605 Poly change management
Polyamory Weekly
How do you handle change in a #poly relationship? Moving, job loss, partner loss, kids, death, health changes, and lifestyle changes can be difficult to navigate.
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603 PolyPhilia
Polyamory Weekly
Leanne is a bisexual, autistic, Asian poly polyamory educator, influencer, comedian, blogger, community mentor, and founder of Poly Philia, the largest page dedicated to non-monogamy education in the UK.
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603 Welcome to Kinkyville
Polyamory Weekly
Emily Blake and Gabriel Figueroa share their goal with their new animated sex ed series about polyamory and BDSM, Welcome to Kinkyville. Support their Kickstarter!
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602 Loving an addict
Polyamory Weekly
A listener falls in love with a relapsed, suicidal alcoholic and asks how to move forward when her husband hates this new relationship that makes her so happy.
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601 Shifting from hierarchy to equality
Polyamory Weekly
Feeling like she's forced to treat her boyfriend as second-class, a listener in a hierarchical polyamorous relationship with her nesting partner asks how to start the conversation about moving to a more egalitarian one.
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600 Polyamorous while Asian
Polyamory Weekly
We interview Michelle Hy is from Portland, Oregon. She runs the page Polyamorous While Asian, which seeks to normalize non-monogamy and polyamory through an intersectional lens and amplify the voices of other people of color.
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599 When to call it quits
Polyamory Weekly
Meagan is queer and married a cis man to fulfill family and societal expectations. She’s had mind-blowing sex with a new partner as is questioning her desire to stay in her marriage and be a wife. Meagan isn’t sure they can commit to the hierarchical poly their husband wants.
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598 My husband vetoed my partner
Polyamory Weekly
Mathias' husband vetoed Mathias' feelings for and non-threesome sex with his new partner. Should Mathias end his 13-year relationship or stay but resent his husbands' veto? Or can they move from their current relationship model to polyamory?
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597 I had the best s*x of my life with another guy
Polyamory Weekly
SAF's first poly experience outside her marriage was the best sex she's ever had. How does she address the ho-hum sex with her husband?
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596 How does poly in person look?
Polyamory Weekly
Two topics this week! What does post-pandemic poly look like, and how do you keep your boyfriend from surprising you with new poly partners when you've asked him for advance notice?
info_outlineWe interview a munch organizer and field audience questions at the Close In munch in Portland, Oregon
0:00 Introduction and host chat
- If you’re under 18, visit scarletteen.com
- We’re at the Close In munch in Portland, Oregon!
2:00 Interview with Close In munch organizer Hannah
Lessons learned include:
- poly and kinky people are everywhere
- it’s important to destigmatize a stigmatized group
- “Square up; what you want is fine; fuck ‘em all!”
9:00 Poly Weekly live!
- What advice would you give to solo polys?
- 12:45 How to come out to folks who aren’t familiar with poly?
- Anticipate questions, be prepared, be calm, don’t take it personally, give them a year to freak out
- Folks will match your tone, so adopt one of calm, easy compassion
- 16:00 How has poly changed in the last 14 years?
- 17:45 And now there are terms for everything!
- my Poly Living keynote How Polyamory Became More Mainstream Than Peanut Butter
- all the poly recommended reading
- 19:05 How do I bring up the birth control discussion?
- Be brave and bring it up. Or leave a birth control pamphlet in the toilet for leisure reading! J
- Use regular relationship check ins as a space to bring up any issues
- 22:15 What is your take on hierarchies?
- If it works for everyone involved and it’s transparent, fine. But it doesn’t work for everyone (or me).
- The challenge with hierarchies is that it sets up a permission model.
- Be aware if you are talking about power structure or entanglement levels? If the latter, “nesting partner” might be more useful than “primary.”
- 26:15 My mom thinks my polyamory is a phase. Do you know folks who have lived out their lives as poly?
- Allena Gabosch, Oberon Zell-Ravenhart, and many others.
- Just as with child-rearing, having an extended network to help you in your old age is valuable.
31:15 Contact us
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email [email protected] and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email [email protected].
32:00 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors
Thanks to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.