Break Free From Limiting Beliefs (with Yvonne Trost)
Release Date: 05/04/2025
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info_outlineLimiting beliefs are the invisible walls we build before we're even old enough to know we're building them, and my guest, happiness coach Yvonne Trost, found hers out the hard way: in an actual apartment fire that took everything she owned.
Yvonne is the co-founder of Limitless You, and she's lived the both/and of coaching: a devastating apartment fire, a marriage that turned mentally and physically abusive until her seven-year-old asked her to get a new daddy, and a corporate career that paid the bills and drained her soul. She walks us through her three-step framework (realize, recode, rewrite), the neuroscience behind why your imagination beats logic every time, and why she rewrote Einstein's equation for her clients: mindful thinking, raised to the power of compassion and curiosity.
You'll leave with her favorite tool for flipping "what if" into "why not," and a reminder that the fear keeping you safe is usually the thing keeping you stuck.
Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8J1JIkNmETs
In this episode
- Why an apartment fire that took everything became the moment Yvonne started asking "is this happening for me, not to me"
- The warning signs she lived through before finally leaving an abusive marriage, and what her seven-year-old said that made her act
- The "realize, recode, rewrite" framework Yvonne uses to help clients find and change subconscious limiting beliefs
- Why your imagination beats logic every time, and how to use that instead of fighting it
- The simple mindset shift, "what if" to "why not", that stops fear of the unknown from keeping you small
- Why self-health isn't selfish, and how avoiding your own needs teaches the people you love to avoid theirs
Timestamps
- (00:01) Welcome and meet happiness coach Yvonne Trost
- (02:24) The apartment fire that took everything, and the lesson buried in it
- (04:49) Leaving an abusive marriage: "Mommy, can you get me a new daddy?"
- (07:06) Desperation vs. inspiration: what actually pushes people to change
- (08:53) Why she named her company Limitless You
- (11:39) Her Einstein-inspired formula: mindful thinking raised to the power of compassion and curiosity
- (16:17) The fear of the unknown, and why it keeps us small while feeling safe
- (20:25) Locus of control: why looking outside yourself increases anxiety
- (22:38) The realize-recode-rewrite framework and how hypnotherapy fits in
- (25:37) Why your imagination beats logic every time
- (27:25) Shifting from "what if" to "why not"
- (31:26) Neuroplasticity: rewiring the negative story
- (33:08) Where to find Yvonne's website and free resources
About Yvonne Trost
Yvonne Trost is the co-founder and happiness coach at Limitless You, where she blends neuroscience, quantum physics, and hypnotherapy to help people break free from conscious and subconscious limiting beliefs. She is a divorced mom of two who has walked away from both an unfulfilling marriage and a career that didn't fit, and now helps others make the same kind of transformation.
Learn more at Yvonne's website, or connect with her on LinkedIn.
Favorite quotes
"The fear of the unknown keeps us small, but we believe it keeps us safe." —Yvonne Trost
"Your imagination will beat logic every single time." —Yvonne Trost
"Self-health is not selfish." —Yvonne Trost
Resources mentioned
- Limitless You: Yvonne's website, home to her free resources including a locus-of-control quiz and the "limiting belief lie detector" tool she mentions in the episode
- Limitless Life: Yvonne's five-week program for reclaiming the power of your imagination
- Yvonne Trost on LinkedIn
Related episodes
- Your Logical vs. Subconscious Mind: Who's Really in Control?: digs deeper into the subconscious-mind territory Yvonne's realize-recode-rewrite framework works in.
- The Power of Intuition in Personal Growth: another angle on trusting what's underneath the fear when you're deciding what comes next.
- Surviving Toxic Relationships: Interview with Shannon Petrovich: pairs with Yvonne's story of leaving an abusive marriage.
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