What About Masturbation?

Today, we tackle the sensitive subject of masturbation. What does the Bible say about it? Why do Christians differ on their opinions? And how can we discern what's right for us?

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From the Bible

But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people. 1 Timothy 3:1–5 (not about masturbation, but a passage we discussed and worth reading in context for yourself)

“Everything is permissible for me,” but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible for me,” but I will not be mastered by anything. 1 Corinthians 6:12

“Everything is permissible,” but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible,” but not everything builds up. 1 Corinthians 10:23

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4–8a

If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them. James 4:17

Resources

• Solo Masturbation? | The Forgiven Wife
• Masturbation: Hands On or Hands Off? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Orgasms Make You Squeamish? It's OK To Explore Your Body • Bonny's Oysterbed7
• Episode 76: Listener Questions (includes "Is it sinful to figure out how to reach orgasm on your own so that you can show your husband what works?")
• Episode 124: Touching Yourself, Sex Just for Fun & Erectile Problems (Answering Listener Questions) (including touching yourself during sex)
• Two Wives & Candid Conversation about Masturbation - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Two Wives. Talking About Masturbation. – Intimacy in Marriage
• More Candid Conversation about Masturbation - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• More Masturbation Talk. From a Couple of Wives. – Intimacy in Marriage
• Episode 151: Q&A - Sex Tips, Fantasy, Refusing Sex & Elusive Orgasm (fantasizing during sex)
• How to Fantasize About Your Spouse - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• The Higher Desire Wife: Understanding and Help for Christian Women Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives by J. Parker (releases March 18, preorder now!)
• Episode 185: Women’s Freedom from Porn, with Juli Slattery & Joy Skarka
• Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy by Juli Slattery & Joy Skarka
• Joy Skarka – Creating Spaces to Set Christian Women Free from Porn and Sexual Shame
• Porn Addiction Help for Women | XXXchurch.com
• Help for Women Who Have a Sex Addiction - SAA
• SheRecovery.com | Pornography & Sexual Addiction Support for Women
• The Female Addict & Unraveled – Pure Desire Ministries
• Workshop Healing For Women - Bethesda Workshops
• L.I.F.E. Guide for Women: A Workbook for Women Seeking Recovery from Sexual Addiction by Marnie Ferree
• No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction by Marnie Ferree
• Love Sick: One Woman's Journey through Sexual Addiction by Sue William Silverman

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Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well:

Strong Wives - Bonny Burns
Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor
Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker