605 Poly change management
Polyamory Weekly
How do you handle change in a #poly relationship? Moving, job loss, partner loss, kids, death, health changes, and lifestyle changes can be difficult to navigate.
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603 PolyPhilia
Polyamory Weekly
Leanne is a bisexual, autistic, Asian poly polyamory educator, influencer, comedian, blogger, community mentor, and founder of Poly Philia, the largest page dedicated to non-monogamy education in the UK.
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603 Welcome to Kinkyville
Polyamory Weekly
Emily Blake and Gabriel Figueroa share their goal with their new animated sex ed series about polyamory and BDSM, Welcome to Kinkyville. Support their Kickstarter!
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602 Loving an addict
Polyamory Weekly
A listener falls in love with a relapsed, suicidal alcoholic and asks how to move forward when her husband hates this new relationship that makes her so happy.
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601 Shifting from hierarchy to equality
Polyamory Weekly
Feeling like she's forced to treat her boyfriend as second-class, a listener in a hierarchical polyamorous relationship with her nesting partner asks how to start the conversation about moving to a more egalitarian one.
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600 Polyamorous while Asian
Polyamory Weekly
We interview Michelle Hy is from Portland, Oregon. She runs the page Polyamorous While Asian, which seeks to normalize non-monogamy and polyamory through an intersectional lens and amplify the voices of other people of color.
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599 When to call it quits
Polyamory Weekly
Meagan is queer and married a cis man to fulfill family and societal expectations. She’s had mind-blowing sex with a new partner as is questioning her desire to stay in her marriage and be a wife. Meagan isn’t sure they can commit to the hierarchical poly their husband wants.
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598 My husband vetoed my partner
Polyamory Weekly
Mathias' husband vetoed Mathias' feelings for and non-threesome sex with his new partner. Should Mathias end his 13-year relationship or stay but resent his husbands' veto? Or can they move from their current relationship model to polyamory?
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597 I had the best s*x of my life with another guy
Polyamory Weekly
SAF's first poly experience outside her marriage was the best sex she's ever had. How does she address the ho-hum sex with her husband?
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596 How does poly in person look?
Polyamory Weekly
Two topics this week! What does post-pandemic poly look like, and how do you keep your boyfriend from surprising you with new poly partners when you've asked him for advance notice?
info_outlineHow do we practice poly responsibly during a pandemic? Is it OK to move my metamour in with me rather than not see her for the duration of enforced social isolation?
0:00 Introduction and host chat
- If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
- Found a new poly podcast, Pod Pod Cvlt Cast, with 34 long episodes!
- We’ve got a new puppy to keep us company during #stayathome!
3:00 Poly in the news
- Elisabeth Sheff’s four-part series on monogamy in Psychology Today: CNM is not a good choice as a method to fix a relationship that is broken, Four tips for heteroflexible couples who are considering opening their relationships, Three reasons why consensual non-monogamy will not work for people who are monogamous, and her latest, Monogamy by Orientation.
- Alan’s Friday Poly in the news roundup, covering primarily the coronavirus pandemic.
- Minx’s advice
- Use Zoom or Amazon Chime to host a virtual dance party or cocktail hour to stay connected
- Use your webcam to see facial expressions
- Try watching movies “together” over Zoom. Or send dinner to them and Zoom each other to chat during!
10:45 Contact us
Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email [email protected] and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. If you want us to teach a class at your event, want us to coach you, or want to appear on the podcast, email [email protected].
11:25 Topic: should we move my metamour in with us while we socially isolate?
If you’re considering cohabitation that you wouldn’t have considered due to coronavirus social isolation requirements, some advice:
- As always, make sure your existing relationships are relatively healthy first.
- Ask everyone involved what they need to be happy and healthy in a communal space. Consider personal space, alone time, sexual, and physical needs.
- Discuss how finances will work in terms of rent, groceries, and other bills.
- Discuss expectations for chores and other responsibilities.
- Ask your kids how they feel about your metamour moving in.
- Have the pets been introduced? Is there a danger that they might attack each other?
- Set up regular check-ins after the move-in. These provide opportunities to bring up what it working well, what isn’t, to express gratitude and appreciations, and to bring up issues before they become bigger.
- Take a break from news coverage if it increases anxiety or feelings of depression.
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17: 05 Feedback
- S from the Boston area calls in to share a personal neologism, “schmeeling.”
- Phenom calls in to ask how to get her partner to date more and make sure everything is OK. She keeps encouraging him to date, but he’s not getting out as much as her.
- There is no issue here except that maybe you feel guilty. Deal with your own guilt and stop pressuring him to date!
24:45 Pervy bird throuple
Oops! Accidentally skipped this one: Perverted Illinois bald eagle threesome threatens sanctity of marriage. What’s next, hawk orgies?
26:00 Happy poly moment
Finding unexpected commonalities with your metamour!
28:45 Thank you to our subscribers and contributors
Thanks to all our PW Playmates! Also to Pacemaker Jane for letting us use their song Good Suspicions as our intro and outro music and to you for listening and sharing.