765 | Are You Willing to Climb the Cringe Ladder
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In this episode, I am sharing the concept of the "cringe ladder," a metaphor I recently encountered that perfectly describes the journey we all go through when we start sharing our authentic selves with the world. I reflect on my own experiences, particularly from around 2013 and 2014, when I felt isolated and struggled to connect with others amidst the curated perfection of social media. My journey began with raw and unfiltered Facebook Lives after hot yoga, where I embraced the messiness of being honest and authentic. This episode emphasizes the importance of starting, even when you feel...
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764 | A Closed Heart Will Not Receive
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In this episode, I dive into a topic that has been weighing heavily on my heart: the importance of keeping our hearts open to receive. I share my journey of learning how a closed heart, often shielded by emotional armour, can prevent us from fully experiencing life and connecting with others. To protect ourselves from past hurts, judgments, and fears, we inadvertently block not only negative but also positive emotions. This self-imposed limitation restricts our ability to express our true selves and to be seen by others. I emphasize that when we wear this armour, we are not just protecting...
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763 | From Trauma to Triumph: A Story of Resilience and Growth with Kristina Gauthier
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In this episode, we speak with Spiritual Life Coach Kristina Gauthier. Kristina’s early years were far from picture-perfect; she was born into a family with a colossal amount of trauma on both her mother's and father’s sides. Throughout Kristina’s life, her late mother struggled with her drug addiction, and her dad is a well-known Hell Angel. After years of dating abusive men, struggling with her own drug addiction, and feeling profoundly insecure and unworthy of love or life, she chose to invest in herself and heal. In 2017, Kristina's late sister died of a fentanyl overdose, and...
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762 | Who Are You Going to Be Today?
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In today's episode, we dive deep into the question, "Who will you be today?" This episode was inspired by a journal prompt that made me pause and reflect on how we often focus on who we want to be when everything is going smoothly, but what about when things aren't going great? Who do you want to be when things are not going smoothly, when they are not in flow or alignment, and when it feels like it's challenge after challenge? I've learned to navigate those moments by asking myself who I want to be in those difficult times. It's about shifting our perspective from blaming others or...
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761 | What If It Is All Possible
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In this podcast episode, I dive into the transformative power of questioning our thoughts and beliefs. I emphasize that the quality of our lives is primarily determined by the questions we ask ourselves. Instead of succumbing to negative statements like "Why is this happening to me?" or "This is not fair," I encourage listeners to shift their mindset by asking empowering questions, such as "What if it's all possible?" I share a personal story about my recent trip to Finland, where my husband competed in the World Olympic Lifting Championships and earned a silver medal. This experience was...
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760 | The Importance of Empathy in Leadership with Melissa Robinson
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Welcome to today's episode, where I enjoyed speaking with Dr. Melissa Robinson-Weinmiller, an EQ via Empathy Trainer. In this enlightening conversation, Dr. Melissa shared her journey from classical musician to leadership coach, focusing on emotional intelligence through the lens of empathy. Dr. Melissa explained the concepts of empathy and emotional intelligence, highlighting the importance of understanding and controlling one's emotions while also tuning into the feelings of others. She emphasized that empathy is not about taking responsibility for others' emotions but connecting on a human...
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759 | You Are Never Too Late To Start
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In this episode, I delve into the transformative power of the stories we tell ourselves, particularly the narrative that we are "too late" to start something new. Drawing from my journey, I share how I spent 27 years as a registered kinesiologist, feeling a strong pull towards a different path but constantly battling the belief that I was too late to change, especially as I entered my 50s. I reflect on the moment I discovered human design and how it shifted my perspective, allowing me to realize that my experiences and lessons were not a hindrance but a foundation for my new endeavours. I...
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758 | Doing Nothing is Growing Your Doubt
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In this episode, we discuss doubt, self-doubt, and how to change the story we tell ourselves about doubt. Throughout the episode, I emphasized the importance of taking action, nurturing a growth mindset to combat self-doubt, focusing on daily steps, celebrating progress, and investing in personal development to grow your growth mindset. Drawing from my experience with starting the podcast, I shared how doubt initially plagued me, but I overcame it through consistent action and belief in my vision. You can build a positive relationship with doubt and view it as a protective friend...
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757 | Climbing the Stairs to Sobriety and Purpose with Cheryl Pasieka
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In this episode, I had the pleasure of interviewing Cheryl, a retired individual who embarked on a transformative journey of self-discovery and sobriety at the age of 66. Cheryl's inspiring journey of overcoming addiction and finding joy in her life. Cheryl shared her story of hitting rock bottom, realizing the need for change, and taking the courageous step to seek treatment for her alcoholism. Through her commitment to sobriety, Cheryl discovered the power of Kundalini yoga, journaling, and self-reflection in her healing journey. Cheryl's journey culminated in the publication of her book,...
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756 | How Is Shame Blocking You?
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Welcome back to the show! In this episode, we delved deep into the topic of shame and its profound impact on our growth in life and business. We explored how shame, often overlooked and suppressed, can manifest as a gremlin within us, affecting our self-perception and identity. Shame, distinguished from guilt, is centred on the belief that "I am bad" rather than "I did something bad." This distinction is crucial as attaching "I am" to negative beliefs can lead to a deep-rooted sense of unworthiness and flaw within ourselves. We discussed how shame thrives on secrecy, silence, and judgment,...
info_outlineIn this episode, I am sharing some takeaways from a book I am reading on resiliency. The book is called “The 5 Practices of Highly Resilient People”, by Dr. Taryn Marie Stejskal, and I am only part way through and the concept is so freaking powerful. It starts with asking yourself “what story would people think I was crazy, if they knew about me?” That is the vulnerability story that builds resistance and also builds resiliency.
In today’s episode we discuss:
1) The practice of vulnerability is a foundational piece of resilience. To allow yourself to be vulnerable is to allow your inside self, your doubts, fears, insecurities and your authentic self to be seen by the outside world. Can you allow it to be consistent, aka, the same person? When it is the same person that the world sees, this is called congruence, so the practice of vulnerability is a lifelong practice of letting our inner and outer world be congruent with each other.
2) The more congruent we can be, the more we can actually handle hard times of challenge without burning up a ton of energy trying to do or be something that we are not.
3) There are 3 main fears that people experience with vulnerability, and Dr. Taryn calls this Vulnerability Bias, and it is the fear that if we let people see our true authentic selves, they will not like us; they might not love us; or they might leave us. This keeps us in a cage that we are in by choice, holding the key and not allowing ourselves out of. Vulnerability has the ability to be a strength and a superpower, instead of a weakness. That is how it becomes a pillar of resiliency and a muscle we are continuously building.
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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — NLP Storytelling Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Podcaster
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of “When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a parent who dealt with teen substance abuse that tore her family unit apart. Marsha has been published 7xs, most recently with her co-platform, Every Body Holds A Story, and she is on a mission to continue to help women and men to speak, share and publish their stories.
Through her tools, OUTSPOKEN NLP certification, programs, coaching, and podcast, Marsha teaches the power of Radical Responsibility and Owning Your Choices in your own life. She empowers people how to heal and own their stories, be conscious leaders and build platform businesses that create massive impact.