Weak Boundaries Kill Relationships | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
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Healthy boundaries are essential - but most men don’t know what they actually look like. In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down eight practical boundaries every man must establish in his personal, professional, and romantic relationships to build respect, alignment, and long-term success. These boundaries aren’t about control or ultimatums - they’re about clarity, self-respect, and creating relationships that truly work. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Why Boundaries Matter 01:10 - Why Men Struggle with Boundaries 02:38 - Grace, Communication, and Relationships 03:05 -...
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Establishing Boundaries, Physical Touch Between Men, and Overcoming Jealousy | ASK ME ANYTHING
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In this Ask Me Anything episode, Ryan and Kipp tackle some of the most misunderstood challenges men face today. They break down how to establish clear and healthy boundaries - especially the role of reciprocity in relationships - and why unspoken expectations often lead to resentment. The conversation also explores the importance of physical touch between men and how appropriate, grounded connections build trust and brotherhood. Finally, they address jealousy, comparison, and social media, offering practical strategies for cultivating gratitude while still pursuing growth. This episode is a...
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JOSHUA BECKER | Enough is Enough: How Owning Less Gives You More
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Most men don’t realize how much of their anxiety, distraction, and frustration is tied to what they own—and what owns them. We live in a culture that constantly tells us to want more, buy more, and accumulate more, yet peace, clarity, and contentment feel further away than ever. Today’s conversation is about pushing back against that noise and asking a harder, more honest question: When is enough, enough? My guest is , author of . Joshua challenges the idea that minimalism is lifeless or empty and reframes it as an intentional act of stewardship, generosity, and purpose. We talk about...
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Suffer Like a Man | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
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Pain is part of life. Breakups, divorce, job loss, grief, frustration - every man faces suffering at some point. The difference between men who grow stronger and men who grow bitter isn’t whether they suffer, but how they carry it. In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler explains what it really means to “suffer like a man.” Not suppressing emotions. Not performing toughness. But learning how to metabolize pain into strength, discipline, clarity, and usefulness. Ryan shares five powerful principles that will help you stop wasting your suffering and start using it as fuel for...
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Optimizing Testosterone, When Masculinity Died, and Building Rites of Passages | ASK ME ANYTHING
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In this Ask Me Anything episode, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle some of the most pressing questions facing modern men. From the pros and cons of testosterone replacement therapy to rites of passage for men who were never initiated, the conversation dives deep into masculinity, leadership, and responsibility. They explore how men can give advice with confidence, navigate today’s confusing cultural signals around manhood, and prepare their sons for a challenging financial future. This episode is a powerful reminder that being a man is not a title - it’s a daily commitment to action....
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MARK WALSH | Why Modern Men Are Disconnected
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Today’s conversation is a homecoming—back to the body, back to character, and back to what it means to be a man. My guest, , challenges the modern habit of living entirely in our heads—cut off from sensation, boundaries, and responsibility. We talk embodiment not as fitness or aesthetics, but using physical training to develop character, emotional regulation, and presence. From Stoicism and shadow work to doing hard things on purpose, this episode is about reclaiming awareness, expanding range, and building the discipline required to choose better behavior. We also confront the cult of...
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The Case Against Vulnerability | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
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In today’s episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler challenges one of modern self-help culture’s most sacred ideas: vulnerability. While honesty, humility, and emotional awareness are essential to growth, Ryan makes the case that vulnerability - when practiced without discernment, responsibility, or purpose - often becomes performative, destabilizing, and counterproductive, especially for men in leadership roles. This episode is not an argument against emotion. It’s an argument for self-mastery, containment, and earned honesty. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Intro 00:37 - Why Vulnerability...
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How Not to Think Like a Loser | SCOTT ADAMS
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This episode is being re-released in remembrance of Scott Adams, who has passed away on the 13th of January, 2026. This interview remains a meaningful reflection of his ideas, experiences, and voice, and it deserved to be shared again. My guest today, Scott Adams, the creator of Dilbert, joins me to talk about exactly why that is and the type of thinking he refers to as ” It’s also the title of his new book subtitled, Today, we talk about the fact that being right and being wrong feel the same, how to determine what battles to fight online, how shaming and mockery can be used positively,...
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Garbage In, Garbage Out, Relationship Triggers, and False Idolization | ASK ME ANYTHING
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In this weekly Ask Me Anything episode, Ryan and Kipp open with reflections on consistency, discipline, and what long-term success actually requires. They then tackle listener questions on deeply held beliefs, fatherhood, masculinity, and how perspectives change with age and experience. The conversation moves into practical advice on building strong male circles, writing and publishing a book, and preparing for marriage with clarity and intention. As always, the episode blends personal insight, hard-earned lessons, and actionable guidance for men committed to growth. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 -...
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Laurin Ponce | Why Opposite Sexes Struggle to Connect
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Some of the most misunderstood and emotionally charged topics for men are: attraction, compatibility, and what actually creates lasting connection with a woman. My guest, Laurin Ponce, helps us break down the difference between compatibility, connection, and chemistry - and why confusing those three is where most relationships go off the rails. We talk about what women truly find attractive in a grounded man, what it really means when a woman asks for space, why it feels like there are more rules for men, and how respect is built long before it’s ever given. From attachment styles and...
info_outlineI know you’ve felt like, in the past, you’ve been hesitant to share your true feelings and beliefs. Maybe you didn’t want to offend that woman you were pursuing. Or, maybe you didn’t want to upset your boss and run the risk of losing your job. Or, maybe you were afraid of what society or social media would say if you shared your true thoughts.
My guest today, Father Stephen Gadberry, is familiar with all of that in a way that many of us relate with. As a Catholic priest, US Air Force Veteran, and American Ninja Warrior competitor, he knows how compelling public criticism can become. Today, Father Gadberry and I talk about discipline, what “turning the other cheek,” really means, how to handle false accusations, what true accountability actually means, the difference between your “vocation,” and “occupation,” and how God will speak to all of us.
SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 Introduction
00:22 Masculinity and the Church
01:20 Growing Up Rural and Military
02:20 Has the Church Become Soft?
04:00 Culture, Covid and Truth
05:40 Truth vs Feeling Good
06:50 What Does “Love at All Costs” Mean?
08:20 Learning to Speak Truth Boldly
10:30 Men and Zero-F Attitudes
11:30 Tempering Instincts and Temptations
13:40 Crash and Burn Lessons
15:40 Discipline and “Doing Hard Things”
17:15 Small Things Shape Big Character
18:45 Christian Persecution Today
21:20 Should Christians Fight Back?
23:40 Violence, Duty, and Discernment
25:20 Bold, Relatable Preaching
27:20 Conviction vs Condemnation
30:00 Accountability Done Right
31:40 Guiding Boys and Raising Men
34:10 Real Discipline and Real Consequences
38:50 Guilt, Shame, and Responsibility
41:15 Preaching While Imperfect
45:10 His Calling and Vocation
53:15 Hearing God’s Voice
56:30 Silence and Spiritual Clarity
57:50 Real Masculinity and Faith
59:00 Where to Follow Father Stephen