605 Poly change management
Polyamory Weekly
How do you handle change in a #poly relationship? Moving, job loss, partner loss, kids, death, health changes, and lifestyle changes can be difficult to navigate.
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603 PolyPhilia
Polyamory Weekly
Leanne is a bisexual, autistic, Asian poly polyamory educator, influencer, comedian, blogger, community mentor, and founder of Poly Philia, the largest page dedicated to non-monogamy education in the UK.
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603 Welcome to Kinkyville
Polyamory Weekly
Emily Blake and Gabriel Figueroa share their goal with their new animated sex ed series about polyamory and BDSM, Welcome to Kinkyville. Support their Kickstarter!
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602 Loving an addict
Polyamory Weekly
A listener falls in love with a relapsed, suicidal alcoholic and asks how to move forward when her husband hates this new relationship that makes her so happy.
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601 Shifting from hierarchy to equality
Polyamory Weekly
Feeling like she's forced to treat her boyfriend as second-class, a listener in a hierarchical polyamorous relationship with her nesting partner asks how to start the conversation about moving to a more egalitarian one.
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600 Polyamorous while Asian
Polyamory Weekly
We interview Michelle Hy is from Portland, Oregon. She runs the page Polyamorous While Asian, which seeks to normalize non-monogamy and polyamory through an intersectional lens and amplify the voices of other people of color.
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599 When to call it quits
Polyamory Weekly
Meagan is queer and married a cis man to fulfill family and societal expectations. She’s had mind-blowing sex with a new partner as is questioning her desire to stay in her marriage and be a wife. Meagan isn’t sure they can commit to the hierarchical poly their husband wants.
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598 My husband vetoed my partner
Polyamory Weekly
Mathias' husband vetoed Mathias' feelings for and non-threesome sex with his new partner. Should Mathias end his 13-year relationship or stay but resent his husbands' veto? Or can they move from their current relationship model to polyamory?
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597 I had the best s*x of my life with another guy
Polyamory Weekly
SAF's first poly experience outside her marriage was the best sex she's ever had. How does she address the ho-hum sex with her husband?
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596 How does poly in person look?
Polyamory Weekly
Two topics this week! What does post-pandemic poly look like, and how do you keep your boyfriend from surprising you with new poly partners when you've asked him for advance notice?
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0:00 Introduction and host chat
- If you’re under 18, visit scarleteen.com
- Thanks to L for taking the dog so we could record! And forgive Baloo saying hello a few times in the episode. J
- D asked for our poly pet peeves, so here they are:
- Sex negativity in the poly community. Nothing wrong if it IS all about the sex!
- Folks who describe polyamory as “more evolved.”
- Poly gatekeepers.
8:30 Poly in the news
Three best poly 101 articles: https://polyinthemedia.blogspot.com/2021/03/the-3-best-poly-101-articles-to-share.html
10:00 Lusty Guy’s Politics Corner
We all need to listen to BIPOC voices with respect to U.S. history. Watch the Netflix series Amend: The Fight for America, executive produced and hosted by Will Smith.
14:30 Feedback
If you have questions, comments, or feedback call 802-505-POLY or email [email protected] and attach an MP3 file with your questions. To book us or anything that involves a calendar, email [email protected].
15:00 Topic: is it OK to not want to hear my partner having sex with someone else?
E and her partner of two years are moving in together but concerned about hearing metamour sex and having private space. She asks if being completely okay with hearing one’s partner getting down with a meta a pre-requisite for being good nesting partners? What are your thoughts on ways to progress to this point of compersion/okay-ness?
- Don’t borrow trouble. You don’t know how you’ll react, and your actual reaction will probably be different, anyway.
- If it turns out that you don’t, own your shit. It’s your issue to address, not your partner’s.
- What would monogamists do? When monogamists are concerned about living together, they do test runs--a weekend away, a week or two vacation—to experiment with domesticity.
- It’s a two-way door decision: if you don’t like it, you can go back to living apart.
26:50 Join the conversation
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27:15 Feedback
Mica encourages us and you to continue the hard work of being allies to BIPOC.
30:00 Happy poly moment
Gigi writes in with a happy poly moment about community. Even though her local meetup hadn’t met since February, she wanted to build community by giving back and adopted a family for the holidays. The group jumped at the chance, got every item on the family’s list, including four bikes, and more! A great demonstration of building community by giving back.
32:15 Thank you!
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