694 | You Can't Get To Confidence Without Going Through Courage
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In this episode, we talk about the relationship between confidence and courage. You want the confidence without the courage and it just doesn’t work that way. Are you also stuck in a belief that you don’t want to take those steps because courage doesn't feel good? In this episode, we discuss: 1) Confidence is the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; a sense of firm trust. It is having full trust; belief in the someone or trustworthiness. We have every confidence in their ability to succeed. belief in oneself and one's powers or...
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693 | Don't Focus On The Tree
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In this episode, we talk about how what we focus on, we will find. I am sharing a metaphor I heard on a podcast that landed and I knew that I wanted to share it with you. In this episode, we discuss: 1) Whatever we focus on we will find. If we are riding a bike in the woods and we are 2) You are priming your brain and body to look like your future has already happened Where you place your attention is where you place your energy you become aware that you are investing your energy in the past and not the present or future. Become Outspoken...
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692 | Love Yourself First To Then Love Others with John Lawyer
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In this episode, we speak with Spiritual Guide and Coach, John Lawyer. From desert combat zones (12 years in Kuwait, Iraq, and Afghanistan) to a battle within, John transformed from soldier to spiritual seeker. He acts as one of several guides for Kishar, a non-profit online spiritual community for people to share their journey and explore their own unique spiritual path. John is an Omnist and believes in the validity of great human thought from around the world and across time. He offers individual spiritual guidance and coaching services as part of the Kishar Spiritual Community. In this...
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691 | Your Superpowers Are So Close
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In this episode, we talk about superpowers, limiting beliefs and how they are interconnected. I am inviting you into a new way of thinking, it is not the right way, the only way, is my perspective and I want to share it with you. To determine your superpowers, think about what people come to you for, and check out your past performance reviews. Read the recommendations and testimonials people write for you. What themes emerge? These themes point to your strengths. In this episode, we discuss: 1) Take note of what people say about you. Notice strengths that carry through to...
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690 | Board Breaking to Release Your Limiting Beliefs
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In this episode, we talk about the board-breaking exercise to release limiting beliefs and take a moment to celebrate how far you’ve come. Board breaking is a metaphor, an empowering exercise to break through your perceived limitations in your life. I have done this exercise a few times and it looks easy, but it is not. I wanted to share an experience of breaking a board I had in my NLP Master Practitioner over 18 months ago and how it shifted me to release those limiting beliefs. This is a reminder to look back at how far you’ve come. In this episode, we...
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689 | Learning to Navigate When Life Is Rough with Liz Long
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In this episode, we are speaking with Author, Liz Long. In 1968, Liz Long's life took a tragic turn when a close family member, Lynda White, went missing, pushing six-year-old Liz into a shitstorm of epic proportions. Five agonizing years later, Lynda's body was discovered. Her case stands as one of Canada's longest unsolved crimes. At fifty-eight, Liz confronted her adult depression by checking into an inpatient treatment center for healing. With unwavering grit and a touch of humor, Liz untangled the complexities of her past, realizing that childhood coping mechanisms were never meant to be...
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688 | Do You Wire Your Brain For Judgement?
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In this episode, we talk about the awareness of if you are wiring your brain for judgment, criticism or comparison as it relates to social media use. I recently heard a quote on the Growth Day App with Brendon Bouchard, the link to try it out is below. In this episode, we discuss: 1) Judgments and decisions saturate people's lives. Most people scroll past 1000 posts a day which means you have wired your brain for judgment comparison and contempt 1000 times over on a minimum per day. This is with 1-2 hours of scrolling per day. 2) How can you become more intentional with your time...
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687 | Speak Your Vision to Life
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In this episode, we talk about how important it is to speak your vision to life, focusing on what do you see, what do you hear, what do you feel, and then detaching from how it happens and comes to life. The how is not up to you. I share a personal example of how I blew past my Q1 goals for 2024, even after I almost felt like quitting. In this episode, we discuss: 1) Speak life into where you are going as opposed to where you have been. Feed your energy into your future and what you are creating, and set your goals with who you will be or who you are becoming in the end not...
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686 | Pull Up a Chair and Building Alliances with Meghan Weir
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In this episode, we are speaking with Meghan Weir. Meghan is a business and nervous system strategist and a seasoned rapid resolution and hypnotherapist dedicated to alleviating pressure, stress, and anxiety for heart-wired entrepreneurs and CEOs. With a stellar client retention and referral rate, she fosters deep trust and delivers impactful results. She guides clients to heal through emotional turmoil, navigate through the dark side strategize through the light side of business, and cultivate an internal environment that radiates vitality and attracts prosperity. She teaches her clients how...
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685 | Belief Will Take You Further Than Talent
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In this episode, we talk about how belief will take you further than talent. Even more, than this, it requires that you have belief to get started. It is our job to raise our beliefs to match our vision, not just the belief but also the identity of the person who can bring that vision to life. I heard this Henry Ford example, he could have said I can’t build cars because if they break down, we have no mechanic shops to fix them, no idea where we will make the tires or the parts to fix them, he could have said: “there’s no point in starting.” There has to come a moment where...
info_outlineIn this episode, I want to share some thoughts on comparison and what it is doing to us in our lives and in our business. In this time of building our businesses online, especially this year when so many people are having to continue to pivot, shift, change or completely reinvent themselves in an unknown territory, it is too easy to stop and compare your “progress” to someone else’s “perceived progress”. Comparison is the biggest block in your progress, and you are the one who keeps putting that roadblock up. So much of my understanding of comparison comes from my learnings from Brene Brown, and her book “Atlas of the Heart” is incredible.
In this episode we discuss:
1) Comparison is a creativity killer. “Comparison is the crush of conformity from one side and competition from the other - it is trying to simultaneously fit in and stand out.” It is saying, be like everyone else, but only better. ~ Brene Brown. There is upwards and downwards comparison and both are equally blocking in our movement and success. Social comparisons (up or down), make us feel less than, not worthy or better than or superior. All of the energy leads to the negative emotions of lack and lack of worthiness, fear, shame, anger, and sadness. No change is created in this energy space.
2) Comparison is the thief of joy ~Theodore Roosevelt . As soon as we fall into comparison to others, we are taking our eyes off of our own journey. We are losing sight of our own gifts, our own journey and what we are capable of creating. We also are comparing our chapter X to someone else’s unknown chapter. When we think we know someone else’s story, I promise that we don’t. Think of all of the things on your own journey that you don’t share with the world.
3) The energy of comparison actually messes with our own perspective. It takes it all out of context. It starts with awareness and recognizing the emotions that drive us into that space in the first place. Celebrating another person’s success does not take away from your own, it actually is celebrating that another person is showing you what is possible. If someone is triggering you in a toxic way that affects your energy, then mute or unfollow.
4) Find the people who trigger you showing what is possible. The ones who expand you, and learn from them. Compare yourself to past versions of yourself and find ways to honour, love and support your younger version who fought like hell to get you here.
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Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of normal experimentation.
Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life. She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others