605 Poly change management
Polyamory Weekly
How do you handle change in a #poly relationship? Moving, job loss, partner loss, kids, death, health changes, and lifestyle changes can be difficult to navigate.
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603 PolyPhilia
Polyamory Weekly
Leanne is a bisexual, autistic, Asian poly polyamory educator, influencer, comedian, blogger, community mentor, and founder of Poly Philia, the largest page dedicated to non-monogamy education in the UK.
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603 Welcome to Kinkyville
Polyamory Weekly
Emily Blake and Gabriel Figueroa share their goal with their new animated sex ed series about polyamory and BDSM, Welcome to Kinkyville. Support their Kickstarter!
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602 Loving an addict
Polyamory Weekly
A listener falls in love with a relapsed, suicidal alcoholic and asks how to move forward when her husband hates this new relationship that makes her so happy.
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601 Shifting from hierarchy to equality
Polyamory Weekly
Feeling like she's forced to treat her boyfriend as second-class, a listener in a hierarchical polyamorous relationship with her nesting partner asks how to start the conversation about moving to a more egalitarian one.
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600 Polyamorous while Asian
Polyamory Weekly
We interview Michelle Hy is from Portland, Oregon. She runs the page Polyamorous While Asian, which seeks to normalize non-monogamy and polyamory through an intersectional lens and amplify the voices of other people of color.
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599 When to call it quits
Polyamory Weekly
Meagan is queer and married a cis man to fulfill family and societal expectations. She’s had mind-blowing sex with a new partner as is questioning her desire to stay in her marriage and be a wife. Meagan isn’t sure they can commit to the hierarchical poly their husband wants.
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598 My husband vetoed my partner
Polyamory Weekly
Mathias' husband vetoed Mathias' feelings for and non-threesome sex with his new partner. Should Mathias end his 13-year relationship or stay but resent his husbands' veto? Or can they move from their current relationship model to polyamory?
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597 I had the best s*x of my life with another guy
Polyamory Weekly
SAF's first poly experience outside her marriage was the best sex she's ever had. How does she address the ho-hum sex with her husband?
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596 How does poly in person look?
Polyamory Weekly
Two topics this week! What does post-pandemic poly look like, and how do you keep your boyfriend from surprising you with new poly partners when you've asked him for advance notice?
info_outlineMatt writes in to ask what to do after a partner asks to be platonic while she figures things out. Lusty Guy and Minx give advice.
0:00 Introduction and host chat
- If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
- Let’s talk about snow and the polar vortex. Seattle snow was fun for us and our puppy, but Minx was worried about her family in Texas.
4:30 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner
- We all learned about the pilgrims founding America to enjoy religious tolerance, but it’s not true. They decamped England and went to Amsterdam and then Leiden, where they faced no religious persecution. They stayed there for 10 years and ran for office in order to try to impose their religious views on everyone else. They weren’t fleeing religious persecution; they wanted to establish it. Smithsonian Magazine reference, the pilgrims’ time in Holland
- A primary reason the US government forbade membership in a specific church to run for office was because no one could agree on which church that should be. Want to find out more? Watch Stephen Fry in America or read the book.
9:45 Feedback
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10:15 How do you handle a relationship going platonic?
Matt had a preexisting relationship with A.J., and Emma fell into that relationship. Emma realizes she needs to spend time on herself and wants to shift the relationship to a platonic friendship.
- Minx suggests seeing this as unrequited love and treating the shift in the nature of the relationship as a breakup.
- Lusty Guy also suggests taking time apart to do that healing from the breakup. He’s also concerned that Matt might have a white knight or “nice guy” syndrome and be wishing for a transactional nature to the relationship.
- Consider that waiting for her sounds a lot like wanting to change her, so do take the time to heal and put yourself first instead.
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22:15 Feedback
This week’s feedback is an appreciation of Lusty Guy’s politics corner.
23:15 Happy Poly Moment
R wrote in to share that she uses Poly Weekly to redirect her anxiety. She expected to be anxious when her partner asked to bring a date over to their place for the first time, and she was pleased when she discovered it didn’t kick off her anxiety. She believes she can be healthy and poly!
25:15 Shout out
Shout out to Jenn and Catherine with love from Tammy on their three-year anniversary!
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