596 How does poly in person look?

Two topics this week! What does post-pandemic poly look like, and how do you keep your boyfriend from surprising you with new partners when you've asked him not to?

0:00 Introduction and host chat

• If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
• We’re in top 20 podcasts about polyamory! https://blog.feedspot.com/polyamory_podcasts/
• Minx is fully vaccinated, pending 10 more day’s wait. A massage and travel are on the horizon!

3:15 Poly in the news

• 3500-word BBC article quoting Dossie Easton and great to show to relatives who think it’s just you: https://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2021/03/major-bbc-article-rise-of-multi-partner.html
• COVD and poly https://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2021/03/at-one-year-mark-polyamorys-many-sided.html

5:15 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner

Most white U.S. citizen don’t know about the MOVE bombing, in which when the Philadelphia Police Department bombed a residential home occupied by the militant black anarcho-primitivist group MOVE, and the Philadelphia Fire Department let the fire burn out of control. Five children and six adults were killed. More links:

• The Guardian’s article on reconciliation
• NPR’s recent coverage of losing the children’s bones
• Our take on the Chauvin verdict

14:15 Feedback

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15:00 Topic 1: How does poly in person look?

K started her poly journey during the pandemic and has only had socially distanced dates with her new partner. How do you act when you all get together in person so it’s not awkward?

20:45 Topic 2: My partner only tells me about new girlfriends after their dates

W is in a relationship with her husband and has a boyfriend, who is also married. He has repeatedly casually dropped that he was going to have an overnight with someone else on her last-minute. She has asked him for advance notice to process, but he continues to bring up his dates last-minute. She wants to know what her “recourse” is, and if she’s overreacting.

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28:20 Feedback

Matt from 593 shares an update! Emma ghosted him shortly after he sent it, but says, “While I didn't hear your advice now back then, I did essentially come to terms with a lot of what you said. I think you both were accurate with how you looked at things (as usual!) and with hindsight being (not gonna say it), it was tough for a while but I definitely got through it and am feeling good about a lot of things, minus the pandemic that happened since then and still continues. You are not however going lose a follower! You two are absolute gems and I appreciate so much the work that you both do as educators to so many different people. I love learning from you and I hope I continue to take a great appreciation for the awesome work you do. I hope that all is well and continues to be well for you.”

30:00 Thank you!

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