605 Poly change management
Polyamory Weekly
How do you handle change in a #poly relationship? Moving, job loss, partner loss, kids, death, health changes, and lifestyle changes can be difficult to navigate.
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603 PolyPhilia
Polyamory Weekly
Leanne is a bisexual, autistic, Asian poly polyamory educator, influencer, comedian, blogger, community mentor, and founder of Poly Philia, the largest page dedicated to non-monogamy education in the UK.
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603 Welcome to Kinkyville
Polyamory Weekly
Emily Blake and Gabriel Figueroa share their goal with their new animated sex ed series about polyamory and BDSM, Welcome to Kinkyville. Support their Kickstarter!
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602 Loving an addict
Polyamory Weekly
A listener falls in love with a relapsed, suicidal alcoholic and asks how to move forward when her husband hates this new relationship that makes her so happy.
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601 Shifting from hierarchy to equality
Polyamory Weekly
Feeling like she's forced to treat her boyfriend as second-class, a listener in a hierarchical polyamorous relationship with her nesting partner asks how to start the conversation about moving to a more egalitarian one.
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600 Polyamorous while Asian
Polyamory Weekly
We interview Michelle Hy is from Portland, Oregon. She runs the page Polyamorous While Asian, which seeks to normalize non-monogamy and polyamory through an intersectional lens and amplify the voices of other people of color.
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599 When to call it quits
Polyamory Weekly
Meagan is queer and married a cis man to fulfill family and societal expectations. She’s had mind-blowing sex with a new partner as is questioning her desire to stay in her marriage and be a wife. Meagan isn’t sure they can commit to the hierarchical poly their husband wants.
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598 My husband vetoed my partner
Polyamory Weekly
Mathias' husband vetoed Mathias' feelings for and non-threesome sex with his new partner. Should Mathias end his 13-year relationship or stay but resent his husbands' veto? Or can they move from their current relationship model to polyamory?
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597 I had the best s*x of my life with another guy
Polyamory Weekly
SAF's first poly experience outside her marriage was the best sex she's ever had. How does she address the ho-hum sex with her husband?
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596 How does poly in person look?
Polyamory Weekly
Two topics this week! What does post-pandemic poly look like, and how do you keep your boyfriend from surprising you with new poly partners when you've asked him for advance notice?
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00:30 Introduction and host chat
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2:12 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner
The gap between people’s stated positions and what they actually vote for.
5:28 Contact us
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5:51 Interview: Dan and dawn on poly change management
Dan and dawn have been a lifestyle couple since 2001 and have presented at over 100 events around North America. Not only do they enjoy teaching workshops and classes, they also share via books, specialized events, and fun consent negotiation playing cards! They were last on Poly Weekly in 2014 on episode 400: Poly for introverts.
They are also the co-hosts of the Erotic Awakening Podcast, an educational show that explores “all things erotic” since 2011; co-founders of the Columbus Space, an alternative community center; 2016 MAsT International Member’s Choice Presenter of the Year Award winner; Great Lakes region title holders (2010); creators of the Scarlet Sanctuary and Path of the Qadishti (sacred sexuality spaces); featured educators on both Kink Academy and Creative Sexuality; and mentioned in a number of books, articles, and other media.
Poly change management
- Embrace the power of “I don’t know”
- Balance appreciating what you have with mourning the loss of a partner or lifestyle
- Understand that emotions happen
- Change is a type of loss. Don’t avoid that grief; lean in to it.
- Update your partner before your Facebook status
Find Dan and Dawn at Erotic Awakening, on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Find their polyamory toolkit here.
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27:15 Listener question
A listener writes in asking for advice on continuing a romantic relationship. She was poly but agreed to marry her now-husband P with the idea that they would open up the marriage later. She has a friend of seven years, J, with whom she recently connected and wants to pursue a romantic relationship. She is anxious every time J goes on a date with someone else, fearing he’ll dump her for someone who will be monogamous with him. How does she avoid getting hurt by love?
- You don’t. To love is to risk vulnerability. You minimize risk by minimizing joy and intimacy.
- Take the Buddhist approach: embrace love, accept the pain that comes with it.
- If you really want to minimize pain, have some difficult conversations. Where is P in all this? Does he support you? Talk through best and worst case scenarios with P and J.
35:25 Feedback
Herbalwise recommends the 2014 movie The One I Love as semi-poly-friendly.
36:25 Thank you!
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