OCF Crosspoint Podcast
Sharing stories of military life at the intersection of faith, family, and profession
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Bonus episode: Changing perspectives to overcome bitterness
11/14/2024
Bonus episode: Changing perspectives to overcome bitterness
Show Notes In this bonus episode, Josh, Beth, and Corrie explore the challenges of bitterness and resentment in military marriages, highlighting the influence of faith, perspective shifts, and community support. They discuss the importance of diverse friendships, flexibility in family life, and seeking counseling. Emphasizing teamwork, Beth and Corrie share strategies for balancing responsibilities and overcoming feelings of isolation and resentment. Beth introduces insights from her new book for military spouses called while Corrie shares about her dynamic Instagram platform, @ajoyfulmilspouse, that celebrates military life. Together, they stress that community and shared experiences can strengthen relationships amid military life’s unique challenges. In the course of this conversation, we also reference Beth’s list of If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF’s “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic we should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to [email protected]. https://www.ocfusa.org/podcastguest/ Takeaways The person most affected by bitterness is often the one holding onto it. Military spouses often feel bitterness due to the challenges of military life. Community support is crucial for military spouses to overcome feelings of isolation. Engaging in activities outside of the marriage can help alleviate pressure on the spouse. Maintaining connections with friends, even if they are far away, is important. Perspective shifts can help in dealing with feelings of loss and resentment. Faith and reliance on God can transform bitterness into growth. Assuming the best in your spouse fosters a healthier relationship. God has a purpose for every assignment in life. Points to Ponder As you listen to this conversation with Beth and Corrie, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: How does unresolved bitterness affect not only the individual experiencing it but also their relationships with family, friends, and community members? How can someone recognize when bitterness is taking a toll on their life and relationships? In what ways can military spouses balance the demands of military life with self-care and maintaining friendships, even with distance involved? How might maintaining these connections positively impact their mental health and family life? How can a change in perspective help military spouses navigate feelings of loss, resentment, or inequality in responsibilities? What strategies can help shift perspective from bitterness to personal growth? Why is community support so crucial for military families, and what are some effective ways to build a support network? How can this support network contribute to overcoming isolation and fostering resilience?
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November 2024: Overcoming bitterness; reaching out to ROTC; and OCF ministry news
11/06/2024
November 2024: Overcoming bitterness; reaching out to ROTC; and OCF ministry news
OCF MINISTRY NEWS New Bible study available: Visit to access this newest study, A Faithful Approach to Hardship and Suffering, on our website. GivingTuesday fundraiser: Give the gift of Christlike leadership this GivingTuesday (3 Dec.) by visiting and donating now. Job opening at WSS: If you would like more information and/or an application for this ministry opportunity, contact the WSS Center Director Paul Robyn ([email protected]) or the WSS Director of Hospitality Susanne Pappal ([email protected]), or call the main office via 814-623-5583. Visit to learn more about or to apply for the new facilities director position at White Sulphur Springs in Pennsylvania. Winter Retreats at OCF Conference Centers: Visit to register for one of White Sulphur Springs’ Winter Retreat sessions, or visit to register for one of Spring Canyon’s Winter Retreat sessions. Ministry update from MMI OCF: Visit to learn more about and connect with local fellowships like the one at MMI in Alabama. ASK OCF Lt Col Larry Sherbondy, USAF (Ret.), who serves as the OCF Director of ROTC Ministry, answered this question from another OCFer: How much time might be involved in participating in or starting an ROTC OCF group? Many resources and opportunities await those interested in plugging into ROTC ministry. Visit to get in touch with Larry, check out upcoming ROTC events, and more. If you have a question that you want us to consider for a future “Ask OCF” segment, send an email to . GUEST SPOTLIGHT Today’s guest spotlight features two military spouses: Beth Runkle and Corrie Reeter. Beth and her husband currently serve with Cru Military, and she recently published a book called Corrie is a blogger with a dynamic following on Instagram as @ajoyfulmilspouse, where she and her followers celebrate the uniqueness, blessings, and adventures of military marriage and family life. Speaking from their experiences as military spouses, Beth and Corrie discuss the bitterness that may arise for some military spouses as they experience deployments, moves, and more. In the course of this conversation, we reference Beth’s list of 10 ways to overcome bitterness and resentment, . If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF’s . Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic we should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to . POINTS TO PONDER As you listen to this conversation with Beth and Corrie, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: When was a time you personally experienced bitterness in your life as a military service member and/or spouse? How did you overcome that bitterness? In what ways is the military life a sanctifying one? What is the value of counting your blessings, entrusting everything to the Lord, and maintaining an eternal perspective?
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October 2024: Sharing your faith in the military; OCF membership trends; and OCF ministry news
10/07/2024
October 2024: Sharing your faith in the military; OCF membership trends; and OCF ministry news
Show Notes OCF MINISTRY NEWS Job opening at the U.S. Coast Guard Academy: Contact PK Carlton () or Marci Morris () for more info, or visit to learn more about and apply for the opening at USCGA. Applications are open until 31 Oct. In His Service Retreat for women in uniform: Visit for more details about this retreat coming up in Jefferson, Texas. OCF Mid-Atlantic & Northeast Fall Retreat: Visit to learn more and register, and email any questions to the Chiaravallottis at [email protected]. Winter Retreats at OCF Conference Centers: Visit to register for one of White Sulphur Springs’ Winter Retreat sessions, or visit to register for one of Spring Canyon’s Winter Retreat sessions. ASK OCF LTC Ryan Wainwright, USA (Ret.), who serves as the Assistant Director of Field Operations, answered this question from another OCFer: Is our membership expanding or contracting? OCF isn’t just for military officers—anyone sincerely able to sign the Statement of Faith and Participation and agree with the OCF Biblical Guidelines for Member Conduct can become a member of OCF. To become a member, first acknowledge your agreement with the Statement of Faith, then visit to fill out the form. If you have a question that you want us to consider for a future “Ask OCF” segment, send an email to . GUEST SPOTLIGHT Today’s guest spotlight features Col PK Carlton, USAF (Ret.), who currently serves as OCF's Director of Field Staff. In this role, he focuses on the care and engagement for our Field Staff at the four Service Academies and our Gateway ministries at Leavenworth and Maxwell. PK and his wife Lindsey have served as Local Leaders across their Air Force career, later serving as Ministry Team at USAFA that led to them leading the USAFA ministry for two years. They love having cadets over and mentoring young officers and have a heart for the Field Staff and their families that serve our key ministries. Earlier this year, PK led a retreat session for USAFA cadets at Spring Canyon () to unpack this frequently asked question in OCF circles: “How do I evangelize in uniform?” PK joined us on Crosspoint to share some of the encouragement he gave those cadets and to share his own testimony as well. If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF’s . Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic we should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to . POINTS TO PONDER As you listen to this conversation with PK, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: How do you feel about evangelism, and what experiences have shaped your impression? Why is it important to keep Matthew 5:16 and Romans 10:14 in mind when thinking about sharing your faith? Who might be able to mentor you in evangelism? What techniques have you found work well for sharing your own testimony?
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Bonus episode: Seeing the five fingerprints of God in your life
09/18/2024
Bonus episode: Seeing the five fingerprints of God in your life
In this episode, COL Andy MacLean, USA (Ret.), the coordinator for Latin America at the Association for Christian Conferences, Teaching and Services (ACCTS ()), discusses the mission of ACCTS and its work in developing Christian leaders in the armed forces worldwide. He shares his experiences working with military communities in Latin America and the challenges and opportunities he encounters. Andy also highlights the upcoming AMCF World Conference and the need for financial support and prayer for the conference's success. Andy then shares his testimony and the five fingerprints of God in his life. He discusses his journey from being a missionary kid to a military officer and the unexpected opportunities and doors that God opened for him. He emphasizes the importance of being a good steward of what God has entrusted to us and thinking strategically about where God has placed us. He encourages Christians in the military to use their credentials and experiences to make an impact for the kingdom of God and to be mindful of the bigger picture in their actions and decisions. Andy mentions a few resources in this interview: OCF small groups (), Rocky Mountain High (), and the AMCF World Conference (). Takeaways ACCTS' mission is to assist in the development of Christian leaders in the armed forces worldwide and establish military Christian fellowships. Andy works as the coordinator for Latin America, supporting military Christian fellowships in 20 countries. The AMCF World Conference aims to encourage and equip military Christians from around the world and provide a vision for their mission. Financial support and prayer are needed for the success of the conference and the ongoing work of ACCTS. There is a need for more people to get involved in ACCTS and support military Christian communities globally. Be a good steward of what God has entrusted to you. Think strategically about where God has placed you. Use your credentials and experiences to make an impact for the kingdom of God. Be mindful of the bigger picture in your actions and decisions. Points to Ponder Andy talks about the Lord using his military career to prepare him for his role with ACCTS. How have you seen God use an experience in your life for another? When have you seen hardship bear fruit? Andy shares about connections and networking being a way to further the gospel elsewhere. What do his anecdotes remind us of when it comes to the Lord and His church? Thinking of the theme for this year’s AMCF World Conference, what does it mean to you to “arise and shine” (Isaiah 60:1)? How are you stewarding what God has given you?
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September 2024: The global military community; veteran involvement in OCF; and OCF ministry news
09/11/2024
September 2024: The global military community; veteran involvement in OCF; and OCF ministry news
OCF MINISTRY NEWS Fort Knox OCF update: Continue praying for the ROTC cadets as they’ve returned to their campuses and begun new semesters. To learn more about and/or get involved with OCF’s ROTC ministry, visit Connected print newsletters: If you don’t receive this biannual piece in your mailbox this fall, be sure to update your info via so that we don’t miss you next spring. This fall’s newsletter will also be available online at Ted & Beverly Kaiser: Contact this newest couple on the OCF team by emailing OCF Mid-Atlantic & Northeast Fall Retreat: Visit whitesulphursprings.org/events to learn more and register, and email any questions to the Chiaravallottis at . The Bowens’ Fort Carson OCF group: Visit to connect with groups like the Bowens’, and visit to start your own group wherever you are. ASK OCF COL Steve & Miriam Shambach, USA (Ret.), who serve as the OCF Mountain Central Regional Coordinator couple, answered this question from another OCFer: Retired, I don't live near a military base, no local OCF folks near me...what opportunity is there for fellowship/training through Zoom? In case you missed the Shambachs’ article in the spring 2024 issue of Connected print newsletter, you can find it here: . If you have a question that you want us to consider for a future “Ask OCF” segment, send an email to . GUEST SPOTLIGHT COL Andy MacLean, USA (Ret.), graduated from the U.S. Military Academy in 1995 and later returned there to be a professor. After retiring in 2019, he joined the Association for Christian Conferences, Teaching, and Services (), a sister ministry of OCF. He currently serves as the ACCTS coordinator for Latin America. Whether discussing the origin story of ACCTS, the countries he works with as an ACCTS staffer, or his own life, Andy’s passion for sharing how God works in the details is clear. He talks about the upcoming , approaching this October in Brazil, which you can support by attending, praying for the gathering, and/or contributing to a scholarship for other guests. If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF’s . Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic we should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to . POINTS TO PONDER As you listen to this conversation with Andy, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: How can you engage in the international ministry ACCTS does? When have you seen God work through hard situations, whether in your own life or in events across the world? Why is it important to discuss how God is working in other nation’s military communities?
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Bonus episode: Finding God's purpose in suffering
08/15/2024
Bonus episode: Finding God's purpose in suffering
Show Notes In this bonus episode of OCF Crosspoint, podcast host Josh Jackson continues his discussion with CH(CPT) Michael Will, USA (Ret.), focusing on the theme of hardship and suffering. The conversation delves into defining suffering, recognizing its various sources—such as persecution, sin, and the actions of others—and understanding its impact. They address the dangers of comparison, which can undermine endurance, and emphasize the importance of acknowledging our lack of control as a starting point for discovering God's purpose in suffering. The episode offers practical advice for navigating hardship, including perseverance and concentrating on what we can control. It also explores the purpose behind suffering, such as being shaped into the image of Christ and learning obedience. The conversation touches on the challenging yet transformative concept of rejoicing in suffering and finding hope amidst adversity. Silence and listening to God are highlighted as crucial practices in these times, along with the importance of seeking God's will through prayer. Additionally, the discussion covers the role of discipline and training in preparing for suffering, encouraging believers to embrace it with a mindset of rejoicing. By viewing suffering as something appointed by God rather than accidental, believers can appreciate the transformative work God accomplishes through these hardships. Points to Ponder As you listen to this conversation with CH Will, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: What personal experiences have shaped your definition of suffering? How have you seen God use suffering in your own life and in the lives of others? What Bible verses encourage you in the midst of hardship? Michael talks about prayer as “the most effective tool” in his toolkit. What additional tools can you use when facing hard times?
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August 2024: Seeing God’s hand during hardship; enlisted involvement in OCF; and OCF ministry news
08/07/2024
August 2024: Seeing God’s hand during hardship; enlisted involvement in OCF; and OCF ministry news
Show Notes OCF MINISTRY NEWS New hires; jobs still available on OCF team: While couples have stepped forward to fill open positions at USMA and USCGA on an interim basis, the application window at both West Point and the Coast Guard Academy is now extended to 31 October with an expected start date in the summer of 2025. Fall programs await at Spring Canyon and White Sulphur Springs: Jump-start your career transition with a weekend of interactive work, group discussions, and personal exercises, all facilitated by retired military leaders with over 200 years of combined leadership and life-coaching experience. This three-day wilderness experience, complete with outdoor activities, campfires, spectacular mountain vistas and events, is tailored to meet the needs of busy families who yearn to “Reconnect in the Rockies.” Designed for one parent and one child, these weekends are an opportunity to build memories that will last a lifetime. ASK OCF TSgt Ryan Padgett, USAF (Ret.), answered the FAQ: Is OCF only for officers? Ryan shares about his own experience with joining OCF and encourages other enlisted service members to get involved, too. Interested in getting involved in OCF? and/or . If you have a question that you want us to consider for a future “Ask OCF” segment, send an email to [email protected]. GUEST SPOTLIGHT CH(CAPT) Michael Will, USA (Ret.), spoke on this month’s episode about hardship and suffering, topics which also served as his focus while he was the speaker for a week of last month. Having enlisted in 1992 and later commissioned as a chaplain, Michael has also pastored churches in Ohio and Canada. He currently serves as the associate pastor for discipleship at Grace Evangelical Congregational Church in Knox, Pa. If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF’s “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic we should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to [email protected]. POINTS TO PONDER As you listen to this conversation with Michael, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: What personal experiences have shaped your definition of suffering? How have you seen God use suffering in your own life and in the lives of others? What Bible verses encourage you in the midst of hardship? Michael talks about prayer as “the most effective tool” in his toolkit. What additional tools can you use when facing hard times?
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July 2024: Modeling biblical humility; Christian chaplain challenges; and OCF ministry news
07/09/2024
July 2024: Modeling biblical humility; Christian chaplain challenges; and OCF ministry news
Show Notes OCF MINISTRY NEWS OCF purchased a new staff home at Spring Canyon: To contribute to OCF's purchase of this house, . OCF is expanding efforts in ROTC ministry with a new job opening at The Citadel: To learn more about the Council’s approval of this opportunity and/or . July marks the halfway point of OCF’s conference center ministry: to learn more about programs and opportunities available later this summer and fall. The AMCF World Conference 2024 in Brazil is coming up: This transformative opportunity to connect with other military communities around the world is scheduled for 16-20 October. Can't attend? that will provide financial scholarships to other attendees. OCF small group spotlight: OCF Field Staffer Paul Homan shared one of several questions posed during the OCF at USAFA spring retreat and spiritual commissioning. What’s your small group studying? What questions are you wrestling with? Let Courtney know by emailing her at . ASK OCF CH(COL) Douglas H. Ball, USA answered the FAQ: What are the challenges that our Christian Military Chaplains are facing? His three-part answer mentions busy schedules, role expansion, and cultural change. Interested in learning more about resources for chaplains and ways to support your chaplains? If you have a question that you want us to consider for a future “Ask OCF” segment, send an email to . GUEST SPOTLIGHT This month, Josh sat down with Brig Gen Jeff H. Hurlbert, USAF (Ret.), who retired from the Air Force in 2023 after 32 years of service. He's currently the chief security officer for Applied Materials, a global leader in the semiconductor, display, and solar panel industries. Jeff is also a longtime OCF member and current member of the OCF Council. This month, Jeff is speaking at on the topic of humility, and he discusses that same topic here in today’s episode of Crosspoint. Inspired by an OCF Bible study he participated in 15 years ago in Germany and having seen the impact of humility in his own life and career, Jeff addresses several questions such as why humility matters to the military leader, what it is and what it isn’t, and more. If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF’s “Be a Guest” webpage. Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic we should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to . POINTS TO PONDER As you listen to this conversation with Jeff, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: How would you define humility? What’s a personal example of humility making a difference, whether you were the one displaying humility or observing someone observing humility? How does Christ’s example encourage you to lead and live humbly? What gifts has God given you that you can use to serve others for His glory?
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June 2024, “Not wrong or right, just left or right”: Planning ahead for career transitions
06/07/2024
June 2024, “Not wrong or right, just left or right”: Planning ahead for career transitions
Crosspoint Show Notes, June 2024: Today’s episode introduces a new format for the OCF Crosspoint podcast. Moving forward, each monthly episode will consist of three segments: OCF ministry news, an “Ask OCF” segment, and an interview with a guest about a particular topic or personal story. Read on for links and details from each of these three segments for June 2024. OCF MINISTRY NEWS Volunteers needed for Fort Knox CST ministry: If interested in leading small groups for cadets during summer training at Fort Knox, particularly in July, reach out to Bob Deckard via or to Larry Sherbondy via . Conference Center summer programs begin: Visit to watch our newest video about opportunities at OCF’s two Conference Centers—White Sulphur Springs in Manns Choice, Pa., and Spring Canyon in Buena Vista, Colo. From there, check out each Conference Center’s website to learn more about summer programs and discounts available to first-time guests, active-duty military, and OCF Local Leaders. SkillBridge opportunities now available at OCF: Visit to check out OCF’s newest webpage about our new opportunities available through SkillBridge. OCF small group spotlight: Maj Nathan Flack, USAF, serves as the Local Leader for and shared what question his group wrestled with recently. What’s your small group studying? What questions are you wrestling with? Let Courtney know by emailing her at . ASK OCF OCF Council President Col Dale Holland, USAF (Ret.), answered some FAQs about Local Leaders and mentioned resources available online. Visit to access these resources. If you’d like to become a Local Leader or if you’ve not yet listed yourself on our online directory, visit to do so. If you have a question that you want us to consider for a future “Ask OCF” segment, send an email to . GUEST SPOTLIGHT Have you thought about what that next season of life might look like after military service? What does it look like to have a Biblical approach when it comes to a career transition? And what does your identity have to do with this? This month, Josh sat down with Maj Gen Pete Peterson, USAF (Ret.) to discuss these questions. Pete is a co-founder of , an organization that uses Biblical principles to help men and women transition from military service to the next season that God has planned for them. Having experienced a career transition himself after 34 years of service in the Air Force, Pete shares his own lessons learned, Biblical principles for a career change, and details about Caleb Challenge. Caleb Challenge is hosting its next workshop at OCF’s White Sulphur Springs in Manns Choice, Pa., later this fall. Visit to learn more and register for this valuable 13-15 September workshop. If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF’s . Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic we should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to . POINTS TO PONDER As you listen to this conversation with Pete, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: Consider Pete’s big question for those who will eventually transition out of a military career: What’s your real focus? How can you start preparing for your own career transition now? What does it mean to you to “include God in the process”? Why is our identity in Christ important to consider when going through a big life change like a career transition?
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An OCF Milestone Moment: The Inaugural Global Town Hall
02/16/2024
An OCF Milestone Moment: The Inaugural Global Town Hall
In this special episode of OCF Crosspoint, you’re going to hear audio from the inaugural OCF Global Town Hall, which was broadcasted live on 10 February from the new Home Office in Colorado Springs, Colo. The first voice that you’re going to hear is OCF Council President Col Dale Holland, USAF (Ret.). He and OCF’s CEO / Executive Director, Col Scott Fisher, USAF (Ret.), started by discussing the impactful journey and future visions for OCF. After their opening remarks, the remaining hour or so was used as a Q&A time. During the Q&A portion, you’ll also hear the voice of LTC Colin Wooten, USA (Ret.), who helped moderate and also posed a mix of both real-time questions from the event and questions submitted ahead of time. The questions covered in this episode centered on these 12 topics: Local Leader training and information. Balancing OCF involvement with commitment to the local church. Starting an OCF ROTC group at a university that does not have one. Opportunities for retired ex-military to get involved with OCF. Creating more awareness about OCF. Challenges that our Christian military chaplains are facing. OCF funding shortfalls. Focusing on the National Guard and Reserves. Reaching out beyond U.S. membership. Pursuing GRACE relations amid a divisive and dismissive culture. Regional training conferences. Two to three things that both Dale and Scott are excited about in the upcoming year. If you’d rather watch a video of the Global Town Hall, visit . On that page, there’s also a form you can fill out if you have questions, comments, or feedback, or send an email to . We’ll make sure your message is sent to the appropriate person.
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Part 3: Spiritual Formation: A Counter-Cultural Approach to Spiritual Renewal
11/29/2023
Part 3: Spiritual Formation: A Counter-Cultural Approach to Spiritual Renewal
Today, you’ll hear audio from the conclusion of a speaking session by CH(MAJ) Jake Snodgrass, USA, this past fall at Spring Canyon’s Aspentime Retreat. If you’re new to OCF and you’ve never heard of Spring Canyon, it’s OCF’s western conference and retreat center located near Buena Vista, Colorado. And if you’ve never heard of Aspentime, it’s a weekend getaway at Spring Canyon for Christian military members and families, and it features teaching and small group sessions led by a speaker like CH Snodgrass. Participants at the weekend retreat explored the profound concept of spiritual formation through the lens of renowned authors such as John Mark Comer, Dallas Willard, John Ortberg, and Donald Whitney, and they uncovered principles and practices that challenge contemporary ideals, emphasizing the necessity of community in the pursuit of spiritual growth. There were also interactive discussions, activities, and real-life applications in which leaders discovered how to build and sustain a vibrant military ministry while fostering personal renewal in an increasingly secular world and military. About CH(MAJ) Jake Snodgrass, USA Chaplain Jacob Snodgrass is a native of Ames, OK, and graduated from the University of Oklahoma and Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary. He is currently pursuing a PhD in Applied Theology at Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary in Kansas City. He was commissioned from ROTC in 2002, and has served as a Chaplain since 2009, endorsed by the Southern Baptist Convention. He currently serves as the 10th Special Forces Group Chaplain and as the lead pastor of Agape Carson, Fort Carson, CO. Chaplain Snodgrass has served numerous assignments as a chaplain, pastor, and church planter, including Camp Humphreys, Korea; Fort Lewis, WA; and Kandahar, Afghanistan. He was named U.S. Army Chaplain of the Year in 2019. Chaplain Snodgrass has been married for 18 years to the former Heather Dostal of Leakenheath, UK, and they have six kids: Manuel 24, Karmen 22, Gage 15, Boyce 14, Jovie 11, and Bennett 8.
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Part 2: Spiritual Formation: A Counter-Cultural Approach to Spiritual Renewal
11/15/2023
Part 2: Spiritual Formation: A Counter-Cultural Approach to Spiritual Renewal
Today, you’ll hear audio from Part 2 of a speaking session by CH(MAJ) Jake Snodgrass, USA, this past fall at Spring Canyon’s Aspentime Retreat. If you’re new to OCF and you’ve never heard of Spring Canyon, it’s OCF’s western conference and retreat center located near Buena Vista, Colorado. And if you’ve never heard of Aspentime, it’s a weekend getaway at Spring Canyon for Christian military members and families, and it features teaching and small group sessions led by a speaker like CH Snodgrass. Participants at the weekend retreat explored the profound concept of spiritual formation through the lens of renowned authors such as John Mark Comer, Dallas Willard, John Ortberg, and Donald Whitney, and they uncovered principles and practices that challenge contemporary ideals, emphasizing the necessity of community in the pursuit of spiritual growth. There were also interactive discussions, activities, and real-life applications in which leaders discovered how to build and sustain a vibrant military ministry while fostering personal renewal in an increasingly secular world and military. About CH(MAJ) Jake Snodgrass, USA Chaplain Jacob Snodgrass is a native of Ames, OK, and graduated from the University of Oklahoma and Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary. He is currently pursuing a PhD in Applied Theology at Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary in Kansas City. He was commissioned from ROTC in 2002, and has served as a Chaplain since 2009, endorsed by the Southern Baptist Convention. He currently serves as the 10th Special Forces Group Chaplain and as the lead pastor of Agape Carson, Fort Carson, CO. Chaplain Snodgrass has served numerous assignments as a chaplain, pastor, and church planter, including Camp Humphreys, Korea; Fort Lewis, WA; and Kandahar, Afghanistan. He was named U.S. Army Chaplain of the Year in 2019. Chaplain Snodgrass has been married for 18 years to the former Heather Dostal of Leakenheath, UK, and they have six kids: Manuel 24, Karmen 22, Gage 15, Boyce 14, Jovie 11, and Bennett 8.
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Part 1: Spiritual Formation: A Counter-Cultural Approach to Spiritual Renewal
11/08/2023
Part 1: Spiritual Formation: A Counter-Cultural Approach to Spiritual Renewal
Today, you’ll hear audio from a speaking session by CH(MAJ) Jake Snodgrass, USA, this past fall at Spring Canyon’s Aspentime Retreat. If you’re new to OCF and you’ve never heard of Spring Canyon, it’s OCF’s western conference and retreat center located near Buena Vista, Colorado. And if you’ve never heard of Aspentime, it’s a weekend getaway at Spring Canyon for Christian military members and families, and it features teaching and small group sessions led by a speaker like CH Snodgrass. Participants at the weekend retreat explored the profound concept of spiritual formation through the lens of renowned authors such as John Mark Comer, Dallas Willard, John Ortberg, and Donald Whitney, and they uncovered principles and practices that challenge contemporary ideals, emphasizing the necessity of community in the pursuit of spiritual growth. There were also interactive discussions, activities, and real-life applications in which leaders discovered how to build and sustain a vibrant military ministry while fostering personal renewal in an increasingly secular world and military. About CH(MAJ) Jake Snodgrass, USA Chaplain Jacob Snodgrass is a native of Ames, OK, and graduated from the University of Oklahoma and Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary. He is currently pursuing a PhD in Applied Theology at Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary in Kansas City. He was commissioned from ROTC in 2002, and has served as a Chaplain since 2009, endorsed by the Southern Baptist Convention. He currently serves as the 10th Special Forces Group Chaplain and as the lead pastor of Agape Carson, Fort Carson, CO. Chaplain Snodgrass has served numerous assignments as a chaplain, pastor, and church planter, including Camp Humphreys, Korea; Fort Lewis, WA; and Kandahar, Afghanistan. He was named U.S. Army Chaplain of the Year in 2019. Chaplain Snodgrass has been married for 18 years to the former Heather Dostal of Leakenheath, UK, and they have six kids: Manuel 24, Karmen 22, Gage 15, Boyce 14, Jovie 11, and Bennett 8.
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“Practice what we profess”: Three leadership principles for the Christian in the military
10/18/2023
“Practice what we profess”: Three leadership principles for the Christian in the military
Got an idea for a guest or topic? If you would like to share your own story, Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to [email protected]. Show Notes: Today’s guest is Col Jassen Bluto, USAF, (Ret.), a 32-year veteran who commanded four squadrons, served in combat in Iraq, and oversaw physical security and anti-terrorism policy and training at Air National Guard headquarters. He also gained extensive leadership experience in academia and then in law enforcement, where he served on three separate police agencies before retiring as a detective from an agency in Los Angeles County. Pulling from decades of experience in enlisted and commissioned roles, Jassen shares three leadership principles–trust, respect, and caring–principles that inspired his short book titled . While the military certainly provides ample leadership training and experience, Jassen shares about the importance of leading from a Christ-centered life, Bible verses that shape his leadership style, and more. >Check out these resources mentioned in Jassen’s interview: , Jassen’s short book that features Biblical examples and methodology , Jassen’s podcast that focuses on practical insights for leaders >Study questions for this episode As you listen to this conversation with Jassen, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: How would you characterize a good leader and a bad leader? What effect does right relationship with God have on our relationships with others on earth, especially in leadership contexts? What Bible verses come to mind to shape your leadership practices? How does humility produce good leadership? Why is it important to have deeper relationships with those operating under your leadership? Who in your life is providing you with feedback in order to develop your leadership skills?
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“Get your emotions to work for you”: Understanding emotional intelligence as a military leader
09/27/2023
“Get your emotions to work for you”: Understanding emotional intelligence as a military leader
Got an idea for a guest or topic? If you would like to share your own story, . Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to [email protected]. Show Notes How do emotional intelligence (known as EQ) and leadership go together? What does EQ have to do with leading in the military? How does EQ line up with scripture? Noble Gibbens, , joins me on the podcast to answer these questions. An Oklahoma-born West Point graduate who served in the U.S. Army in the 82nd Airborne Division, Noble combined his entrepreneurial spirit and experience with his passion for emotional intelligence to become a certified emotional intelligence practitioner, corporate speaker & trainer, and executive leadership coach. After growing up in a home where he “learned absolutely nothing about conflict resolution” and realizing his emotional dysfunction in his own home as an adult, Noble met with a counselor and began his emotional fitness journey. In this episode, he defines emotional intelligence, shares experiences with leadership in and out of the military context, talks about David and other biblical examples of emotional intelligence, and more. Check out these resources mentioned in Noble’s interview: by Dr. Travis Bradberry and Dr. Jean Greaves , an online self-rating assessment tool Dr. Brooks Gibbs, Emotional Resilience in Teens & Adults, and Creating Unstoppable Humans by Dr. Henry Cloud by Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend by The Arbinger Institute by Jonice Webb, PhD, with Christine Musello by Jonice Webb, PhD As you listen to this conversation with Noble, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: How would you define emotional intelligence? Think back to your own upbringing. How did your community, family, etc. talk about emotions? How has that impacted your understanding of emotional intelligence now? To pose Noble's question mentioned in this episode: How often do anxiety and frustrations, motivation, impulses, fear, and distress affect and impact your decision-making? Having listened to Noble explain the impact emotional intelligence can have on working relationships, what can improve within your own workplace? We talk about Jesus as the biblical model of being unoffendable, a trait that indicates high emotional intelligence. What can we learn from His example?
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“Camouflage Christian”: Living for Christ while serving in the military
09/13/2023
“Camouflage Christian”: Living for Christ while serving in the military
Got an idea for a guest or topic? If you would like to share your own story, . Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to [email protected]. Show Notes So many conversations within the OCF community circle back to this question: How ought Christians in the military integrate their faith and profession? One week after graduating from high school, CW4 Rich Smith, USA (Ret.), embarked on 24 years of military service that provided him experiences that answer that very question. Upon retiring from the Army, Rich has developed a passion for encouraging other service members not to camouflage their faith in Christ during their years in the military. In this episode, we discuss what hinders and helps Christians live out their faith in the military, his personal experiences with Christian fellowship during years on active duty, and more. , which provides a deeper dive on the topics he discussed on Crosspoint. Rich now resides in his hometown of Rome, New York, with wife Teri and granddaughters Amerie, Elodie, and Maisy. As you listen to this conversation with Rich, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: What motivates you to camouflage your faith while serving in the military context? How does Ephesians 6:10-20 encourage you to live out your faith in all areas of life? Rich shares a couple of personal anecdotes about how fellowship with other believers strengthened his walk during his time in the Army. What impact have you seen fellowship or the absence of it have in your own life? What Scripture can you commit to memory for the seemingly impossible tasks you’ll face at work? Rich talks about the value of turning to the Bible first in all circumstances. What things do you find yourself turning to first for encouragement, comfort, etc.?
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"Understand your why”: Following Jesus’ example of servant leadership
08/23/2023
"Understand your why”: Following Jesus’ example of servant leadership
Got an idea for a guest or topic? If you would like to share your own story, . Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to [email protected]. Show Notes: After graduating from West Point in 1989, Ricky Preciado served in the Army on active duty for five years then as a reservist for an additional five before shifting into business operations for a variety of manufacturing companies. Since 2017, he’s been working for Chick-fil-a, and he currently works for them as an owner-operator in the San Diego area. Ricky joined USS Somerset OCF for a day to share about one of his favorite topics, servant leadership, with Chick-fil-a in tow, of course, and he joined Assistant Director of Communications Courtney Taylor on the podcast to discuss the very same topic. He breaks down what can often seem to be a “Christianese” term in the church, shares what he’s learned about servant leadership via his work with Chick-fil-a, and recaps his visit with USS Somerset OCF. To find a small group fellowship similar to the USS Somerset OCF group Ricky visited, . As you listen to this conversation with Ricky, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: How would you define servant leadership? Who are your role models, biblical or personal, for servant leadership? Why? What personal experiences have humbled you and can be used in developing your own servant leadership? How does surrendering your responsibilities to God enable better servant leadership? Ricky talks about taking the focus off yourself as an impactful means to being a servant leader. What are some practical ways you can focus on others?
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Establishing “foundations of resilience”: Learning how to bounce back after trauma
08/09/2023
Establishing “foundations of resilience”: Learning how to bounce back after trauma
Got an idea for a guest or topic? If you would like to share your own story, . Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to [email protected]. Show Notes What is resilience? Is there a correlation between resilience and the prevalence of suicide in the military? How do you know if you’ve become resilient? Minutes after leading a session about the topic of resilience during OCF’s annual Local Leader Conference held at earlier this year, Col Tim Hale, USAF (Ret.), sat down with me in the dining hall of Hartley Holmes Lodge to address these questions and others. Raised in a military community near Scott AFB, Tim began his own career in the Air Force after completing Air Force ROTC at St. Louis University. Throughout his decades of service, Tim’s command positions at a variety of levels, bolstered by post-retirement experiences as a cabinet secretary for the New Mexico Department of Veteran Services and as an elder at his church, enabled him to see the importance of resilience firsthand. Tim now resides in Oklahoma, where he serves as OCF’s Area Coordinator for Central Oklahoma, Southern Kansas, and Northern Texas. Check out the various resources mentioned throughout this episode OCF Crosspoint episode with Jeremy Stalnecker that focuses on topics related to today’s episode with Tim by Chad Robichaux, Jeremy Stalnecker, and John Mizerak (foreword by MG Bob Dees, USA (Ret.)) by Bill Keith by MG Bob Dees, USA (Ret.) As you listen to this conversation with Tim, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor Tim says the best time to build resilience is before a traumatic event takes place. How can you build resilience now so that you’re better prepared if and when potentially traumatic life events occur? Referring to Path to Resiliency, Tim reminds us that God can heal our trauma and enable us to move forward. What examples, biblical or personal, come to mind as you think of God restoring people after a traumatic event? Specifically, what spiritual disciplines can you cultivate now so that those habits are already established if and when traumatic experiences occur? Who do you consider your community to support you through trauma and recovery? Tim shares 2 Corinthians 1:3 as a biblical encouragement that God sustains us through trials. What scripture can you begin clinging to now that will encourage you through the hardships of life? Tim suggests that a self-examination of behavior in day-to-day life–even when things are good–can help assess personal resilience that will prove necessary in hardships. Reflect now on how you’re handling the “small things” during this season of life, and ask yourself if there are spiritual disciplines to pursue as you seek to develop this resilience.
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"Take the biblical viewpoint”: Reframing parents’ conversations with kids about sex
07/26/2023
"Take the biblical viewpoint”: Reframing parents’ conversations with kids about sex
Got an idea for a guest or topic? If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on . Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to Show Notes: Earlier this season, Nicole Breining spoke about her husband’s pornography addiction that resulted in betrayal trauma and a serious strain on their relationship. But what impact does pornography addiction have on the rest of the family? Do kids experience a similar type of trauma when they learn parents struggle with a problematic sexual behavior? How should parents respond if and when they discover their children are viewing pornography? In this episode of Crosspoint, Dr. John Thorington addresses these questions. John is a licensed professional counselor and certified sexual recovery therapist, and he has a private practice in Huntsville, Alabama, called Restoring Hearts Counseling. If you haven’t already, listen to his first episode with Crosspoint from its first season, titled John talks about how parents might navigate a conversation with kids when a parent is struggling with problematic sexual behaviors, how to set boundaries in recovery, and what resources to use in next steps. We then flip the script to talk about how parents can move forward when they learn their child is the one struggling with problematic sexual behaviors, turning to God’s design rather than the world’s during ongoing conversations. Check out the various resources mentioned throughout this episode: , John’s practice that offers competent counseling and treats teen pornography addiction and other compulsive online behaviors with a Christian perspective , which seeks to provide hope, freedom, and healing from sexual brokenness through Jesus Christ , which helps men, women, and families move from sexual brokenness to wholeness in Christ and equips others to do the same by Daniel Weiss and Joshua Glaser, written to help parents navigate conversations with their kids about pornography by John Fort, a guide that provides parents a new approach to help children safely navigate today’s hypersexual culture , a Barna Report published in partnership with Josh McDowell Ministries , a global Christian ministry dedicated to helping families thrive by Barb Winters by Dr. John Thorington As you listen to this conversation with John, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: What is the value of backing up promises with action when navigating recovery from addiction with your family? If you’re a parent finding out that your child is viewing pornography, how can you make sure you respond well so that your relationship is not damaged? What can we learn from Jesus’ example as He interacts with the woman at the well in John 4:1-26? How can you be proactive in educating your kids about God’s design for sex and sexuality in a world where we often see a rebellion against that design? John talks about the potential harm we can do by framing conversations about sex in a negative light. How ought God’s design and His positive view of it shape how we talk about sex?
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"Struggling in silence”: Talking through God’s design for sexuality and the single womanStruggling in silence
07/12/2023
"Struggling in silence”: Talking through God’s design for sexuality and the single womanStruggling in silence
Got an idea for a guest or topic? If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on . Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to . Show Notes: On the heels of several episodes on the topics of pornography and sexuality with CAPT Brent & Nicole Breining, USN (Ret.), Dr. Joy Skarka joins me on the podcast for a similar conversation, except we’ll approach this topic from the perspective of single or dating women. Joy currently serves as the director of discipleship at Authentic Intimacy, a ministry devoted to teaching on God's design for intimacy and sexuality. Joy discusses the meaning behind and value of a phrase that contains two words we likely wouldn’t expect to go together: sexual discipleship. She then shares her own story with pornography addiction and how God turned a source of brokenness, pain, and trauma into a passion through which she helps other women navigate similar struggles. You can connect with Joy by following her on Instagram: . Check out the various resources mentioned throughout this episode: , the ministry Joy works for that offers online groups, resources, and more , Authentic Intimacy’s podcast with the ministry’s president and co-founder Juli Slattery by Dr. Juli Slattery As you listen to this conversation with Joy, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: Quoting Juli Slattery’s book Rethinking Sexuality, Joy says, “Every sexual question is ultimately a spiritual one.” Do you agree? Why or why not? How might a lack of education from the church result in a poor or even harmful understanding of sexuality? Joy talks about how addiction to pornography can start so subtly. What are some ways we can proactively guard against developing such addictions? If we truly understand that the point of being a Christian is to be made more like Christ, how does that understanding affect our contentment in Him alone, regardless of relationship status, circumstances, etc.? Who are the trustworthy mentors in your life with whom you can discuss heavy topics like the ones covered in today’s episode?
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"Pursue at all costs”: Solutions, healing, & recovery from porn addiction
06/21/2023
"Pursue at all costs”: Solutions, healing, & recovery from porn addiction
Show Notes: CAPT Brent & Nicole Breining, USN (Ret.), return to the podcast today to continue our series on pornography and sexuality. If you haven’t listened to the first three episodes in this series, I encourage you to check out those episodes first and then return to hear today’s episode as we discuss the three parts of the healing process, resources for recovery, and more. The Breinings break down the three parts of addiction recovery—breaking denial structures, understanding the addictive cycle, and accessing the wound. We then address why we can feel so discouraged by the time and effort required to heal, the value of understanding the nature of addiction regardless of personal experience, and the importance of addressing these sin struggles for the purpose of restoration rather than rejection. Check out the various resources mentioned throughout this episode: , through which Brent and Nicole help men and women heal from unwanted sexual behaviors and their repercussions , a resource for women , an eight-week study for men, women, and churches , a book that explores the “why” behind self-destructive sexual choices If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF’s . Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to As you listen to this conversation with Brent and Nicole, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: Brent says, “Sexual bondage is not about sex, but medicating the pain in your life.” No matter what addictions you might struggle with, what pain might you trying to be medicate? Who can you trust and talk to about your traumatic experiences and addictive behaviors? How can you be someone others can talk to about their struggles as well? How does our quick-fix culture present challenges in recovering from addiction? In what ways can you help the church adopt a culture of grace when it comes to ministering to broken people in this context? What tools can you utilize to overcome unwanted sexual behaviors and/or keep in mind to recommend to others struggling with such behaviors?
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“Rebuilding your beliefs on a foundation of truth”: Understanding betrayal trauma
06/07/2023
“Rebuilding your beliefs on a foundation of truth”: Understanding betrayal trauma
Show Notes: CAPT Brent & Nicole Breining, USN (Ret.), return to the podcast today to continue our series on pornography and sexuality. If you haven’t listened to the first two episodes in this series, I encourage you to check out those episodes first, get to know Brent and Nicole’s story, then return to hear today’s episode as we explore the concept of betrayal trauma in the context of marriage and romantic relationships. In this episode, we discuss how the symptoms and effects of betrayal trauma present uniquely in different individuals, then Brent and Nicole share their personal experiences with betrayal trauma. The Breinings remind us that this betrayal trauma falls under the category of inevitable struggles Jesus promised we’d face in this life, but they remind us of our hope we have in Him. Check out the various resources mentioned throughout this episode: by Dr. Barbara Steffens by Ken Falke and Josh Goldberg , through which Brent and Nicole help men and women heal from unwanted sexual behaviors and their repercussions If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF’s . Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to . As you listen to this conversation with Brent and Nicole, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: Have you experienced hurt that has prompted you to question God’s goodness? How did you work through that doubt? How might a desire for control over your own life be connected to betrayal trauma? How do traumatic experiences shake your understanding of your core beliefs? What is the value of processing past traumatic experiences to better understand your reactions to present circumstances that might result in trauma? Nicole shares several things she found helpful in her recovery from betrayal trauma: finding community she could trust, practicing self-care, educating herself about sexual addiction and betrayal trauma, not rushing into big decisions when working through betrayal trauma, and creating boundaries for safety. What practical ways within those categories might you be able to work through or help a loved one work through betrayal trauma?
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“On your terms or God’s terms”: Digging deeper into God’s design for the human mind
05/23/2023
“On your terms or God’s terms”: Digging deeper into God’s design for the human mind
Got an idea for a guest or topic? If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF’s . Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to . Show Notes: CAPT Brent & Nicole Breining, USN (Ret.), return to the podcast today to continue our series on pornography and sexuality. If you haven’t listened to the first episode in this series, I encourage you to check out that episode first, get to know Brent and Nicole’s story, then return to hear today’s episode as we dive into the nature of addiction. We discuss statistics and real-world case studies regarding the pornography industry that reveal the magnitude of its harmful effects on society and on individuals alike. Brent and Nicole then unpack terms and concepts such as the cyclone of addiction, the shame cycle, and neurochemistry of the brain that all point to God’s intricate design for His creation. Check out the various resources mentioned throughout this episode: · Restoring the Soul podcast: with Tony Anderson, and with Tony Anderson · · · , through which Brent and Nicole help men and women heal from unwanted sexual behaviors and their repercussions As you listen to this conversation with Brent and Nicole, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: We refer to the statistic that 49% of rescued sex trafficking victims were forced to participate in the production of pornographic material. How ought that knowledge affect decisions to consume that pornographic material? How does the pornography industry harm our perceptions of others as individuals made in the image of God? Why might “rigid, disengaged homes,” per Brent’s description, often become an environment in which many individuals become sex addicts? What habits can you establish to “live in this world of technology… but do it in a healthy manner,” as Brent says? What sin struggles have prompted you to feel shame and hide from God and from fellow believers? Loads of Additional Resources on this topic Problematic Sexual Behavior (Men): Books: Laaser, M. (2004). Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction (3rd ed.). Zondervan. Roberts, T. (2008). Pure Desire: How one man’s triumph can help others break free from sexual temptation. Regal. Roberts, T. (2021). Seven Pillars of Freedom (5th ed.). Pure Desire Ministries International. Stringer, J. (2018). Unwanted: How sexual brokenness reveals our way to healing. NavPress. Podcasts: Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, January 19). What If My Betrayed Spouse Doesn’t Want Healing? (No. 185) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, March 8). How To Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Sexual Betrayal (No. 244) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, November 22). The Impact of Sexual Addiction w/ Dr. Adrian Hickmon (No. 281) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Video Series: Kolb, H. [Editor]. (2020). Sexual Integrity 101 [Video series]. Pure Desire Ministries International. Ward, G., Wiles, J., & Wiles, T. [Executive Producers]. (2013). Conqueror Series: The battle plan for purity [Video series]. KingdomWorks Studios. Problematic Sexual Behavior (Women): Books: Kolb, H. [Editor]. (2019). Unraveled: Managing love, sex, and relationships. Pure Desire Ministries International. Stringer, J. (2018). Unwanted: How sexual brokenness reveals our way to healing. NavPress. Podcasts: Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, October 20). The Female Addict and Unraveled (No. 172) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, January 19). What If My Betrayed Spouse Doesn’t Want Healing? (No. 185) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, March 8). How To Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Sexual Betrayal (No. 244) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, November 22). The Impact of Sexual Addiction w/ Dr. Adrian Hickmon (No. 281) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Video Series: Kolb, H. [Editor]. (2020). Sexual Integrity 101 [Video series]. Pure Desire Ministries International. Betrayal Trauma: Books: Kolb, H., Jameson, A., & Roberts, D. (2022). Betrayal & Beyond: Healing the trauma of sexual betrayal (3rd ed.). Pure Desire Ministries International. Pure Desire Ministries. 7 Keys to Understanding Betrayal Trauma (ebook). Steffens, B. & Means, M. (2021). Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal (2nd ed.). Armin Lear Press Inc. Podcasts: Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, November 3). Boundaries in Recovery (No. 174) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, May 11). What If My Struggling Spouse Doesn’t Want Healing? (No. 201) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, July 13). Hope for Betrayed Men (No. 210) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, July 27). 7 Keys to Understanding Betrayal Trauma (No. 212) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, February 1). Women’s Takeover #1: Healing From Betrayal w/ Dr. Barbara Steffens (No. 239) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Healthy Sexuality: Books: Gregoire, S. (2022). The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex (2nd ed.). Zondervan Books. Gregoire, S. & Gregoire, K. (2022). The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex. Zondervan Books. Roberts, T. & Roberts, D. (2010). Sexy Christians: The Purpose, Power and Passion of Biblical Intimacy. Baker Books. Slattery, J. (2018). Rethinking Sexuality: God’s Design and Why It Matters. Multnomah. Podcasts: Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, July 9). Soul Ties (No. 105) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, July 30). Sexual Discipleship w/ Juli Slattery (No. 108) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, April 26). The Good Guide to Great Sex w/ Dr. Keith and Sheila Wray Gregoire (No. 251) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, November 1). The Four Pillars of Sexual Love w/ Dr. Juli Slattery (No. 278) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Young Adults/College Age: Books (Young Men): Bennett, B., Butcher, B., & Roberts, T. (2016). Living Free. Pure Desire Ministries International. Books (Young Women): Bradley R. & Roberts, D. (2012). Behind the Mask: Authentic living for young women. Pure Desire Ministries International. Podcasts: Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2018, January 30). Living Free w/Ben Bennett (No. 30) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, September 17). Love, Sex, and Dating (No. 115) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, March 31). Getting Healthy Before Marriage w/ Drew Boa (No. 143) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, January 12). Groups for Young Women (No. 184) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Parents: Books: Roberts, B. & Kolb, H. (2018). Digital Natives: Raising an Online Generation. Pure Desire Ministries International. Wright, R. & Wright, T. (2020). How to Talk with Your Kids About Sex. Pure Desire Ministries International. Podcasts: Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, August 13). What Parents Need to Know about Porn (No. 110) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, August 3). The Effects of Pornography w/ Josh McDowell (No. 213) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Pastors/Chaplains/Churches: Books: Laaser, M. (2004). Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction (3rd ed.). Zondervan. Roberts, T. (2008). Pure Desire: How one man’s triumph can help others break free from sexual temptation. Regal. Stumbo, N. (2017). Safe: Creating a Culture of Grace in a Climate of Shame. Pure Desire Ministries International. Podcasts: Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, August 3). The Effects of Pornography w/ Josh McDowell (No. 213) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, October 27). No Shame Churches (No. 173) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Singles: Books: Gregoire, S. (2022). The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex (2nd ed.). Zondervan Books. Gregoire, S. & Gregoire, K. (2022). The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex. Zondervan Books. Slattery, J. (2018). Rethinking Sexuality: God’s Design and Why It Matters. Multnomah. Podcasts: Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, September 17). Love, Sex, and Dating (No. 115) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, March 31). Getting Healthy Before Marriage w/ Drew Boa (No. 143) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, July 26). Unmet Longings & Unhealthy Behaviors w/ Ben Bennett (No. 264) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Miscellaneous: Books on Trauma: Falk, K. & Goldberg, J. (2018). Struggle Well: Thriving in the Aftermath of Trauma. Lioncrest. Van Der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score. Penguin Books. Websites: Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists: Authentic Intimacy: Pure Desire Ministries International: .
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“There is hope”: Recovering from pornography addiction
05/09/2023
“There is hope”: Recovering from pornography addiction
Got an idea for a guest or topic? If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF’s . Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to . Show Notes: In January 2023, Pensacola OCF hosted a one-day workshop to discuss sexual brokenness and unwanted sexual behaviors like pornography addiction and to introduce solutions for healing and wholeness. CAPT Brent & Nicole Breining, USN (Ret.), led sessions throughout that one-day workshop, and they join me today on the podcast as we begin a series of episodes focusing on similar topics. Brent and Nicole share their story and the impact that porn had on their marriage in this episode, and their remaining three Crosspoint episodes will cover topics such as the nature of addiction, the shame cycle, and the neurochemistry of the brain. Having reached a breaking point in their marriage in 2012 and recovered since then by God’s grace, Brent and Nicole talk about why that addiction placed such a strain on their marriage, how God worked through accountability partners in their healing process, and more. Above all, their desire is for listeners to understand there is hope and that God can restore anyone struggling with problematic sexual behaviors. Brent retired from the Navy in 2017 after a distinguished 27-year career, and he currently serves as a Foursquare Institutional Chaplain with , through which he helps men walk in sexual purity and break free from unwanted sexual behaviors. Nicole received a Bachelor of Science in biochemistry from the University of Illinois and a Doctor of Pharmacy from the University of Illinois at Chicago, going on to work as a hospital pharmacist for 25 years. Nicole also has been working with Pure Desire Ministries, leading their betrayal and beyond groups for spouses for about three years. Both Brent and Nicole are accredited pastoral professionals. As you listen to this conversation with Brent and Nicole, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: How can the church establish a culture of grace, especially as applies to this topic of addiction? Brent refers to Ephesians 5:25, which says “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” How does this verse shape your view of emotional intimacy in marriage? Brent talks about the iPhone’s contribution to an increased accessibility to pornography in recent years. What steps can you take to ensure your own devices aren’t contributing to addictive behaviors? How does our freedom in Christ set us free from the shame of our secrets? Nicole talks about realizing her husband’s struggles with pornography prompted her to react in sin as well. If you’ve been hurt by someone else’s sin, what’s the value of not using their sin as license to sin in response? If you’re struggling with addictive behaviors, sexual or otherwise, what positive habits can you establish to replace those behaviors? Why is assessing your heart posture in all things so critical? Loads of Resources on this topic Problematic Sexual Behavior (Men): Books: Laaser, M. (2004). Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction (3rd ed.). Zondervan. Roberts, T. (2008). Pure Desire: How one man’s triumph can help others break free from sexual temptation. Regal. Roberts, T. (2021). Seven Pillars of Freedom (5th ed.). Pure Desire Ministries International. Stringer, J. (2018). Unwanted: How sexual brokenness reveals our way to healing. NavPress. Podcasts: Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, January 19). What If My Betrayed Spouse Doesn’t Want Healing? (No. 185) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, March 8). How To Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Sexual Betrayal (No. 244) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, November 22). The Impact of Sexual Addiction w/ Dr. Adrian Hickmon (No. 281) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Video Series: Kolb, H. [Editor]. (2020). Sexual Integrity 101 [Video series]. Pure Desire Ministries International. Ward, G., Wiles, J., & Wiles, T. [Executive Producers]. (2013). Conqueror Series: The battle plan for purity [Video series]. KingdomWorks Studios. Problematic Sexual Behavior (Women): Books: Kolb, H. [Editor]. (2019). Unraveled: Managing love, sex, and relationships. Pure Desire Ministries International. Stringer, J. (2018). Unwanted: How sexual brokenness reveals our way to healing. NavPress. Podcasts: Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, October 20). The Female Addict and Unraveled (No. 172) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, January 19). What If My Betrayed Spouse Doesn’t Want Healing? (No. 185) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, March 8). How To Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Sexual Betrayal (No. 244) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, November 22). The Impact of Sexual Addiction w/ Dr. Adrian Hickmon (No. 281) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Video Series: Kolb, H. [Editor]. (2020). Sexual Integrity 101 [Video series]. Pure Desire Ministries International. Betrayal Trauma: Books: Kolb, H., Jameson, A., & Roberts, D. (2022). Betrayal & Beyond: Healing the trauma of sexual betrayal (3rd ed.). Pure Desire Ministries International. Pure Desire Ministries. 7 Keys to Understanding Betrayal Trauma (ebook). Steffens, B. & Means, M. (2021). Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal (2nd ed.). Armin Lear Press Inc. Podcasts: Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, November 3). Boundaries in Recovery (No. 174) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, May 11). What If My Struggling Spouse Doesn’t Want Healing? (No. 201) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, July 13). Hope for Betrayed Men (No. 210) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, July 27). 7 Keys to Understanding Betrayal Trauma (No. 212) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, February 1). Women’s Takeover #1: Healing From Betrayal w/ Dr. Barbara Steffens (No. 239) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Healthy Sexuality: Books: Gregoire, S. (2022). The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex (2nd ed.). Zondervan Books. Gregoire, S. & Gregoire, K. (2022). The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex. Zondervan Books. Roberts, T. & Roberts, D. (2010). Sexy Christians: The Purpose, Power and Passion of Biblical Intimacy. Baker Books. Slattery, J. (2018). Rethinking Sexuality: God’s Design and Why It Matters. Multnomah. Podcasts: Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, July 9). Soul Ties (No. 105) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, July 30). Sexual Discipleship w/ Juli Slattery (No. 108) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, April 26). The Good Guide to Great Sex w/ Dr. Keith and Sheila Wray Gregoire (No. 251) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, November 1). The Four Pillars of Sexual Love w/ Dr. Juli Slattery (No. 278) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Young Adults/College Age: Books (Young Men): Bennett, B., Butcher, B., & Roberts, T. (2016). Living Free. Pure Desire Ministries International. Books (Young Women): Bradley R. & Roberts, D. (2012). Behind the Mask: Authentic living for young women. Pure Desire Ministries International. Podcasts: Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2018, January 30). Living Free w/Ben Bennett (No. 30) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, September 17). Love, Sex, and Dating (No. 115) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, March 31). Getting Healthy Before Marriage w/ Drew Boa (No. 143) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, January 12). Groups for Young Women (No. 184) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Parents: Books: Roberts, B. & Kolb, H. (2018). Digital Natives: Raising an Online Generation. Pure Desire Ministries International. Wright, R. & Wright, T. (2020). How to Talk with Your Kids About Sex. Pure Desire Ministries International. Podcasts: Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, August 13). What Parents Need to Know about Porn (No. 110) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, August 3). The Effects of Pornography w/ Josh McDowell (No. 213) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Pastors/Chaplains/Churches: Books: Laaser, M. (2004). Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction (3rd ed.). Zondervan. Roberts, T. (2008). Pure Desire: How one man’s triumph can help others break free from sexual temptation. Regal. Stumbo, N. (2017). Safe: Creating a Culture of Grace in a Climate of Shame. Pure Desire Ministries International. Podcasts: Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2021, August 3). The Effects of Pornography w/ Josh McDowell (No. 213) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, October 27). No Shame Churches (No. 173) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Singles: Books: Gregoire, S. (2022). The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex (2nd ed.). Zondervan Books. Gregoire, S. & Gregoire, K. (2022). The Good Guy’s Guide to Great Sex. Zondervan Books. Slattery, J. (2018). Rethinking Sexuality: God’s Design and Why It Matters. Multnomah. Podcasts: Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2019, September 17). Love, Sex, and Dating (No. 115) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2020, March 31). Getting Healthy Before Marriage w/ Drew Boa (No. 143) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Stumbo, N. & Winsor, T. (Hosts). (2022, July 26). Unmet Longings & Unhealthy Behaviors w/ Ben Bennett (No. 264) [Audio podcast episode]. In Pure Desire Podcast. Miscellaneous: Books on Trauma: Falk, K. & Goldberg, J. (2018). Struggle Well: Thriving in the Aftermath of Trauma. Lioncrest. Van Der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score. Penguin Books. Websites: Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists: Authentic Intimacy: Pure Desire Ministries International: .
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Season 4 Introduction
04/28/2023
Season 4 Introduction
Hi friends! We’re putting the finishing touches on the next season of the podcast, which should be ready to go by the week of May 8. For at least the first 6 episodes, we’re going to be discussing the topic of pornography, sexual addictions, and problematic sexual behaviors. We’ll spend time discussing this topic from the perspective of men, women, married couples, families, and singles (in particular, single women). Yes—it’s a really heavy dose of a really heavy topic. But this is an issue that affects everyone, both inside and outside the church, regardless of relationship status or gender. These sorts of problematic behaviors have also ended up destroying the careers of some very successful military leaders. Also, this might be an issue affecting you. Right now. Here are a few questions to challenge you and make you think a little deeper on this topic between now and when we start the next season in a couple of weeks: · Is pornography addiction just a guy’s problem? · What should the church’s role be when discussing sexuality and these sorts of topics? · If you’re single and have a porn or sexual addiction, OR if you are dating someone and find out they are struggling with this issue, what should you do? Break up? Continue the relationship? · If you’re a parent, and you find out your child or teen is looking at porn, what should you do? As always, if you have ideas for guests, topics, or stories you think we should consider on a future episode of the show, you can send an email to or fill out our short podcast guest form located online at . Thanks for listening, and we’ll be back in a couple of weeks.
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(S3:E12) Part 3: When your job and your faith are at odds / Lead to serve, serve to lead
12/16/2022
(S3:E12) Part 3: When your job and your faith are at odds / Lead to serve, serve to lead
Show Notes: For the finale of our three-part series on leadership, Brig Gen Robert “Gwyn” Armfield, USAF (Ret.), former OCF executive director Lt Gen Bruce Fister, USAF (Ret.), and current OCF executive director Col Scott Fisher, USAF (Ret.) discuss how to navigate matters of conscience–circumstances where your job and your faith seem to be at odds. Gwyn, Bruce, and Scott begin this conversation by referencing scripture to shape the way we approach such circumstances, serving as a “biblical blueprint” of sorts. Speaking from personal experiences and conversations with friends of all ages, they remind us not be surprised by the tensions we see around us today, but rather to look back and learn from past examples regarding matters of conscience. Above all and in all things, these leaders exhort us to keep Christ at the center of the challenging choices that are sure to come. In today’s episode, Scott mentions OCF’s , which we invite you to use as a means to be still before God and ask Him for wisdom and direction before future actions are planned out. For an additional resource on the topics we covered throughout this three-part series, consider ordering Gwyn and Bruce’s recently released book, . If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF’s . Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to . As you listen to this conversation with Gwyn, Bruce, and Scott, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: When was a time you found your job to be at odds with your faith, and how did you handle it? Scott quotes John Stonestreet: “Too many believers right now are interested in making a point rather than making an influence.” How might that quote shape how you navigate tensions between your job and your faith? Bruce then refers to Matthew 22:37-38. What practical ways can you weave Jesus’ commands into your service in uniform? What other Bible passages come to mind when Gwyn, Bruce, and Scott discuss verses that can shape our framework for navigating tensions like the ones described? What can we learn from Daniel’s example of serving in environments where we might be asked to do things that don’t align with our faith?
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(S3:E11) Part 2: How to accept failure as a leader / Lead to serve, serve to lead
11/29/2022
(S3:E11) Part 2: How to accept failure as a leader / Lead to serve, serve to lead
Show Notes: Today’s episode is the second in a 3-part series on leadership, featuring guests Brig Gen Robert “Gwyn” Armfield, USAF (Ret.), former OCF executive director Lt Gen Bruce Fister, USAF (Ret.), and current OCF executive director Col Scott Fisher, USAF (Ret.). The topic that’ll be discussed is failure and how to deal with it as a leader in the high-stakes military profession. As my guest Bruce Fister points out, “We’re all going to fail at one point … But you have to deal with it because otherwise no one is going to learn from it.” Some of the aspects of failure that Bruce, Gwynn, and Scott touch upon include how leaders can create a culture of trust by “being real” about their failures, the importance of setting up those you lead for success—and the space to fail, how smart leaders understand their strengths and weaknesses and rely on others for help, and what can happen when you act too quickly in decision-making without taking it to prayer. If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF’s . Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to . Here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: What keeps us from facing our failures—let alone dealing with and learning from them? How can honesty about failures as a leader create a culture of trust with those you lead? Do you believe that you could never rise up to the level of your leaders because they have never failed, and you have? Examine the lives of King David, the Apostle Peter, and others in the Bible who have failed, but were used by God as leaders. Still true of you? Why? The panelists underscore that young leaders learn how to make good decisions because someone allowed them to make bad decisions and learn from them. Do you do that as a leader? What steps could you take to create space for others to fail and learn from it? The Book of James instructs us to be “quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to wrath” (1:19). Think of a time when those attributes were absent either from another leader or in your own leadership. How would you handle that situation now? How does communicating with God in prayer and developing a biblical eternal perspective and spiritual resilience make it possible to learn from and move on in the military profession when it comes to injury and death? “Listen to God, seek what He would have us do, and obey whatever that is.” Why are those so often regarded as last resort when it comes to decisions in life, and especially so as Christian leaders?
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(S3:E10) Part 1: Being a leader of character / Lead to serve, serve to lead
11/11/2022
(S3:E10) Part 1: Being a leader of character / Lead to serve, serve to lead
Show Notes: This episode begins a three-part series featuring Brig Gen Robert “Gwyn” Armfield, USAF (Ret.), former OCF executive director Lt Gen Bruce Fister, USAF (Ret.), and current OCF executive director Col Scott Fisher, USAF (Ret.). Speaking from nearly 90 years of combined service in the Air Force, these three leaders share their personal stories as followers of Christ and as military officers. On this first installment, Gwyn, Bruce, and Scott discuss how leaders can approach employing God’s Word effectively, integrating the calling to serve in uniform and the calling to serve the Lord, and leading in times of crisis. The cornerstone of being an effective leader who can do these three things well, they assert, is being a leader of character. Gwyn and Bruce’s recently released book, , inspired today’s roundtable conversation and the two to come. Gwyn describes his and Bruce’s book as a “discipling guide on how to lead things and get things done in a way that honors Christ with a tactical-level implementation,” written for people of all ages and walks of life. If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF’s . Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to . As you listen to this conversation with Gwyn, Bruce, and Scott, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: Scott described character as the “cornerstone of an effective leader.” What examples, biblical or personal, prove that concept? For biblical principles of effective leadership, Gwyn references Philippians 2:3-4, and Bruce references Proverbs 12. Read those passages for yourself and consider what you can apply to your own leadership roles. Throughout your military career, you’ll likely find yourself in conversations about leadership where you can incorporate biblical principles. What verses can you incorporate into those conversations? As a uniformed service member, how can you share your faith in a wise and understanding way? Bruce says people won’t remember a crisis, but they’ll remember how a leader performed during a crisis. What crisis response comes to mind when you hear Bruce’s point, and what can you learn from the leader’s or leaders’ response to said crisis.
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(S3:E9) “Pursue God… no matter where you are”: Finding fellowship beneath the sea
10/26/2022
(S3:E9) “Pursue God… no matter where you are”: Finding fellowship beneath the sea
Show Notes: Today’s episode takes us back to the topic of small groups. If you've listened to some of the more recent episodes of this podcast, you might be asking, “Haven't you guys said enough about small groups already?” In this episode, however, we're going to hit that topic from a slightly different angle as LT Will Parker, USN, and LT Sam Alexander, USN, sit down to talk about their experiences while serving aboard submarines. They discuss the challenges of such a unique environment, the challenges of beginning and maintaining a small group Bible study aboard a submarine, and practical applications for similarly isolated environments. They also get into the importance of seeking out fellowship with others wherever you can, whether that’s through an , a local church body, or with a few peers at work. If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF’s . Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to . As you listen to this conversation with Will and Sam, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: Will and Sam talk about the unique schedules, or lack thereof, of service aboard a submarine and the challenge such irregularity presents in many aspects of life. How do you make time for investing in relationships with God and with others when you can’t control your own schedule? Recall a time when you had an atypical fellowship group. What made those relationships most impactful despite your unique life circumstances? Sam mentions a “grab bag” of pre-structured Bible study resources that helped him lead a small group when he didn’t have much time to prepare between gatherings. What resources could you place in your own “grab bag” for future use? How can you use technology as a tool for pouring into others and receiving encouragement even as you’re away from in-person fellowship? What practical, realistic goal can you set in your own walk with the Lord? Don’t set a goal for the sake of setting a goal and checking something off your to-do list, but let this goal serve as a reminder to factor its objective into your everyday life.
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(S3:E8) “March or die”: Turning to Christ & community in times of trauma
10/07/2022
(S3:E8) “March or die”: Turning to Christ & community in times of trauma
Show Notes: Today we're going to talk about a topic that pops up from time to time on the podcast, and that topic is trauma. In this episode, we're going to consider this overarching question: What's a biblical approach to dealing with or healing from trauma? Here to help me answer that question is Jeremy Stalnecker, who served as an infantry officer in the United States Marine Corps. He currently serves as the executive director of the Mighty Oaks Foundation, a nonprofit organization dedicated to helping America's military warriors and their families suffering from the unseen wounds of combat such as post-traumatic stress. Raised in southern California as a pastor’s kid, Jeremy watched his parents serve in the church and was convinced the Lord would ever call him to serve in ministry. Nonetheless, Jeremy’s parents taught him the importance of service, prompting him to pursue a future as a Marine. Commissioning in 1999 and serving in Kuwait and Iraq, Jeremy returned to the States, left the Marine Corps, and, despite his earlier assertions he’d never go into ministry, joined a church staff shortly thereafter. His service as a Marine and the years to follow have given Jeremy opportunities to deal with and heal from his own trauma, resulting in a passion for helping others, particularly within the military community, do the same. In our conversation, he unpacks a functional definition of “trauma,” its relationship with identity, the impact of spiritual resilience, and next steps to take when you or a loved one are dealing with trauma. Check out the various resources mentioned throughout this episode: (book) (podcast) by Lord Moran If you would like to share your own story, complete the form on OCF’s . Alternatively, if you have an idea for a guest or topic I should consider for a future episode of the show, send an email to . As you listen to this conversation with Jeremy, here are a few questions to ponder in your personal time, with a small group, or with a mentor: Jeremy talks about feeling lost and alone when he quickly left the Marine Corps and joined a church staff. Have you ever had a similar experience when the course of your life changed quickly and unexpectedly? How did you feel during that season? When have you had to choose to take a faith-filled step forward? How would you describe the role of identity in trauma or healing from trauma? If you haven’t yet, what spiritual disciplines can you cultivate to develop spiritual resilience? Jeremy reminds us that “isolation kills.” Who can you ask for help when dealing with and healing from trauma? How can you help others when they’re experiencing trauma? Thinking of Jeremy’s earlier statement that trauma pervades the Bible, what scripture comes to mind as you listen to this conversation?
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