605 Poly change management
Polyamory Weekly
How do you handle change in a #poly relationship? Moving, job loss, partner loss, kids, death, health changes, and lifestyle changes can be difficult to navigate.
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603 PolyPhilia
Polyamory Weekly
Leanne is a bisexual, autistic, Asian poly polyamory educator, influencer, comedian, blogger, community mentor, and founder of Poly Philia, the largest page dedicated to non-monogamy education in the UK.
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603 Welcome to Kinkyville
Polyamory Weekly
Emily Blake and Gabriel Figueroa share their goal with their new animated sex ed series about polyamory and BDSM, Welcome to Kinkyville. Support their Kickstarter!
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602 Loving an addict
Polyamory Weekly
A listener falls in love with a relapsed, suicidal alcoholic and asks how to move forward when her husband hates this new relationship that makes her so happy.
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601 Shifting from hierarchy to equality
Polyamory Weekly
Feeling like she's forced to treat her boyfriend as second-class, a listener in a hierarchical polyamorous relationship with her nesting partner asks how to start the conversation about moving to a more egalitarian one.
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600 Polyamorous while Asian
Polyamory Weekly
We interview Michelle Hy is from Portland, Oregon. She runs the page Polyamorous While Asian, which seeks to normalize non-monogamy and polyamory through an intersectional lens and amplify the voices of other people of color.
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599 When to call it quits
Polyamory Weekly
Meagan is queer and married a cis man to fulfill family and societal expectations. She’s had mind-blowing sex with a new partner as is questioning her desire to stay in her marriage and be a wife. Meagan isn’t sure they can commit to the hierarchical poly their husband wants.
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598 My husband vetoed my partner
Polyamory Weekly
Mathias' husband vetoed Mathias' feelings for and non-threesome sex with his new partner. Should Mathias end his 13-year relationship or stay but resent his husbands' veto? Or can they move from their current relationship model to polyamory?
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597 I had the best s*x of my life with another guy
Polyamory Weekly
SAF's first poly experience outside her marriage was the best sex she's ever had. How does she address the ho-hum sex with her husband?
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596 How does poly in person look?
Polyamory Weekly
Two topics this week! What does post-pandemic poly look like, and how do you keep your boyfriend from surprising you with new poly partners when you've asked him for advance notice?
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0:00 Introduction and host chat
Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com
1:00 Intro and host chat
- Minx recorded an episode of D&D Dads podcast with J.R. Blackwell, but the podcast hasn’t yet launched. Stay tuned!
- We had fun in Copenhagen!
3:00 Poly in the news
- Polyamory Works for Them in the New York Times
- “TV’s Most Interesting Polyamorous Relationship,” says TV Guide about Siren
9:00 When love IS a zero-sum game
Listener Micah writes in to ask what to do now that his wife brought up the idea of poly, started dating someone half her age, and is now having much less sex with Micah.
- If we are painting a rosy, easy picture of poly, we need to change, because the emotional development required for polyamory (or any relationship) takes time and effort.
- Lusty Guy wonders about the use of the word “affair”—is this a reflection of your jealousy, or do you feel she wasn’t being honest?
- The issue is likely some preexisting issue in your relationship (perhaps the libido difference, perhaps something else). This sounds like “relationship broken, add more people.”
- To strengthen your relationship, have an honest conversation with your wife. Stop comparing before and after the metamour and start talking about the behaviors you want to see to feel better in your relationship. And ask for the same of her.
19:00 Happy poly moment
A monogamous listener writes in to share a happy not-poly moment about not panicking when her fiancé shared that he was attracted to a colleague, and our listener could accept it without jealousy or drama!
20:45 Feedback
- Soft Shell Crabby wrote in a follow up after we address her question in episode 574 Is it OK to ask to meet my metamour (spoiler: it helped, and they are better now!)
- Reama says some really nice things about the quality of our content.
23:40 Thank you!
Thanks to our new Poly Weekly Playmates, Mirjam, Syncione, Quinlan, and Melvin!
24:10 How to make this podcast better
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