resentment. Beth introduces insights from her new book for military spouses called while Corrie shares about her dynamic Instagram platform,...
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OCF MINISTRY NEWS New Bible study available: Visit to access this newest study, A Faithful Approach to Hardship and Suffering, on our website. GivingTuesday fundraiser: Give the gift of Christlike leadership this GivingTuesday (3 Dec.) by visiting and donating now. Job opening at WSS: If you would like more information and/or an application for this ministry opportunity, contact the WSS Center Director Paul Robyn ([email protected]) or the WSS Director of Hospitality Susanne Pappal ([email protected]), or call the main office via...
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In this episode, COL Andy MacLean, USA (Ret.), the coordinator for Latin America at the Association for Christian Conferences, Teaching and Services (ACCTS ()), discusses the mission of ACCTS and its work in developing Christian leaders in the armed forces worldwide. He shares his experiences working with military communities in Latin America and the challenges and opportunities he encounters. Andy also highlights the upcoming AMCF World Conference and the need for financial support and prayer for the conference's success. Andy then shares his testimony and the five...
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OCF MINISTRY NEWS Fort Knox OCF update: Continue praying for the ROTC cadets as they’ve returned to their campuses and begun new semesters. To learn more about and/or get involved with OCF’s ROTC ministry, visit Connected print newsletters: If you don’t receive this biannual piece in your mailbox this fall, be sure to update your info via so that we don’t miss you next spring. This fall’s newsletter will also be available online at Ted & Beverly Kaiser: Contact this newest couple on the OCF team by emailing OCF...
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Bonus episode: Finding God's purpose in suffering
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Show Notes In this bonus episode of OCF Crosspoint, podcast host Josh Jackson continues his discussion with CH(CPT) Michael Will, USA (Ret.), focusing on the theme of hardship and suffering. The conversation delves into defining suffering, recognizing its various sources—such as persecution, sin, and the actions of others—and understanding its impact. They address the dangers of comparison, which can undermine endurance, and emphasize the importance of acknowledging our lack of control as a starting point for discovering God's purpose in suffering. The episode offers...
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Show Notes OCF MINISTRY NEWS OCF purchased a new staff home at Spring Canyon: To contribute to OCF's purchase of this house, . OCF is expanding efforts in ROTC ministry with a new job opening at The Citadel: To learn more about the Council’s approval of this opportunity and/or . July marks the halfway point of OCF’s conference center ministry: to learn more about programs and opportunities available later this summer and fall. The AMCF World Conference 2024 in Brazil is coming up: This transformative opportunity to connect with other military...
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June 2024, “Not wrong or right, just left or right”: Planning ahead for career transitions
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Crosspoint Show Notes, June 2024: Today’s episode introduces a new format for the OCF Crosspoint podcast. Moving forward, each monthly episode will consist of three segments: OCF ministry news, an “Ask OCF” segment, and an interview with a guest about a particular topic or personal story. Read on for links and details from each of these three segments for June 2024. OCF MINISTRY NEWS Volunteers needed for Fort Knox CST ministry: If interested in leading small groups for cadets during summer training at Fort Knox, particularly in July, reach out to Bob...
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An OCF Milestone Moment: The Inaugural Global Town Hall
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In this special episode of OCF Crosspoint, you’re going to hear audio from the inaugural OCF Global Town Hall, which was broadcasted live on 10 February from the new Home Office in Colorado Springs, Colo. The first voice that you’re going to hear is OCF Council President Col Dale Holland, USAF (Ret.). He and OCF’s CEO / Executive Director, Col Scott Fisher, USAF (Ret.), started by discussing the impactful journey and future visions for OCF. After their opening remarks, the remaining hour or so was used as a Q&A time. During the Q&A portion, you’ll also hear the voice of LTC...
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Show Notes:
On the heels of several episodes on the topics of pornography and sexuality with CAPT Brent & Nicole Breining, USN (Ret.), Dr. Joy Skarka joins me on the podcast for a similar conversation, except we’ll approach this topic from the perspective of single or dating women.
Joy currently serves as the director of discipleship at Authentic Intimacy, a ministry devoted to teaching on God's design for intimacy and sexuality.
Joy discusses the meaning behind and value of a phrase that contains two words we likely wouldn’t expect to go together: sexual discipleship. She then shares her own story with pornography addiction and how God turned a source of brokenness, pain, and trauma into a passion through which she helps other women navigate similar struggles. You can connect with Joy by following her on Instagram: @joyskarka.
Check out the various resources mentioned throughout this episode:
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Authentic Intimacy, the ministry Joy works for that offers online groups, resources, and more
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Java with Juli, Authentic Intimacy’s podcast with the ministry’s president and co-founder Juli Slattery
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Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design and Why It Matters by Dr. Juli Slattery
As you listen to this conversation with Joy, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor:
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Quoting Juli Slattery’s book Rethinking Sexuality, Joy says, “Every sexual question is ultimately a spiritual one.” Do you agree? Why or why not?
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How might a lack of education from the church result in a poor or even harmful understanding of sexuality?
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Joy talks about how addiction to pornography can start so subtly. What are some ways we can proactively guard against developing such addictions?
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If we truly understand that the point of being a Christian is to be made more like Christ, how does that understanding affect our contentment in Him alone, regardless of relationship status, circumstances, etc.?
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Who are the trustworthy mentors in your life with whom you can discuss heavy topics like the ones covered in today’s episode?