234. HeartShare: Asking for What You Want and Need
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Release Date: 04/15/2025
261. HeartShare: Love is a Verb, Not a Possession
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In this solocast I talk about how love is a verb, it is in our actions. Possessiveness is usually guised in what people believe love is or in their ways they love. So we need to choose loving action over control. The idea that love is a verb emphasizes that love isn’t primarily a passive feeling, emotion, or static “thing” you fall into or possess. Instead it’s an active practice; a series of deliberate actions, choices, and behaviors you engage in daily. Possessiveness often shows up in jealousy, monitoring, restricting freedoms, emotional manipulation to name a few and it can...
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260. Blame Shifting and Deflection
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Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage and bodywork therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about a common but damaging pattern blame shifting and deflection. This repeated pattern creates a “blame game” or a criticize-defend cycle, where real issues never get solved. It builds resentment, reduces emotional safety, and can lead to one or both partners to walk on eggshells. Everyone deflects occasionally under...
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259. Can A Relationship Survive an Affair?
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Lora Cheadle is a betrayal recovery coach, TEDx speaker, attorney, and author who helps individuals heal from infidelity and relationship betrayal on emotional, legal, and spiritual levels. A former attorney turned coach, she blends trauma-informed guidance, somatic attachment therapy, hypnotherapy, and intuitive insight to support both betrayed and betraying partners in rebuilding self-trust, repairing relationships, and living with integrity. Lora believes betrayal can be a sacred initiation—an opportunity to uncover the truth, reclaim sovereignty, and create a life rooted in deep...
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258. Moving Through the Pain of Disconnection to Connection
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Dan Hadley is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) with over 36 years of clinical experience. Throughout his career, he has worked with a variety of therapeutic approaches, including Gestalt, psychodynamic, and systems-based therapies. He has practiced in diverse settings and worked with clients ranging from adolescents to adults. Dan’s primary focus has always been on relationships—how we navigate both the challenges and strengths within them, move through periods of connection and disconnection, and develop healthier ways of relating to ourselves and others. He has 3 daughters...
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257. Managing Stress Together: My Wife’s and My Account of Coping With a Recent Incident of Stress
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Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Rainbow is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. She also helps women transform through voice-empowering workshops, and she co-facilitates couples retreats and workshops with me. Stress can negatively affects both partners’ well-being and relationships, often leading to increased arguments, decreased intimacy,...
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256. (Re-Air ep.13) Heartshare: The Art of Apology
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When was the last time you said ‘I’m sorry’ and truly meant it? It is often easy to say the words, but to truly feel sorry - to be vulnerable, take accountability, and try to change a bad behavior or habit - it can often prove more difficult. We tend to say ‘I am sorry’ when we feel embarrassed about mistakes or trying to appease another person. The art of apologizing is a critical skill we must learn in order to build deep, meaningful relationship with those around us. And while we often try to avoid conflict in our day-to-day lives - especially with those closest to us - it’s...
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255. HeartShare: Stop Trying to Win in Your Relationship and Allow More Influence From the Person You Love
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In this solocast I talk about allowing and accepting influence from your partner is one of the most powerful yet underappreciated ingredients in building a strong, lasting committed relationship. Couples who practice accepting influence experience; less gridlock, fewer escalating conflicts, greater emotional safety and trust, better co-parenting, and higher overall happiness and relationship satisfaction to name a few the positive benefits. I share practical ways to do this. Related Content: Other Podcast Episodes Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of ...
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254. Disillusionment and Egolessness in Love
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Jared Hinton M.A, M.A.T, LCMHC is a psychotherapist in private practice in Asheville, NC. Jared is a husband, father, and a person in long-term recovery. His work focuses on helping individuals and couples heal from patterns of ancestral, familial, and relational trauma. Jared is a graduate of Naropa University's Contemplative and Buddhist Psychology program and a student of the Appalachian Gestalt Institute in Asheville. In this episode, Jared and I discuss how these two experiences often arrive together in long-term intimate relationships, especially after the initial romantic...
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253. How to Help Your Relationship Survive a Home Remodel
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In this episode, Chris Ehardt and I discuss his experience of going through a home remodel for 4 years with his wife. Chris discusses the many factors that enabled he and his wife to navigate through trial and error to stay connected, respectful and loving through their home remodel. We identify and discuss such areas as communication, shared goals, negotiating and compromising skills, patience, celebration and realistic expectation as areas of importance. Chris Ehardt is a builder and electrician who’s been remodeling a rundown house for 4 years with his wife. He’s born in Chicago and...
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252. Overcoming the Fear of Confrontation
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Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about the fear of confrontation. Most people aren’t comfortable confronting others. That’s normal. But if you avoid speaking up about your own needs that can lead to self judgement, inauthenticity and people pleasing. Although confrontation can be stressful, conflict can even be beneficial; if you handle it the right way, it can...
info_outlineIn this solocast I talk about asking for what we want and need in our relationships. It can be tricky, but it’s about clear communication and mutual respect. It’s also about building a dynamic where both of you feel safe, heard, and willing to stretch for each other. The deep wants always have a “root,” and it is very good to identify it. So, what’s the toughest thing you’ve held back from asking?
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