How to navigate a relationship (authentically) when your partner isn't 'witchy'

On the Secret Witch Show today, Nicole vulnerably addresses the common challenges that Secret Witches can face in romantic relationships - being our true selves when our partners are not ‘witchy’. Discussing the natural fear of judgement, shame and rejection - and how our ‘difference’ can feel like we are living “secret” lives, feeling lonely and disconnected and leaving us feeling unheard and unseen - she shares how to take tender steps to empower ourselves into liberating our authenticity. 

In this episode Nicole talks openly about her personal journey with childhood trauma and abusive relationships, exploring how embracing her true self helped transform her current partnership. She offers practical journaling prompts, advice on the inner work and answers listener questions on how to find alignment with partners, as well as sharing why ‘difference’ is actually crucial to union.  She also guides you into cultivating an inner safety to share your vulnerability, and how to work with self-healing (and self-validation) for deeper intimacy and connection.

What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

• As ‘witches’, we can often feel deeply fearful about being our authentic selves in our romantic relationship - bringing up the witch wound fear of being judged and abandoned - yet opening up to expressing ourselves doesn’t always have to obliterate our lives, and we can open to it tenderly, with small steps

• ‘Difference’ isn’t a bad thing - we actually need polarity in relationships, because that’s what creates union as we complement each other - so being a ‘witchy’, mysterious feminine essence being in a relationship with a logical masculine essence being may not actually be quite as bad as our inner little girl imagines

• Being our authentic selves is vital in deepening intimacy and connection in our relationships - and even attracting soul-aligned partners - even though it will likely feel deeply vulnerable

• We often need to cultivate a sense of ‘inner safety’ within ourselves first, welcoming our authentic ‘witch’ home to ourselves first - until it’s inevitable that no one can reject this part of ourselves (or if they do, we welcome this part of ourselves so deeply that this becomes okay)

• We can do this by beginning to do the inner work (such as working with archetypal remedies) to discover our wounding patterns and how they are contributing to us abandoning our authentic self - and by surrounding ourselves with likeminded souls until our expression starts to feel safe

• We don’t have to jump to boldly declaring our witch status - we might start small by sharing aspects of our witch, such as loving wild wanders or enjoying full moon rituals - tender steps and deep love for the parts of us that feel unsafe is the way.

Resources and things that we spoke about:

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• Resources:

• Adam Quiney episode: Ep 33 -How to Own the Gold of your Soul’s Essence - https://www.nicolebarton.co.uk/secret-witch-podcast/episode-33

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• Youtube Episode: https://youtu.be/5YutFXrBHYk

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Nicole and Team Secret Witch xox