Sari Swears Podcast | Season 8, Ep. 14: How Secondary Trauma May Be Holding You Back with Special Guest, Coach K
Release Date: 12/12/2025
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Sari Swears Podcast | Season 8, Ep. 14: How Secondary Trauma May Be Holding You Back with Special Guest, Coach K
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Have you ever felt COMPLETELY drained by this work… even when everything is technically “going fine”? Not just tired, but heavy? That’s exactly what we’re talking about this week on Sari Swears and Coach K is back with me for this episode. We’re diving into secondary trauma — the kind you absorb from: 👉🏽 The cases 👉🏽 The injuries 👉🏽 The families 👉🏽 The devastation It doesn’t just affect your health… it can quietly limit your damages in the courtroom. If you’ve been feeling exhausted, disconnected, overwhelmed, or like you’re always just...
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info_outlineHave you ever felt COMPLETELY drained by this work… even when everything is technically “going fine”?
Not just tired, but heavy?
That’s exactly what we’re talking about this week on Sari Swears and Coach K is back with me for this episode.
We’re diving into secondary trauma — the kind you absorb from:
👉🏽 The cases
👉🏽 The injuries
👉🏽 The families
👉🏽 The devastation
It doesn’t just affect your health… it can quietly limit your damages in the courtroom.
If you’ve been feeling exhausted, disconnected, overwhelmed, or like you’re always just pushing through — this episode WILL hit home.
Tune in NOW! 🎧
Love,
Sari
Quote:
“Secondary trauma is when you take on trauma that didn’t happen to you directly. You absorb what your clients have gone through — the cases, the deaths, the injuries — and that weight really sits on you. Even though it didn’t happen to you, your body still carries it.”
Coach K
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