146 - Patricia shares what can happen if you take ALL of the suggestions given to you while in treatment - 7 months of QUALITY SOBRIETY!
Release Date: 07/02/2020
Real Recovery Talk
Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? If it’s Christmas Eve and you’re lying awake right now, worried about your child, this episode is for you. While the rest of the world seems to be celebrating, many parents are quietly carrying fear, guilt, and exhaustion—wondering where their son or daughter is, if they’re safe, or if things will ever change. In this solo episode, I speak directly to parents who are struggling tonight. We talk about why Christmas Eve can feel heavier than any other night, the lies fear tells us when things get quiet, and what...
info_outlineReal Recovery Talk
Have someone in your life struggling with addiction? DO NOT MISS THIS! Free webclass: 5 MISTAKES FAMILIES MAKE WHEN TRYING TO HELP A LOVED ONE STRUGGLING WITH ADDICTION In this powerful episode of Real Recovery Talk, we sit down with Ricki Santiago, a licensed clinician who opens up about his own experience growing up with an alcoholic mother—and how that trauma shaped his entire life. Before he was a therapist helping others heal… he was a kid watching his mom drink herself into the grave. Join our SKOOL Group: Join our Big Book Study! Tom IG: Ben IG: RRT IG:...
info_outlineReal Recovery Talk
Have someone in your life struggling with addiction? DO NOT MISS THIS! Free webclass: 5 MISTAKES FAMILIES MAKE WHEN TRYING TO HELP A LOVED ONE STRUGGLING WITH ADDICTION In today’s episode, we break down the difference between true narcissism and the narcissistic behaviors that show up during addiction. These can look identical — manipulation, gaslighting, lack of empathy, emotional abuse — but the root cause is often very different. Join our SKOOL Group: Join our Big Book Study! Tom IG: Ben IG: RRT IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalkpodcast/
info_outlineReal Recovery Talk
Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? Join Our FREE WEBINAR! In today’s conversation, Hilary shares one of the most powerful trauma stories we’ve ever had on the podcast. Before addiction ever entered her life, trauma did. From growing up in chaos… to being pushed into acting at five years old… to living in fear, shame, and survival mode — her story explains EXACTLY why so many addicts and alcoholics struggle the way they do. Join our SKOOL Group: Join our Big Book Study! Tom IG: Ben IG: RRT IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalkpodcast/
info_outlineReal Recovery Talk
Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? Join Our FREE WEBINAR! HAPPY THANKSGIVING! I wanted to come on and share my gratitude for ALL OF YOU! Join our SKOOL Group: Join our Big Book Study!
info_outlineReal Recovery Talk
Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? Join Our FREE WEBINAR! Getting into a relationship in early recovery can feel amazing… until it quietly becomes the thing that takes you out. In this episode, we talk honestly about why early-recovery relationships are so intense, why they so often end badly, and what actually makes a relationship healthy in long-term sobriety. And we finally share something big with the Real Recovery Talk family: Ben and Destiny are in a committed relationship now. 🎙❤️ We use their story as a real-life example of what can work in...
info_outlineReal Recovery Talk
Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? Join Our FREE WEBINAR! Learn how you can stop focusing on your addict loved one and RECLAIM your life back! Join our SKOOL Group: MindPump Media: Join our Big Book Study! Tom IG: Ben IG: RRT IG: https://www.instagram.com/realrecoverytalkpodcast/
info_outlineReal Recovery Talk
Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? J oin Our FREE WEBINAR! A lot of people think if they haven’t gotten sober by 40, it’s too late. That the damage is done. The truth? It’s not too late — but it is different. In this episode, we break down what it really takes to get sober after 40. From rebuilding your health and relationships to rediscovering your purpose, this conversation is raw, practical, and full of hope. We talk about how to stop comparing your journey to everyone else’s, how to get your body and mind back after years of neglect, and how faith...
info_outlineReal Recovery Talk
Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? Join Our FREE WEBINAR! When your own dad struggles with addiction, it changes everything. In this episode, Omar shares the painful truth about growing up with an alcoholic father — the fear, the confusion, and the faith that eventually brought healing. We talk about what addiction does to families, how faith can transform even the darkest situations, and why true recovery goes far beyond just “getting sober.” Omar opens up about his father’s alcoholism, his mother’s strength, and how God used all of it to shape...
info_outlineReal Recovery Talk
Do you have a family member/loved one struggling with addiction? Join Our FREE WEBINAR! When Rachel was adopted as a baby, she didn’t understand why she felt so different. By age 12, she was already using drugs — searching for a sense of belonging she never felt. For the next 26 years, addiction took everything from her — her health, her peace, her identity. But through it all, she discovered a truth that changed everything In this episode, Rachel shares her powerful story of addiction, adoption, and redemption — from childhood confusion and rebellion to finally finding purpose,...
info_outline“When I started coming to meetings, I actually saw freedom in people’s faces, and in the way they spoke, they were just really happy! And I wanted that, you know? It gave me a whole new perspective.” - Patricia
Ben and I are chatting with Patricia today. She is a very successful member of our community. Patricia took our suggestions and acted on them to become sober. Consuming her first drink at 12, Patricia decided she liked the feeling of drinking, trying to escape her feelings.
This process became a never-ending cycle, bringing fear into her life until she finally realized she couldn’t live the life she was living. She had several factors that led up to her eventual sober recovery. With her third DUI and recently breaking up with her boyfriend, Patricia started binge drinking for weeks on end, then stopped.
While binge drinking, she would pay for a motel, drink until she passed out, then wake up the next day and repeat the pattern again. She also held a job at a bloodwork lab during the day and worked 60+ hours per week.
Part of her knew if this behavior continued that she would die. Patricia realized she needed a change and wanted to do whatever she could to get back on the right path.
The first time she checked into treatment, she worked on her sobriety for a year-and-a-half. “I was stuck in a sort of a bubble, and I was so focused on my internship that I didn’t have time for anything else. When I got out of that, it was very much a culture shock for me. I didn’t have anything else to rely on besides my new husband, and life got very overwhelming for me, and I ended up in a motel room.” She didn’t have a clear path to fall back on when she was released from her prior treatment center and returned to drinking.
At Rock Recovery Center, we take a humanistic approach to recovery, teaching our clients how to live independently in a sober world. Many times, we don’t have to remove freedoms from our clients as they are going down the right path with guidance.
Check out my new website where you can download any episode right from my site along with other useful information for those in recovery.
- Share this podcast with a friend and leave us a review!
Show Notes:
- [03:35] Patricia is a star member of our sober community.
- [04:37] She tells of her story of spiraling downward into addiction.
- [06:04] Factors that led to her second attempt at treatment, including her third DUI.
- [08:40] What Patricia learned during her treatment at Rock Recovery Center.
- [10:40] How Patricia would deal with her previous life stressors running away.
- [13:53] Her daily schedule interning at her first treatment center.
- [16:50] Recovery happens outside of work, not inside of your workday.
- [19:45] Patricia realized that the choices she was going to make came down to her making the right decisions.
- [21:49] Treatment models that fail is because they do not give the opportunity to practice their new tools in treatment.
- [26:00] Providing the opportunity for yourself to do better.
- [27:28] Three suggestions given to Patricia to help her build a better life.
- [31:33] The challenges and reality of becoming sober.
- [34:48] Why rehab romance never works.
- [39:27] The pattern of romantic relationship development in rehab.
- [41:27] Thanks to Patricia for coming on the show. We are honored to witness her sobriety.
Episode Links and Resources